Parents won't let me spend my own money

[Guest]

Yeah. The title says it all. Any tips? I am totally a responsible person so that's not the reason. 

[Levent]

how old are you -10? because I am pretty sure you are not old enough to be "responsible" considering your post history.

[NumLock21]

4 minutes ago, Levent said:

how old are you -10? because I am pretty sure you dont sound old enough to be "responsible"

I'm sure some adults are just as immature as a 10 year olds, and shouldn't be allowed to spend their money either.

[Skiiwee29]

ummmm, yea no we cant help you... we're not your parents. 

[minibois]

Sit down and talk with them to find out why they won't let you spend your own money.

Keep in mind your parents likely out there to get the best for you, so they probably want your to save up your money or at least not spend it on (to them) useless crap.

If you want to spend your money on some thing, talk to them about why you want to spend it and why it is important to you. Parents often just don't understand what computers are (just assuming you want to get some PC parts or something, since that is usually what these types of threads are about).

 

But seriously, if you think you are responsible/old enough to spend your own money you should be in the position to have a conversation about them with that.

[Dedayog]

 

5 minutes ago, hiitswilliam said:

Yeah. The title says it all. Any tips? I am totally a responsible person so that's not the reason. 

You're a child, early teen at the oldest.  As a parent, I know we try to stop you from "wasting" your money on things you think you "need or the world will end".

 

I don't think you have issues spending money on little things, but they may stop you from blowing it all on a 2080Ti for example.

 

It's all relative.  

 

For starters, show you're responsible by stopping the troll posts you've done, and try to talk to adults in a semi-adult fashion.  The internet isn't your personal playground.  

[knightslugger]

Just now, Minibois said:

Parents often just don't understand what computers are

 

Today's parents of young children grew up in the late 80's and 90's. I think we understand what a computer is perfectly fine.

[Rupe]

1 minute ago, jstudrawa said:

but they may stop you from blowing it all on a 2080Ti for example

That would be one rich kid

[Dedayog]

Just now, PacketMan said:

I'm 22 now, and I totally understand your parents' point. I got a lot of money when I was a kid (birthdays, presents, etc) and my parents just got it all, just for my "bank account".

They have payed for all my studies, so once I finish I hope they finally give it to me (I know them, they don't need that money enough to steal it from me) so I'm not worried about it, and I'm old enough to manage my own money

What did you expected? It's not "really" YOUR money, you didn't really EARN it (presents and birthdays...?), what are you gonna do with that money? Spending the whole thing on a PC, or videogames? They don't really think you need the money, because it's not a need, and having money for your future is more important

If I could go back to my 20's and NOT spend the money I did back then, cuz I was making good money at the time (I thought).  I could totally us that $1500 I wasted on rim, now!

[Djole123]

12 minutes ago, Levent said:

how old are you -10? because I am pretty sure you are not old enough to be "responsible" considering your post history.

I did some pretty shitty things when I was like 12 on this forum

 

Oh God...

Why didn't i request this to be deleted?

[minibois]

Just now, knightslugger said:

Today's parents of young children grew up in the late 80's and 90's. I think we understand what a computer is perfectly fine.

Let me rephrase that.. They don't understand the ins and outs of PC's and get why you want a 200 to 500 USD GPU to add to your, in their words, 'perfectly working fine' computer.

So yes, they know what a computer is.. But not the exact details of what you're gonna be buying and that is what OP would need to explain to their parents.

 

But without knowing OP's parents, or the situation he is in; I just have to assume things and parents not understand what their children buy in terms of PC components is very common.

 

 

[NumLock21]

A parent will not go and waste money or let their child waste money on items, just for the purpose of playing video games. They will however, if your future college degree is, let's say engineering, and you need a really high-end computer. Then they will let you go ahead and get one.

 

[knightslugger]

5 minutes ago, Minibois said:

Let me rephrase that.. They don't understand the ins and outs of PC's and get why you want a 200 to 500 USD GPU to add to your, in their words, 'perfectly working fine' computer.

So yes, they know what a computer is.. But not the exact details of what you're gonna be buying and that is what OP would need to explain to their parents.

 

But without knowing OP's parents, or the situation he is in; I just have to assume things and parents not understand what their children buy in terms of PC components is very common.

 

 

The same can be said of any enthusiast level hobby. Automotive, rocketry, bicycling... If you are not discussing it with like-minded individuals... a lot is going to get lost in translation.

[SupaKomputa]

i see you are tempted to buy the latest i9 9900k, but your parents said you don't need that much power when a cheap Ryzen 2200g can game just as well since you already have a GTX1080ti that you bought without their permission in the first place.

[Rain7]

How much money are we talking about?

[minibois]

5 minutes ago, knightslugger said:

The same can be said of any enthusiast level hobby. Automotive, rocketry, bicycling...

Oh yeah, I agree fully! 

Not sure what in previous posts made it sound like I don't agree with that.. But I think every hobby/profession has a lot of intricate aspects to it that are not understood by those not in the loop.

 

It's just IMO important to make sure the person you are talking to and yourself are on the same page on why you are spending the money, which is why I suggested to OP to do that.

 

EDIT: oh and OP could also find out why his parents don't want him to spend the money which can give some closure.

[AngryBeaver]

20 minutes ago, hiitswilliam said:

Yeah. The title says it all. Any tips? I am totally a responsible person so that's not the reason. 

As you are a minor you can't technically own anything of value. It can be your possession, but control and ownership of it belongs to your parents until you are either 18 years of age or become an emancipated minor.

 

So technically they are not allowing you to spend THEIR money on a computer.

[Djole123]

Dear OP,

 

I signed up to the forums in 2015 with a little tiny 10 inch netbook. Do you know what kind of a success it was seeing it run Minecraft at 20FPS, after installing countless mods and killing off explorer in task manager? Yeah, that was at the time Skylake came out.

 

By your previous posts, I'm judging your parents don't want you spending money on tech, which is kind of what I was going through.

 

You should learn how to appreciate what you have instead of whining about what you do not. It truly makes you a better person.

[Velcade]

Move in with your Grandparents

[dizmo]

The title doesn't say it all, at all.

 

You need to provide context. What you want to use the money for. How much money. Why you think you need it. Where you got said money.

 

Didn't earn the money on your own? Well, then you're really SOL. They're your parents, they'll decide what's best for you and raise you as they see fit. Until you're an adult and can move out and make your own decisions, you're simply stuck with it. Welcome to life.

[Mira Yurizaki]

You claim you are responsible, but what sort of "responsible" things have you done? Do you pay bills on time? Do you pay for things you need like food? Do you have some excess amount of money by the time you're expected to be paid? If you've answered "no" to any of these, then there's no basis for you to claim you're responsible with your money. Granted I'll bite that one of those things are a little bit hard to do as a minor. But if you have no obligations to pay off yet, then it's still very hard to claim you're responsible.

 

If you're trying to buy nice new toys, then your parents are really doing you a favor by forcing you to think about if you really want it or not. If you can't practice patience with what you want to spend your money on, then you may end up living paycheck to paycheck and finding yourself with little financial independence once you're unable to work for some reason.

[knightslugger]

27 minutes ago, Minibois said:

Oh yeah, I agree fully! 

Not sure what in previous posts made it sound like I don't agree with that.. But I think every hobby/profession has a lot of intricate aspects to it that are not understood by those not in the loop.

 

It's just IMO important to make sure the person you are talking to and yourself are on the same page on why you are spending the money, which is why I suggested to OP to do that.

 

EDIT: oh and OP could also find out why his parents don't want him to spend the money which can give some closure.

Well I suppose that's what i'm getting at. This is a hobby. One where it can get retardedly expensive for fractions of a percent improvement in performance. I posit that those who are not directly responsible for their own well-being (paying for rent, utilities, groceries, car loans, etc) cannot possibly make good "responsible" financial decisions for enthusiast level hobbies. There is zero repercussion for making a bad financial decision at this stage of the OP's life.

 

Maybe that's why...

[trag1c]

Life is a cold cruel bitch. Get used to it.

 

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[Guest]

ok thanks guys!

[skunkmunkey]

I'm 32 and shouldn't be allowed to spend my own money! My parents were very relaxed about my money when young and let me blow it on whatever, it's not until now when I'm facing bankruptcy and struggling to keep a roof over my head that I've learned the responsibilities required. I'm sure they're only looking out for you and trying to stop you from becoming a 32 year old who's rather pathetically learning how to deal with stuff that should have been learned much younger (still not giving up my pcs or letting the receivers anywhere near them though)