If your parents take away your phone......they could face up to 6 months in jail!

[Tasuma]

My mom always took away my laptop or phone when I did poorly in school. When she did take away my phone, I just hung out with friends and never tried checking in. I also find out she went through my phone later on, this was because I got a C in a math class. Until she tried to take my laptop I saved up and paid for, at which point I kindly said "F off" and walked out of the room. We had a bad relationship whilst I was in high school but I digress. If the child PAID for it with their own money a parent shouldn't take it away. Even taking away a phone at this point in time is not a good idea and if you HAVE TOO, give them some crappy pre-paid or install apps to prevent texting/calling other numbers. 

[NumLock21]

1 hour ago, Trik'Stari said:

I still hate the sound it makes when my dad takes a belt off. I don't flinch or anything, but damn do I notice that sound.

That "click clank" noise.

[MarcoR]

If your parents are taking away your toys (especially when they foot your bills), theres probably a good enough reason that overrides whatever injustice you feel is being delivered towards you. 

It is a part of growing up. Build some trust with your parents, show that you earn whatever you ask for or spend your own money on. Show some responsibility, its really what your parents ultimately want to see from you. 

Too much misplaced anger towards parents around these parts, but it makes some sense. A lot of you just haven't crossed that point where your parents have developed enough faith in you to let you be, and those of us that have know that most of the time they know what they're talking about, but thats a mark of being mature and level headed about it. Not getting angry that you can't play Candy Crush and neglect your other responsibilities. 

[dalekphalm]

36 minutes ago, Tasuma said:

My mom always took away my laptop or phone when I did poorly in school. When she did take away my phone, I just hung out with friends and never tried checking in. I also find out she went through my phone later on, this was because I got a C in a math class. Until she tried to take my laptop I saved up and paid for, at which point I kindly said "F off" and walked out of the room. We had a bad relationship whilst I was in high school but I digress. If the child PAID for it with their own money a parent shouldn't take it away. Even taking away a phone at this point in time is not a good idea and if you HAVE TOO, give them some crappy pre-paid or install apps to prevent texting/calling other numbers. 

I don't agree with your main point. If a Child PAID for the item, then certainly, don't destroy or sell it. But the parent still has full right (in my opinion) to take away said items, until one of several conditions are met:

1. The child is old enough to move out (Eg: 16 or 17 years old and leaves home),
2. The child is 18+ - at that point, the child is old enough to not have their stuff taken away, but the parents should also be free to kick the child out at that point if they deem it necessary,
3. The child has been served the punishment, and the parent feels they have learned the lesson, and will now give back the item in question.

I do however agree with your last point - take away the phone, but give them a shitty dumb-phone or a locked down smartphone, for safety.

But it really doesn't matter if you PAID for the item. You're a minor, you live under their house, they provide you with food, shelter, clothing, education, etc. You live by their rules. If that's not good enough for you, then you move out into foster care or a relative (if young enough), or on your own to provide for yourself (if old enough). They have the right to punish you, and if that punishment includes TEMPORARILY taking away items you yourself bought - well so be it. The punishment should have even more effect, since it's something you probably care about more.

[eLucid]

1 hour ago, Tasuma said:

My mom always took away my laptop or phone when I did poorly in school. When she did take away my phone, I just hung out with friends and never tried checking in. I also find out she went through my phone later on, this was because I got a C in a math class. Until she tried to take my laptop I saved up and paid for, at which point I kindly said "F off" and walked out of the room. We had a bad relationship whilst I was in high school but I digress. If the child PAID for it with their own money a parent shouldn't take it away. Even taking away a phone at this point in time is not a good idea and if you HAVE TOO, give them some crappy pre-paid or install apps to prevent texting/calling other numbers. 

I'm genuinely curious here, how does one kindly say "fuck off"? If you were my child - you would've been sent to boarding school.

The moment I feel like I have to hit my child, that's the day they're out of the house. Enough said.

[dragosudeki]

2 hours ago, Tasuma said:

If the child PAID for it with their own money a parent shouldn't take it away.

Okay, so if the child pays for it, then it is fine? If I was the parent and I couldn't take their cellphone, I'd be kicking them out of the house. I mean, it would be my house since I'm paying for it. Of course this situation is more dire, but I'm just trying to show that paying for something does not give you entitlement to do whatever you want with it.

Unless of course, you are a child that is working for a living and making enough to support yourself, but that is impossible with labour laws.

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3 hours ago, suicidalfranco said:

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You sure? Okay, if you think you know anything, behind that display monitor of yours, regarding how i grew up, and to be noted, if i respect my father as best as i can and always had, and not another person very close to me, which had to hospitalized in a mental institute for 2 years, and was just as sain and smart as your own mother, which i hope you still have well, and you think you can judge me and how i react to the reality? Dude, go jump from mount everest for eternity with those comments, please. I didnt offended you earlier, and from what i can tell, the internet is the worst place to comment regarding others life, because your always wrong. Goodbye.

[dmegatool]

Kid users really are trying to defend their point against the adults/mature/parents users here... I like how LinusTechTips turned into ParentsTechTips. 

If you think the dad don't have the right to confiscate that phone, there's a lack of authority in your home. Sure if the kid paid for it, you don't keep it forever or sell it. But you totally have the right to educate your kid. What is it now, if your parents send you to your room, you charge them with False imprisonment ?

As a kid, I always understood the authority my parents had on me and now that I have a daughter, I think she understand too. She's only 7 so time will tell but I don't see that kind of behavior happening... Trust me, it won't haha. 

[MrRavens]

5 hours ago, Trik'Stari said:

Yeah, that's your problem not theirs. We live in a world with consequences, it's your parents duty to make you learn those consequences. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean they're wrong, it means you need to grow up.

Claiming "I don't learn from this kind of lesson" is complete bullshit. You understand what is trying to be taught, and you're just trying to come up with an excuse to get you out of learning a lesson that you don't like.

Hoooly shit dude! Chill! Now a days, people can't handle that much truth!

/s 

[Patrick Bateman]

thats dumb...they should be allowed to punish there annoying kids anyway

teens must be so attached to social media crap that they get there parents in jail for taking away there self phone for taking pointless self portraits

[MrRavens]

5 hours ago, Stupidtiggers said:

I mean, your not going to spank a 16 year old  Thats not what I was suggesting 

But if my 5 year old blatantly lies to my face about something there will be repercussions...

I agree, I find it ridiculous when parents try to reason with their kids, almost babies. Those little ones don't yet understand reason. But they do know that this punishment (ie: light pain) happens when I keep doing this action... so stop doing this action. When I was younger I got a slight pinch when I would try to climb the stove. However, obviously as I grew up and could understand things and reason, I realized I could get burned. You don't have to "knock" your kid out to explain it to them obviously,  but please don't resort to pleading with them. That's how they know who's really in control.

[AlTech]

5 hours ago, ALwin said:

Honestly in my opinion, I doubt I would buy my kid something like an iPhone (or Android) ever.  If my kid needs a phone, which I believe they should have one in case of emergencies to contact you or you to contact them I would buy them a non-smart phone.  They can buy a smart phone when they save up and buy one with their own cash.

My own childhood growing up, I didn't get my own phone until I was 20, when I had my own job and the fact that I didn't particularly care for having one until I needed it.  And I had to buy it myself, pay for the sim card and all the fees.

Please stop, for my sanity's sake.

 

5 hours ago, Trik'Stari said:

I was really hoping the mods, or @LinusTech himself would show up in here and say "hey, you brought this on yourself. Those are the consequences"

I didn't bring this upon myself. I was counting on mature people who thought like humans. Which goes to show most of you don't think like humans.

 

5 hours ago, JoeyDM said:

If the parent pays for the phone in any way then they have the right to take it away for any reason. Period.

 

You've already proven that you don't behave like an adult. You're a child. Probably 12-15.

No they don't. Lol. If it weren't for the "Community Standards", I would be showering insults after insults after insults. Cos that's just being stupid. 

 And if you look carefully I did say my age and is above your estimate.

Sorry that I don't believe in a lot of things that society considers acceptable. I hate to break it to you, but society is severely fucked up.

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6 minutes ago, AluminiumTech said:

No they don't. Lol. If it weren't for the "Community Standards", I would be showering insults after insults after insults. Cos that's just being stupid. 

 And if you look carefully I did say my age and is above your estimate.

Sorry that I don't believe in a lot of things that society considers acceptable. I hate to break it to you, but society is severely fucked up.

You are a child. You are not entitled to your phone. If you are above 12-15 then you had me fooled. 

Your parents ARE in charge of you. They ARE able to punish your. If they see fit to take your phone away, then get over it. It isn't yours. It's theirs, that they let you use. Until you pay for it on your own and don't live under their roof, you have no actual right to a phone. It's a privilege. 

You have rights. You have privileges. As punishment, your parents are entitled to take away your privileges whenever they see fit. Whether you like it or not. 

You have the mindset of a spoiled, entitled, "special," brat. And I pity your poor family.

[Arty]

And you wonder why most the kids after 2000 are fucked up.

[AlTech]

49 minutes ago, dmegatool said:

Kid users really are trying to defend their point against the adults/mature/parents users here... I like how LinusTechTips turned into ParentsTechTips. 

If you think the dad don't have the right to confiscate that phone, there's a lack of authority in your home. Sure if the kid paid for it, you don't keep it forever or sell it. But you totally have the right to educate your kid. What is it now, if your parents send you to your room, you charge them with False imprisonment ?

As a kid, I always understood the authority my parents had on me and now that I have a daughter, I think she understand too. She's only 7 so time will time but I don't see that kind of behavior happening... Trust me, it won't haha. 

Ha, time will time? you're funny. I don't like it when others are like "I am the boss" and rub it in your face. he doesn't have the right to. Parenting needs to be updated for the 21st century. It is still stuck in the 20th. We're applying 20th century principles.

 

2 minutes ago, JoeyDM said:

You are a child. You are not entitled to your phone. If you are above 12-15 then you had me fooled. 

Your parents ARE in charge of you. They ARE able to punish your. If they see fit to take your phone away, then get over it. It isn't yours. It's theirs, that they let you use. Until you pay for it on your own and don't live under their roof, you have no actual right to a phone. It's a privilege. 

I am entitled to my phone.  I bloody paid for it and got the receipt. They are not in charge of me. They are able to but they don't unless it's a big problem or unless my dad's really pissed off and tired. it is my phone. I paid for it fully. If they take it, they can go to jail.

I really hate you. Please stay out of my way after this. If I am under someone else's roof, I may follow their rules but their is a universal right or wrong. And it is wrong to take something that is the property of someone else.

[AlTech]

3 minutes ago, Arty said:

And you wonder why most the kids after 2000 are fucked up.

Well that's why i'm not technically fucked up in the head. Cos I was born before

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3 minutes ago, AluminiumTech said:

I am entitled to my phone.  I bloody paid for it and got the receipt. They are not in charge of me. They are able to but they don't unless it's a big problem or unless my dad's really pissed off and tired. it is my phone. I paid for it fully. If they take it, they can go to jail.

I really hate you. Please stay out of my way after this. If I am under someone else's roof, I may follow their rules but their is a universal right or wrong. And it is wrong to take something that is the property of someone else.

Sorry kiddo. You aren't entitled to your phone, even if you paid for it. If you live under their roof and they provide for you, they have the right to take it away. Until you move out they have every right to take it away.

 

Sorry that you can't think maturely like a rational person. 

Do you understand how strong of a word "hate" is kid? You don't hate me. You are just an angry brat throwing a hissy-fit who needs spanked. You just make yourself look immature, over, and over, and over, and over.

[Arty]

1 minute ago, AluminiumTech said:

Well that's why i'm not technically fucked up in the head. Cos I was born before

i don't mean like directly after

You know what i mean.

 

Society has gone to soft and offended about everything. 

[Mihle]

its different from case to case basis, but taking away something from the kid that the kid or some x wife have paid for is NEVER the best way to do it.

Examples of what you should do:

If its something that is not that big of a deal, but happens repeatedly, and its best to stop doing it. DO NOT PUNISH. If that is the case, the best thing to do ( experience/Surveys conferm this, to lazy to find them) is to instead give them something (does not have to be big at all) when they do not do it, or dont do it in a month or two or something. If you just choose the right ting to give them when they dont do the ting they should stop with, it WILL work.

If its something big. first time you should not do anything but rise your voice and maybe give the kid extra work to do. If the kid do a big bad thing later. raze the punishment, and its MUCH better to NOT give the kid something he wants than take something away. one example is if the kid gets some money every week or mount, do not give it for a while. Or if you was going to give the kid something else, that is more expensive, do not give it.

and you can take something away from your kids for punishment, but DO NOT take stuff that the parent haven't paid for themselves. (like dad does not take something away that x wife or the kid has paid for).

giving punishment for small stuff that repeatedly happen or taking away stuff that the kid has used their own money on will maybe help the kid it that exact thing, but it will hurt relationships more than its worth.

 

if I get a kid when I get older, that is the way I am going to raise it. using only punishment for everything bad the kid does no matter how big, or taking others stuff is NOT the way you should do stuff.

 

EDIT: 

And I add, whatever you do, do not take away something the kid needs for school. like for me it would be my laptop and internet (not all the day long tho).

my parents have done different things to me, when it comes to something that repeats. and the one that I, and my parents agree on. is to exs. give the kid (me in this example) soma candy, or like 5-10 dollar each week or month the kid does not to it, depending on how bad it is and the age of the kid. Another example that worked for me when I did something I should not is to stop buying (or hide) the tea I drink every day and stop getting grapes until I learn or s (I absolutely LOVE tea and grapes). because the last one, I dont get personal mad at my parents, but I still want them back.

like taking my gaming rig or phone, that I have used my own money on, that would make me personally mad at my parents (what degree of mad is depending on what for how long) not because I really want those things, but because I used my own money on them, and I feel like they are my personal stuff.

[AlTech]

1 minute ago, JoeyDM said:

Sorry kiddo. You aren't entitled to your phone, even if you paid for it. If you live under their roof and they provide for you, they have the right to take it away. Until you move out they have every right to take it away.

 

Sorry that you can't think maturely like a rational person. 

I am thinking maturely like a rational person. If your paid for a phone, it is yours. it is a rarity amongst teenagers to find someone who bought their own phone like myself. If I live under their roof they may think and act like they are entitled to. But that's committing robbery and being an asshole as far as I'm concerned. And then parents wonder why kids are so fucked up in the head these days.

 

I must be one of those that doesn't really like "normal" parents.

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[AlTech]

2 minutes ago, Mihle Gaming said:

its different from case to case basis, but taking away something from the kid that the kid or some x wife have paid for is NEVER the best way to do it.

Examples of what you should do:

If its something that is not that big of a deal, but happens repeatedly, and its best to stop doing it. DO NOT PUNISH. If that is the case, the best thing to do ( experience/Surveys conferm this, to lazy to find them) is to instead give them something (does not have to be big at all) when they do not do it, or dont do it in a month or two or something. If you just choose the right ting to give them when they dont do the ting they should stop with, it WILL work.

If its something big. first time you should not do anything but rise your voice and maybe give the kid extra work to do. If the kid do a big bad thing later. raze the punishment, and its MUCH better to NOT give the kid something he wants than take something away. one example is if the kid gets some money every week or mount, do not give it for a while. Or if you was going to give the kid something else, that is more expensive, do not give it.

and you can take something away from your kids for punishment, but DO NOT take stuff that the parent haven't paid for themselves. (like dad does not take something away that x wife or the kid has paid for).

giving punishment for small stuff that repeatedly happen or taking away stuff that the kid has used their own money on will maybe help the kid it that exact thing, but it will hurt relationships more than its worth.

 

if I get a kid when I get older, that is the way I am going to raise it. using only punishment for everything bad the kid does no matter how big, or taking others stuff is NOT the way you should do stuff.

I somewhat agree with this.

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2 minutes ago, AluminiumTech said:

I am thinking maturely like a rational person. If your paid for a phone, it is yours. it is a rarity amongst teenagers to find someone who bought their own phone like myself. If I live under their roof they may think and act like they are entitled to. But that's committing robbery and being an asshole as far as I'm concerned. And then parents wonder why kids are so fucked up in the head these days.

 

I must be one of those that doesn't really like "normal" parents.

You are thinking like an entitled child.

If they pay to keep you alive and healthy; they have the right to take away what is yours, even if temporarily. I would agree that throwing out/destroying it would not be okay, but to temporarily take it is absolutely within their rights. You basically have the mindset of a 7 year old who just bought his first toy on his own and got it taken away.

 

Your parents are still in charge of you. Including in charge of what you buy. You are their responsibility/liability until you move out.

[AlTech]

1 minute ago, JoeyDM said:

You are thinking like an entitled child.

If they pay to keep you alive and healthy; they have the right to take away what is yours, even if temporarily. I would agree that throwing out/destroying it would not be okay, but to temporarily take it is absolutely within their rights. You basically have the mindset of a 7 year old who just bought his first toy on his own and got it taken away.

That sir is Fucking Robbery. If anybody tries to take anything away from me, I shall see to it that the police deal with them.

I don't have the mindset of a fucking 7 year who bought his first toy.

I have the mindset of an 18 year old. If you fucking take something of mine, you will be punished by the law.

[BuckGup]

But I they probably own the phone and pay for the bill. So it is theirs