Edit on girl problems

[WisdomTurtle]

she said yes 

[flibberdipper]

This is a tech forum, you'd have better luck getting an answer screaming this question at the wall of your local Wendy's.

[DMCLEAN]

I was the same when I was young. Honestly, just ask her if she'll go with you. If not just shrug it off and ask someone else. If it's meant to be it will.

[Tog Driver]

40 minutes ago, flibberdipper said:

This is a tech forum, you'd have better luck getting an answer screaming this question at the wall of your local Wendy's.

He’d probably have better luck screaming at the girl from across the parking lot.

1 hour ago, WisdomTurtle said:

 So I'm a freshmen in high school (i know that's young) and there's this girl I really like and I wanted to ask her to homecoming, BUT I HAVE NO IDEA HOW, I don't want to have to do that cheesy poster, so just give me ideas or advice on what to do. 

My suggestion would be if you know her and talk to her already, maybe you can find a way to turn the conversation to that topic and ask her. if you don’t know her, just ask.

I’m far from and expert, but I don’t think there’s a right way.

plenty of wrong ways I’m sure.

[Arika]

The obvious answer is "just ask her". But how well do you know this girl and how well does she know you?

Are you actually acquainted at all or is she just someone you have admitted from afar but never really talked to?

 

If she's part of your friend group or you're in a class together just pull her aside one day and ask her. Not "Hey, go out with me" just specifically ask her to go to homecoming with you.

[YellowJersey]

TBH, I don't think there's any way to ask a girl out that's universal. For example, I met my fiance at a Transformers toy convention. I was wearing Norwegian curling pants, had hair down to my shoulders, a massive beard, and I was walking by her at the bar after the show closed for the day and heard her say something like, "I just want to be friends with him." So I just walked right up next to her, looked her square in the eye and said, "So what you're saying is, you're available." Then I disappeared to Iceland for a month and then New Zealand for another three months. We've been together now for 9 years. It could easily have gone very differently with me ending up pepper sprayed and with a black eye.

 So I'd just be up front about it, ask away, and if she says "no" then you'll always have the rests of us forever-alone types here on the internet. Don't beat around the bush; be direct so there's no room for misunderstanding (made that mistake way too many times myself)

[Ytihsgamer]

When all else fails a bottle of lotion and a box a kleenex will always be there for you.

[Guest]

7 hours ago, WisdomTurtle said:

 So I'm a freshmen in high school (i know that's young) and there's this girl I really like and I wanted to ask her to homecoming, BUT I HAVE NO IDEA HOW, I don't want to have to do that cheesy poster, so just give me ideas or advice on what to do. 

It's the approach.

 

First, try not to straight ask her... "would you go to Homecoming with me?" 

 

Phrase it:

I'd like to take you to Homecoming, what kind of flower do you like?

You can change that to anything.

What time should I pick you up? Do your friends want to ride in the limo with us? 

 

Can even change the beginning, Since we are going to homecoming together, would a Limo be ok? 

 

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Young man must understand a simple thing in life about (most females) 

 

A women's challenge in life is material.

A man's challenge in life is the woman. 

 

Not saying this is the correct approach, but at least an alternative to "Just ask her"....

 

Good Luck young blood! 

[Spotty]

5 hours ago, Guest 5150 said:

It's the approach.

 

First, try not to straight ask her... "would you go to Homecoming with me?" 

 

Phrase it:

I'd like to take you to Homecoming, what kind of flower do you like?

You can change that to anything.

What time should I pick you up? Do your friends want to ride in the limo with us? 

 

Can even change the beginning, Since we are going to homecoming together, would a Limo be ok? 

 

----

 

Young man must understand a simple thing in life about (most females) 

 

A women's challenge in life is material.

A man's challenge in life is the woman. 

 

Not saying this is the correct approach, but at least an alternative to "Just ask her"....

 

Good Luck young blood! 

Honestly this is awful advice and is just going to come across as arrogant.

Also freshman in highschool is what, 13-14? They're not going to be hiring a limo for a school dance and if they are that's just a stupid waste of money. 

 

 

Just ask her if she'd go to the homecoming with you. Everybody in your grade is probably thinking about who they're going to the dance with so it's safe to assume she's already chosen who she wants to go with, if she's planning on attending at all. Assuming she knows you exist she would already have formed an opinion of you and already decided if she'd be willing to go with you or not. Trying to use pickup lines, following sleazy guides on how to pick up women, or just coming across as an arrogant jerk is only going to hurt your chances.

 

You should also consider that inviting the girl to the school dance might not be the play. In my experience it's usually couples who are already dating who attend together, and then single people going with their friend group. Even if this girl likes you she might not be confident having the first date be the very public school dance. School homecoming dance seems like it's a lot more pressure as a date. Maybe try asking her out on a normal date first like going to the movies or whatever. If she isn't interested in that then she probably wouldn't be interested in going to homecoming with you either.

[Guest]

9 minutes ago, Spotty said:

Honestly this is awful advice and is just going to come across as arrogant.

Also freshman in highschool is what, 13-14? They're not going to be hiring a limo for a school dance and if they are that's just a stupid waste of money. 

 

 

Just ask her if she'd go to the homecoming with you. Everybody in your grade is probably thinking about who they're going to the dance with so it's safe to assume she's already chosen who she wants to go with, if she's planning on attending at all. Assuming she knows you exist she would already have formed an opinion of you and already decided if she'd be willing to go with you or not. Trying to use pickup lines, following sleazy guides on how to pick up women, or just coming across as an arrogant jerk is only going to hurt your chances.

 

You should also consider that inviting the girl to the school dance might not be the play. In my experience it's usually couples who are already dating who attend together, and then single people going with their friend group. Even if this girl likes you she might not be confident having the first date be the very public school dance. School homecoming dance seems like it's a lot more pressure as a date. Maybe try asking her out on a normal date first like going to the movies or whatever. If she isn't interested in that then she probably wouldn't be interested in going to homecoming with you either.

I admitted it may not be the best advice.

 

But you took the time to quote me and call me arrogant? Thanks? And a jerk too? Thanks? 

 

Nonchalant, bead around the bush, however you'd want to say it... don't call me names. It's against your own forum policy in fact.

[Spotty]

3 minutes ago, Guest 5150 said:

I admitted it may not be the best advice.

 

But you took the time to quote me and call me arrogant? Thanks? And a jerk too? Thanks? 

 

Nonchalant, bead around the bush, however you'd want to say it... don't call me names. It's against your own forum policy in fact.

I'm not calling you arrogant or a jerk. I'm saying that walking up to a woman and saying "You're going out with me. What are you going to wear?" is arrogant and isn't good advice for a high school student asking a girl he likes to the school dance. Don't try to play the victim just because somebody said your advice was bad and you have no other response.

[8tg]

Nah screw all that man, I went to homecoming with the boys when I was still in higschool. It’s basically 6 hours in the parking lot eating pizza and harassing people with paintball slingshots, since they said we couldn’t bring paintball guns.

[Guest]

45 minutes ago, Spotty said:

I'm not calling you arrogant or a jerk. I'm saying that walking up to a woman and saying "You're going out with me. What are you going to wear?" is arrogant and isn't good advice for a high school student asking a girl he likes to the school dance. Don't try to play the victim just because somebody said your advice was bad and you have no other response.

I didn't word it like that at all. 

 

Said, 

 

"I'd like to take you to homecoming...."

 

And I'm an arrogant jerk for that?

 

I can see why this forum is becoming less popular. Big names deleting their accounts and shit...

 

Don't bother quoting me again, I won't be responding to this thread here out.

 

[DietzDiet]

all i am telling u is, gl man u can do it

[12345678]

just ask

we are not out of stock of people, you can just go into the streets and you probably can find a look alike 

in case you don't have luck

[dalekphalm]

10 hours ago, Guest 5150 said:

I'd like to take you to Homecoming, what kind of flower do you like?

This is specifically what you said. The first part is fine - the second part implies they're going to say yes. Which, can be a bit forceful.

10 hours ago, Guest 5150 said:

What time should I pick you up? Do your friends want to ride in the limo with us? 

This is even worse - this is just outright telling the girl she's going. That's generally not well received.

10 hours ago, Guest 5150 said:

Since we are going to homecoming together, would a Limo be ok? 

If you ask this after you ask her and she says yes, it's okay. But if you just use this as your opener, that's... definitely a bit much.

 

Arrogant sounds about right. Jerk? Depends on your tone mostly, but can definitely come across as a jerk.

 

Now, let's be clear. I'm not calling you arrogant or a jerk. I'm saying your advice would cause the OP to be arrogant, and perhaps a jerk. Your advice, frankly, is bad. It's the kind of advice that a Hulking Overly Attractive Douchebag Jock in a Teen Movie would follow.

 

Maybe some girls would fall for it, or find it funny. Most would probably find you creepy for saying stuff like that.

[Wictorian]

Lol I thought homecoming was a spider man movie.

 

Just ask her if there is not someone that she is supposed to go with she will 90% say yes.

[airborne spoon]

don't pussyfoot around the issue, just walk up to her and ask if she wants to go to homecoming with you. Also if she is always with a group of friends sometimes its nearly impossible to get her alone to ask so you're just gonna have to nut up and ask her while the friends are around. Worst case is she says no and you move on and ask someone else.

 

I've been rejected more times than i can possibly count but I've also gotten a crapton of dates, its the law of averages and ya win some ya lose some. Remember you get the courage after you do the thing you're afraid of doing not before.

[Falkentyne]

6 hours ago, Wictorian said:

Lol I thought homecoming was a spider man movie.

 

Just ask her if there is not someone that she is supposed to go with she will 90% say yes.

 

I thought this was a thread about Silent Hill ....

[Wictorian]

6 minutes ago, Falkentyne said:

 

I thought this was a thread about Silent Hill ....

I think Silent Hill is about Slender Man

[volatus146]

step 1 - study every comment in this thread
step 2 - google search it and research there
step 3 - rehearse, practise, repeat twice hourly
step 4 - completely forget the above 3 steps, make a mess of yourself, and either have a date or be laughed at.

just send it bro. she either understands or wasnt interested in the first place, and if its the former, you got a winner.,

[King_PIN]

Tell her you have a huge hard drive.  

[Rauten]

8 minutes ago, King_PIN said:

Tell her you have a huge hard drive.  

Ah, so that is the real reason you've bought those Ironwolf drives, you naughty boy 

[Beerzerker]

14 hours ago, Caroline said:

I'd date the guy who walks up to me and talks straight like that.

 

Alternate ending: he has a smartphone so I punch him in the face and leave in an overly dramatic way in front of everyone else.

I can't help but like the alternate ending here.....
U go girl!!!

[SVThuh]

Well, its been a couple weeks since the OP.. 

 

Spill the beans kid, what happened???