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[TheCoder2019]

I'm going to have to hide this in my feed, but I reached 1K, so I'm going to come out as bi: I do have a story but DM me for it if you want.

 

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@Schnoz @Iloveunisuj @sub68 @mon1ka

 

[CerealExperimentsLain]

13 hours ago, Nowak said:

Xbox controller I got for my birthday has a sticky right analogue stick.

 

Disappointing.

Hopefully you can just exchange that. =X

[Nowak]

Just now, CerealExperimentsLain said:

Hopefully you can just exchange that. =X

It's being returned. Directed my mom towards the Xbox Series S|X controller instead.

[Kawaii Koneko]

Well, it is almost that girl's and my one month anniversary. It will be on the 9th. That is our official anniversary though since I asked her out and she said yes. We actually met on the 31st of March. We literally talked like crazy since that day until I asked her out. I knew probably by the third day that I really wanted to go out with her and we were already lovey dovey by that point. Not sure why I even waited that long other than really wanting to make sure I didn't have any residual feelings for that other girl where things fell apart.

And it has been amazing ever since. I've never felt like this about anyone and the things we share, wow. We've both shared so much we've never told anyone and we both just totally accept it. She is also so good at reading me as well. I had a big fight with my mom the other day AGAIN over her being trans. I was talking to her a little later on the phone and like, she could tell right away something was bothered me. It really makes me feel bad to tell her just how unaccepting my parents are and that my mom said she doesn't want to ever even meet her but she is just so accepting. She said a lot of things but one of which was that even if my parents can't accept her, she still cares about them because they are my family and she'll just hope that one day they will. 

 

She is just such an angel. We had a pretty long and open conversation the other day on the phone and I sent her a message just a minute after saying " Baby, let's promise each other that we will both always accept the other no matter what. That we will never hesitate to share with the other because we know we won't be judge. Baby, we are going to be partners for life and I wasn't us to share everything, our finances, our hopes, our dreams, our fears, our perverted fantasies, our souls, our bodies, our very essence, and most of all our love. I love you (her name here) and (my last name here)!"

 

Not even five minutes later she calls me back crying. I asked her what was wrong and she said it was my message. She said it made her cry tears of joy when she read it because it touched her heart so much. She told me she had pretty much given up on ever finding love until she met me. She said she can't believe she met a guy who is so accepting of who she is and who makes her feel so special. I seriously fell in love even deeper at that point.

 

Oh, and if you are wondering about the perverted line in my message, it was a bit of an ongoing joke between us about us both having a lot of things we are into that most people would label as perverted. Let's just say we have very similar mindsets when it comes to what turns us on and what we think is hot in the bedroom lol. 

 

[CerealExperimentsLain]

7 months apart sucks... But at least I get to wake up to interesting selfies of her...

 

Also, hah, only pictures of her I've never had to mosaic her face for.

 

[CerealExperimentsLain]

9 hours ago, Kawaii Koneko said:

Well, it is almost that girl's and my one month anniversary... " Baby, let's promise each other that we will both always accept the other no matter what. That we will never hesitate to share with the other because we know we won't be judge. Baby, we are going to be partners for life and I wasn't us to share everything, our finances, our hopes, our dreams, our fears, our perverted fantasies, our souls, our bodies, our very essence, and most of all our love. I love you (her name here) and (my last name here)!"

That's uhm.... Fast. ^^;  A month in and was hemming and hawing on loaning my GF my PS4...

[sora.sky]

I, a trans femme, become very irritated towards the psychiatrist team that I'm seeing. No, I cannot "fire" them and see another provider; I'm part of a centrally managed HMO that's brought things in-house and is centrally networked, so all the providers work for the health system and are on their payroll and are on the same page when it comes to patients. I've hit wall after wall of gatekeeping, as despite living in California, they refuse to operate on an informed consent model for transgender persons and require anyone that says they are to prove it to a team of therapists and psychiatrist doctors in order to get letters for starting HRT and that other fun stuff. 

[handymanshandle]

a little over a month for me to move on out to Huntsville, a little nervous about making things financially work but I trust that I can do it. But it'll be so rewarding to finally be living in the same area as my boyfriend to finally have something more tangible and in person.

 

But the bright side is, we will finally be in the same state and the same city!

[Kawaii Koneko]

  

On 4/26/2021 at 7:38 PM, prototypical said:

trans girl checking in (i also happen to major in CS as the meme dictates), happy to see this thread! It's slightly more welcoming here than HN, I think

 

10 hours ago, milkerfish said:

haha same here, all i need now are some programming socks

Wait, what is this meme you speak of? Is computer science (I take it that's what CS is) a common field of study in the trans community or something? I'm just curious because my girlfriend who is trans also went to college for computer science. 

 

4 hours ago, CerealExperimentsLain said:

That's uhm.... Fast. ^^;  A month in and was hemming and hawing on loaning my GF my PS4...

Yeah, it is actually. I mean, I definitely see how crazy that looks. Actually, we both do. But we both just came to the conclusion of so what? We both just feel an incredible connection and we just know the other is who we have been looking for.

 

We aren't actually sharing our finances though. That comment was just more of a in the future kind of thing. I kind of got carried away when writing that lol.

[Quackers101]

6 hours ago, Kawaii Koneko said:

Wait, what is this meme you speak of? Is computer science (I take it that's what CS is) a common field of study in the trans community or something? I'm just curious because my girlfriend who is trans also went to college for computer science.

Yes, that is how they factory reset people and put them in new mech suits. oh... nvm

[CerealExperimentsLain]

7 hours ago, Kawaii Koneko said:

Wait, what is this meme you speak of? Is computer science (I take it that's what CS is) a common field of study in the trans community or something? I'm just curious because my girlfriend who is trans also went to college for computer science. 

The meme is that all transwomen can fix your computer and own thigh high socks, yes.  Except mine, she may be trans and own thigh high socks, but while she games, she can't really program or fix computers, but she can service a C7A2 assault rifle so that's a life skill I guess?

 

 

 

[Quackers101]

6 minutes ago, CerealExperimentsLain said:

but she can service a C7A2 assault rifle so that's a life skill I guess?

Service and handling, then it can be a self defence tool and skill that can help depending on the area or how it's used.

[Nathanpete]

Came out as bisexual to my dad and friends. Friends went OK, one of them is an itty bitty homophobic. But he was never that close anyway. Dad completely accepted it, but that was expected, he literally works in a non-profit medical practice that specializes in LGBTQ+ care. But I started to become active in various LGBTQ+ subreddits, and became friends with three GNC boys and love all three. Life has definitely gotten better now that I can't say I am completely friendless. 

 

Speaking of which, if you are trans, non-binary, or GNC, or LGBTQ+ in general and wish to talk one on one with a teenager that is 100% willing to listen and support you, please tag or message me. 

[Kawaii Koneko]

4 hours ago, Benji said:

Yeah, but hasn't it been the same with the girl before her before she got out? Just be a little cautious and keep that in mind before making long-term commitments.

Not really. Yes, I was super into that other girl but we never actually dated. I'll admit, I did have strong feelings for her and I really wanted something to happen but she just couldn't pull the trigger. We really did have everything in common and we talked a ton about our interests. I drove out and visited her and it went great. We continued to talk after that and things seemed great. But then it started to become obvious she just wasn't moving forward. So I tried to push a bit and then she finally just said she wasn't ready to start dating. She even pulled her profile from the dating site we met on so I do believe her. 

 

I don't know if it was a commitment thing or family pressures. I really did get the sense she liked me but something was just holding her back. Idk. Maybe she was just afraid of getting hurt. 

 

But this girl and I are actually dating so it's a bit different. And while we may not have all the nerdy things in common like I did with that other girl, we connect on a different level. We connect to each other emotionally and that's what is really important. Even though we aren't into all the same things, it's like as we talked, we just got into each other more and more.

 

And the thing is, I'm 35 and I've had other girlfriend's before (all of them cis until now) but I've never felt this kind of connection so fast and so strongly with anyone before. So part of me likes to think I'm not being an idiot thanks to my life experience lol.

 

3 hours ago, prototypical said:

there's dozens of us! 

Arrested Development fan spotted lol.

 

3 hours ago, prototypical said:

Oh, the meme is that if a trans girl exists in a more nerdy internet space (this joke is big on trans reddit), then she is most likely a programmer. There do happen to be a lot of transfem programmers, I'm not exactly sure why. I'm actually not a programmer nor do I want to be, I work in systems administration +  aspire to DevOps or pentesting - a CS degree is very strong there - but CS does generally stand for computer science. Though I wouldn't mind majoring in Counter Strike!

That is interesting to know. I seriously had no clue. I'm going to have to ask my girlfriend about this.

 

And majoring in Counter Strike, that might be a thing now that esports are getting so popular lol.

3 hours ago, CerealExperimentsLain said:

The meme is that all transwomen can fix your computer and own thigh high socks, yes.  Except mine, she may be trans and own thigh high socks, but while she games, she can't really program or fix computers, but she can service a C7A2 assault rifle so that's a life skill I guess?

 

That's pretty badass actually.

 

 I guess I just never heard this meme. Is this more of a joke among the transwomen community specifically? Because I've never heard it outside of it.

[Nathanpete]

3 minutes ago, Kawaii Koneko said:

 I guess I just never heard this meme. Is this more of a joke among the transwomen community specifically? Because I've never heard it outside of it.

Trans community in general, but thigh highs aren't very popular among trans men so it is mostly trans women and enbys. My ex transitioned after we broke up (she previously did have a trans "phase" then went enby, then back to trans full time. I met her when she was enby, she announced her transition like a week after I broke up with her), was a damn good programmer, and wore thigh highs every once in a while, so I guess the programmer sock in-joke spreads beyond trans-women and into the trans community in general.

[Kawaii Koneko]

5 minutes ago, Benji said:

You're 35 years old and still care so much about what your parents think about trans people and your relationships? Let me give you some little advice: As long as you don't live with them due to unemployment or whatever: Ignore what they say and ensure then that it is your life and that they don't have any business mingling in your private life, especially not who you date and what sex and gender your dates are.

 

Well, when I can't even mention her in conversation and they refuse to even meet her, that's a big problem. Sure, I do care what they think, but it in no way changes how I feel or act toward her. I think most people want their parents to accept their partners. 

[Nathanpete]

4 hours ago, Benji said:

That's nice

Although I always keep wondering why being bisexual is this weird thing that somehow finds even less acceptance than being gay. Probably because there are people that don't believe in bisexuality and think of it as being closeted gay, as an excuse.

Did you come out to your mother as well? How did she react?

There is zero fucking chance I can let my mom know. She is fiercely transphobic and homophobic, and we have been working with her non-stop for two years to think differently but she hasn't budged. My dad is enby, so under the trans umbrella, and my mom hated it so much that she became abusive and yadda yadda yadda the divorce will be settled sometime in the next two months. If she found out I am bi, which is practically just gay for all she cares, then she would be so damn furious. 

 

Little does she know that she is actually asexual. But we can't tell her that because that would turn into a whole new form of anger. 

[Nathanpete]

Changed my profile picture to reflect that I am both bisexual and a software pirate. Aka a Birate. Not affiliated with r/birate, thats a different form of piracy.

[da na]

On 4/15/2021 at 11:31 AM, ComradeCoconut said:

Birbsexual?

I identify as a birb

[Kawaii Koneko]

2 hours ago, Nathanpete said:

If she found out I am bi, which is practically just gay for all she cares, then she would be so damn furious. 

Just reminds me of my mom when I told her not only am I dating a trans woman but I am gynandromorphophilic. Her response was "So you're gay.". SMH.

[Nathanpete]

12 hours ago, Kawaii Koneko said:

Just reminds me of my mom when I told her not only am I dating a trans woman but I am gynandromorphophilic. Her response was "So you're gay.". SMH.

Alright, so I recognize some of the root words, but can you explain further what the funny magic word means. From the root words it sounds like a combination of gynesexual, androgynsexual, but both sexual and romantic attraction. I personally identify as finsexual, which is basically gynesexual. But for the last two weeks I am hella gay for feminine male's cocks, and trans girls for that matter. 

[Kawaii Koneko]

4 hours ago, Nathanpete said:

Alright, so I recognize some of the root words, but can you explain further what the funny magic word means. From the root words it sounds like a combination of gynesexual, androgynsexual, but both sexual and romantic attraction. I personally identify as finsexual, which is basically gynesexual. But for the last two weeks I am hella gay for feminine male's cocks, and trans girls for that matter. 

Ah, yes. The funny magic words. More like the most annoying word ever lol. Why they couldn't have come up with a term a little easier to say in normal conversation is beyond me. GAMP is the shorthand for it but meh, can we please come up with something better?

 

Basically, without breaking the word down, it just means someone who is attracted to trans women who haven't had SRS. It's something I realized about myself like a decade ago and it took me a long time to fully embrace who I am, for a variety of reasons. But I've fully embraced who I am and just decided to roll with it. I do like cis gender women too which makes sense. I like women. Cis gender women and transwomen are both women, but there are things about trans women that I've found in recent years draws me to them with greater attraction than cis women.

 

Honesty, one of the things that made me a bit nervous before I decided to start being who I am is that there is a lot of skepticism towards "GAMPS" in the trans community. I've seen a lot of threads of guys online who try to open up and get pushback. And don't get me wrong, I fully get why there is skepticism. I think there are two kinds of GAMPS. The "chasers/curious" and the genuine ones. There are a lot of guys who do view trans women as a kind of fetish that they just want to experience them in secret and treat them like some kind of sex toy. And I do think some of the curious ones just aren't quite where they need to be yet. Some might never leave the curious camp but some will ultimately just embrace who they are, like I did. Although, I wouldn't say I was ever "curious". I think I realized really quickly what I liked but it just took me forever to fully embrace it.

 

And I'm glad I never tried to get in any kind of relationship until I just fully accepted who I am. Guys who are on the fence don't make good boyfriends and don't give trans women the kind of relationship they deserve. So my girlfriend, her last boyfriend was a "down low man". He didn't want any of his friends to know he was dating a trans women. They never even went on a proper date because of this. She said they went out in public one time in the nearly three years that they dated. She put up with it because she loved him. But then he left her right before their three year anniversary for a cis gender woman. You can imagine how crippling this experience must have been for her.

 

I'm pretty open about who I am. Hell, I've told my parents. The way I see it, if people can't accept that I'm dating a woman who just so happened to be born a little different than cis gender women, that's their problem. I'm proud of my gf for her bravery and the adversity she has overcome. I fully support her and you know what? She fully supports me. Like I said, some trans women are skeptical about guys like me but my gf is totally accepting of it. She gets that I just like what I like, and frankly, based on her plans for the future, she is glad because well, she doesn't want SRS so she is happy that I like all of her. She has been getting more and more open with me lately talking about her dysphoria and she has made it pretty clear that her dysphoria has to do with other things. 

[CerealExperimentsLain]

3 hours ago, Nathanpete said:

Alright, so I recognize some of the root words, but can you explain further what the funny magic word means.

It defines men who have a sexual attraction to women with penises.

[Nathanpete]

19 hours ago, Kawaii Koneko said:

Basically, without breaking the word down, it just means someone who is attracted to trans women who haven't had SRS. It's something I realized about myself like a decade ago and it took me a long time to fully embrace who I am, for a variety of reasons. But I've fully embraced who I am and just decided to roll with it. I do like cis gender women too which makes sense. I like women. Cis gender women and transwomen are both women, but there are things about trans women that I've found in recent years draws me to them with greater attraction than cis women.

 

Honesty, one of the things that made me a bit nervous before I decided to start being who I am is that there is a lot of skepticism towards "GAMPS" in the trans community. I've seen a lot of threads of guys online who try to open up and get pushback. And don't get me wrong, I fully get why there is skepticism. I think there are two kinds of GAMPS. The "chasers/curious" and the genuine ones. There are a lot of guys who do view trans women as a kind of fetish that they just want to experience them in secret and treat them like some kind of sex toy. And I do think some of the curious ones just aren't quite where they need to be yet. Some might never leave the curious camp but some will ultimately just embrace who they are, like I did. Although, I wouldn't say I was ever "curious". I think I realized really quickly what I liked but it just took me forever to fully embrace it.

 

-snip-

I'm similar, not as picky, but still similar. Now my bisexuality is very young. I am 18 and 1 month, but I came out to just my brother, who I knew would be supportive, of being bi-curious in January of this year, I had only started it to question it that month.

Over the months I started drifting more and more away from straight p0rn and towards trans p0rn. <> But my tastes now fall more in line with those in the "femboy" territory. My sexuality is finsexual, with fin meaning Feminine In Nature. I still like women, but also gay feminine men, trans womens, and that group of transmascs who who also call themselves femboys. But in terms of my constantly deleted search history femboy *keyword* outshines all the others combined. If I were to date a trans women, I, like you, would also like one who is not going to have SRS, because I also like the idea of giving BJs. 

 

Now for me, I think it is simultaneously a fetish and a genuine feeling for me. My reddit account is still that of what you called a chaser, but I would immediately take a deal with an affectionate transgirls/femboy for a legitimate relationship of love between us. And a good thing is that when they are not horny many femboys are just really sweet and loving, and I love them too, in a wholesome way, not lewd.

As of the last three weeks I have been hella horny for femboy and transgirls over cis women, but I still like cis women. Actually bisexual. 

Edited May 6, 2021 by Nathanpete
Sentence was removed by a mod, I have replaced it with something a lot more family friendly.

[Kawaii Koneko]

14 hours ago, Nathanpete said:

Over the months I started drifting more and more away from straight p0rn and towards trans p0rn.

Well, trans porn is straight porn because trans women are women, just born a little different. I think the best way to refer to it would be cis gender porn vs trans porn. Sorry, I don't mean to nitpick and I'm the last one to be politically correct but I think it's important to get terms right when talking about this kind of stuff.

 

14 hours ago, Nathanpete said:

 My sexuality is finsexual, with fin meaning feminine in nature. I still like women, but also gay feminine men, trans womens, and that group of transmascs who who also call themselves femboys.

Eh, it depends on the person. Femboys are different than trans women with smaller breasts and penis. Obviously, what they self identify as being the biggest difference. I'd be a little careful tossing terms around here because you don't want to accidentally label a trans woman femboy or vice versa. Either way would be insulting. There is a lot of mislabeling in porn so that can cause confusion, I get that. Just be a little careful.

 

14 hours ago, Nathanpete said:

but also gay feminine men

Those are what I would label femboys and different than trans women. Totally different but also totally fine. You do you.

 

14 hours ago, Nathanpete said:

If I were to date a trans women, I, like you, would also like one who is not going to have SRS, because I also like the idea of giving BJs. 

And that is where things can get difficult because every trans woman is different. Some transwomen are dysphoric about that part of them to the point of wanting it totally ignored, others are accepting of it, and others embrace it. My gf literally told me that she likes her penis and wants to keep it. She only told me this though after she asked me if I would stay with her if she got SRS and I told her course I would, I love her for who she is. Then she basically said "Good but I plan to keep it anyway". I think she just wanted to know I wasn't only into her for that reason and of course, that isn't the only reason I like her. I love her as a person but sexual compatibility is important and it seems we have that.

 

It is something to tread lightly on. It's something I tried not to bring up with anyone early on. The first trans girl, the topic didn't even come up until before I met her, the second, well, she was very upfront about where she stood early on (oh yeah, there was a second I didn't mention but that was because I just wasn't feeling things with her), and then there is my gf who did ask me right away what my preference was but only later revealed her personal position on everything.. Turns out we both are a great match for each other because of our preferences and our own bodies.

 

14 hours ago, Nathanpete said:

I think it is simultaneously a fetish and a genuine feeling for me.

I actually tried to tell myself it was fetish for awhile until I realized it was a genuine feeling. It's just what I'm into. It's my orientation. It's best to just accept it. But if you do, be ready to give that girl the life she deserves. The whole keep it a secret thing is a big downer. Some girls accept it but they deserve better. 

 

14 hours ago, Nathanpete said:

. And a good thing is that when they are not horny many femboys are just really sweet and loving, and I love them too,

Just like a cis gender woman. Really no difference there. And again, every trans woman is different when it comes to sexual things. But like I said, femboy/trans = two separate identities. It's important to maintain a clear distinction.

 

14 hours ago, Nathanpete said:

and that group of transmascs who who also call themselves femboys.

Didn't realize they called themselves that. I actually know next to nothing about trans men because I don't like dudes so haven't really read anything beyond passive reading. 

 

So my gf likes cis gender and trans men. She finds both attractive. She isn't attracted to women though. So actually had a trans man that she liked at one point but he didn't feel the same way.

Edited May 6, 2021 by LogicalDrm