Real life depression, need help! =[

[Camul]

just have confidence in your self act like u are the best and dont care or if u cant have confidence go to the gym everyday find a 24/hr one and go in the middle of the night at first then as u get bigger go at normal times and then u will have confidence.

jest be urslf OP, everything will be fine if you just be confident.

[tryphaa]

Yeah, I was actually just looking at some reviews/gameplays of smite a few days ago, It's worth a try for me if I got who to play with

If you want to learn smite then watch twitch.tv/smitegame or twitch.tv/smitepro

 

It's an incredibly fun game. I will totally play with ya when I get my stuff!

[Guest]

Can I have a 'Hi'?

 

Also, get a Snickers, it will cheer you up.

 

But yes, I was and still am, like that. But I did have friends however, 2 groups, so I was not alone like you are or was.

 

I enjoy tech and games and there is nothing wrong with that, prior to my dad's death 3 weeks ago I also didn't go anywhere with my parents and sisters, and that's just me and I am happy with it.

 

AND, watch this stream, it's tons of people trying to play 1 Pokemon game.  http://www.twitch.tv/twitchplayspokemon The comments cheer me up.

 

 

No, I am not advertising Snickers or that stream intentionally.

[ilove64]

I had been a shy person most of my life (defiantly an introvert). In large groups of people I don't know I tend to just sit there. more because I suck ass at small talk. its one of those things if I don't care about the subject I suck at faking that I do. There is nothing wrong with people being introverts. Hell id hate this planet if everyone was extraverts.

 

with that said. Middle school/High school is just a shitty time for everyone. it does get better after that. because most decent people could care less about the stuff you were in HS. usually the people who talk about how awesome HS was are the stupid jocks that, that is their crowning moment in life(which makes me sad for them if HS was the best years of someones life). just remember life will get a whole lot better after HS for you.

 

if you are looking to make friends finding people with shared interest(like these forums) is one of the best and essayist ways to do it(my guess its the only way to make friends really).

I don't see any issue gaming for 14 hours a day. hell I'm 31 and I still do that every Saturday lol. If you don't like going out side to hike and what not. there is no rule saying you should have to do crap you don't like doing.

 

With all that said. *disclaimer part* depression can be serious business. So if you think its bad you should really seek professional help. there is nothing wrong with asking for or needing help every now and than.

 

if all else fails. adopt a cat

Wow thanks! That sounds so accurate! I prefer adopting a frog though.

[ilove64]

Can I have a 'Hi'?

 

Also, get a Snickers, it will cheer you up.

[Camul]

jest be urslf OP, everything will be fine if you just be confident.

 I hope you realised I wasn't being serious OP.

[Antistatic12]

I don't really ever get sad and never been depressed so I can't relate. But I don't believe posting on a forum helps. What you need to do is to talk to your parents, school/college/uni counselor or Psychiatrist.
I do know of some people which fall into the autism spectrum, and from what you said, it sounds very similar to what one of my friends has. Have you been tested? if you know what the problem is, then it is easier to find a solution.
 

[Guest]

I don't really ever get sad and never been depressed so I can't relate. But I don't believe posting on a forum helps. What you need to do is to talk to your parents, school/college/uni counselor or Psychiatrist.

I do know of some people which fall into the autism spectrum, and from what you said, it sounds very similar to what one of my friends has. Have you been tested? if you know what the problem is, then it is easier to find a solution.

 

He doesn't have autism, I can tell you that.

 

Shyness is just that.

[ilove64]

I don't really ever get sad and never been depressed so I can't relate. But I don't believe posting on a forum helps. What you need to do is to talk to your parents, school/college/uni counselor or Psychiatrist.

I do know of some people which fall into the autism spectrum, and from what you said, it sounds very similar to what one of my friends has. Have you been tested? if you know what the problem is, then it is easier to find a solution.

 

Thanks for the advise, but those things don't really help me, however posting on this incredible forum and getting so much amazing feedback from people who understand me is just phenomenal. <3 LinusTechTips

[Antistatic12]

Thanks for the advise, but those things don't really help me, however posting on this incredible forum and getting so much amazing feedback from people who understand me is just phenomenal. <3 LinusTechTips

Well i hope you get the help you need. Chin up mate.

[Guest]

 

Do this trick, makes you feel good. Did it loads of times.

[Jaybird]

Thanks for the advise, but those things don't really help me, however posting on this incredible forum and getting so much amazing feedback from people who understand me is just phenomenal. <3 LinusTechTips

I would say any form of expression helps. even if you just type it out like you are doing here. I have been to the bottom before so i know where you are coming from and I hope for the best for you!

[JacobWest]

The advice I would give you is to just stay positive, half the battle is always in your head. (Atleast for me that is)

& what really helped me is that I found a Girlfriend, you may think that's not an option for you but it always is my friend. I never really had an "average sized" group of friends and after Highschool i never really hung out with any of the friends I did have but i had a Girlfriend and it really helped me.

 

Edit: I met my girlfriend on Facebook, it you don't feel comfortable talking to girls IRL Facebook can be a good way if executed right but it can possibly make you look like a creeper if you're too strong about it

[XTankSlayerX]

I can understand how you feel, if school bothers you you should try Homeschool. Its a lot better then it seems!

[ilove64]

I can understand how you feel, if school bothers you you should try Homeschool. Its a lot better then it seems!

ME....WANT....BUT...HOW?

[Snickerzz]

-snuggles-

[Fred Castellum]

Hey, first I'd like to say props for talking about you problem with others, keeping it bottled up is no good! I myself am quiet and reserved person, I had a pretty gray colored high school life and didn't socialise much either.

I use to be very shy too, so social interaction with people in real life wasn't easy. I've come to understand that if the life your living isn't satisfying then you yourself have to change it so it is, because very rarely does someone come around and magically change it. I wanted to be able to interact with people in person, so I went out to restaurants and public locations to work up the courage to be able to break out of my state of shyness. Ended up working as a computer technician, then a salesman, and now I work at home as a day trader.

I'll agree talking to people over the net is alot easier, I took that and applied it to talking to people in real life and its really helped. Progressively change at your own pace to what you want, and know there will always be places like this forum where people will listen to what you say! Do what you want, and work towards your goal! As long as your happy then its all good, it is after all a journey!

[XTankSlayerX]

ME....WANT....BUT...HOW?

There should be some programs available for your area. Try google.

[nicehat]

The one thing I love the most until today is to help anyone, even my enemies whenever I can, but people took that fact to their advantage, they used me... I never had the guts to tell anyone know when asked for help. I would helped others with many things, and when I needed help it seemed like everyone vanished. 

 

I try and try but just can't stop being shy... Hiding in my own shadow and making friends is really hard for me still... I also get over-depressed whenever something small happens because it reminds me of my horrible past.

 

I still game as I used to though even more... 14 hours a day in average, I really don't know what to do with my life, I feel like I'm screwed... I can get off my computer and tv, 

 

I just can't feel the "joy" in life anymore and just want to get some feedback from you guys, what should I do? What should I try to become happy? How in the world can I stop being shy, talking to girls is a dream, can't even say "hi" though.

 

Spending 14 hrs/day in front of a screen certainly isnt helping your social skills. You gotta understand that the computer and TV are addictive. If you are spending 14 hours a day on these things, I feel that you may be addicted, and coming to that realization yourself may be the first step in the right direction. In twenty years you shouldnt look back on your formative years and regret wasting away.  

 

Im doing a Psych rotation right now and here's my advice. If these issues of depression and social anxiety are preventing you from having a normal life, (which as described, I believe they are) you should seek medical help. Getting over certain social obstacles like a computer or TV is quintessential to functioning to the best of your abilities as you work through college and the professional world. Seek help now.

[EthanMcL]

Had fun playing League tonight!  I noticed I never actually left any advice in my previous posts... So...

 

I was in this situation.  I slowly have been getting more social. (It's hard... Especially when you are a big introvert like myself).  You just have to push past it all.  You only get one chance to be young.  Don't spend it wishing you could be doing something that you think you can't.  Get a small group of friends (Core group) and that will suffice for awhile.  With your core group of friends, you will eventually start to hang out with more and more people.

 

Oh also.  Friends from the opposite sex help.  A lot.  Getting that first girlfriend is hard (Still working on that goal ;D)

 

Good luck man.

[ShiverMePenguins]

Back story, since I was around 4, I was ALWAYS 90% +  (Minus time in school) of the time I was awake in a "virtual" life (I mean that, 90% or more I have been either watching TV, console gaming (Everywhere, with my Gameboy when I was little, with a PSP later...) and pc gaming.

My whole life I had been feeling very different then all the other people I saw outside, in school and my family, very very different. Tv, and games made me very shy in real life... until age 15ish, I never had any good friends, got bullied in school (physically and mentally ) and was just depressed  whenever I went to school and back.... I felt like the real life is not outside, it's in TV and computers.... lonely people usually have lots and lots of time, I also did.... I always thought and thought, staring at walls with my head down, but never even cared of what people thought of me because I knew that I was a loser to them, not many people ever cared about me and I was just always depressed and depressed.

Online I had a lot of friends, everywhere.... It always made me feel good, I used to run back home from school not even walk just to forget about the "real world" and go where I belonged.

Everyone near me were always together with their friends, hanging around... but I never knew what it was like... I was a very jealous person. I never knew how to talk to people, was always waiting and waiting for people to come to me... to start talking to me, instead of going out there and making my own friends.... I waited, and waited... but nobody came, and when people did I just rejected them although that was the moment I have been waiting for all this time... I rejected them because I knew I was a loser, I stopped caring about everything... My grades went down, to the 40ish average... my parents though never expected much from me, nobody cared about me :C . I was a good person, although I was shy and miserable I had still one hobby that I would love to fofill, no it's not playing sports or being a class clown, it was helping people... The one thing I love the most until today is to help anyone, even my enemies whenever I can, but people took that fact to their advantage, they used me... I never had the guts to tell anyone know when asked for help. I would helped others with many things, and when I needed help it seemed like everyone vanished. 

 

Thankfully, these days I am not getting bullied anymore, I am turning 17 soon and have friends here and there, but there are things that still remain from my childhood, that don't leave me.

Such as my shyness. I wouldn't call myself handsome but I'm not ugly for sure... I try and try but just can't stop being shy... Hiding in my own shadow and making friends is really hard for me still... I also get over-depressed whenever something small happens because it reminds me of my horrible past.

I still game as I used to though even more... 14 hours a day in average, I really don't know what to do with my life, I feel like I'm screwed... I can get off my computer and tv, but just can't find anything else to do, I just hate going outside. For example, at this moment my family went with friends to a roller coaster park, did I come? No, I answered " I will stay here, can't come have fun". In school nowadays i'm doing decent, 80 average... but just don't know what to do with my life.... thousands of hours burned and still keep getting burned and I am moving nowhere.

I just can't feel the "joy" in life anymore and just want to get some feedback from you guys, what should I do? What should I try to become happy? How in the world can I stop being shy, talking to girls is a dream, can't even say "hi" though.

 

Edit: [Fun Fact] An interesting thing to menton is that I only get shy in real life, when I'm on my computer, even when skyping with girls here and there, I feel sooo free from shyness..... Why does this happen?

 

Just wanted to let this out of my chest, Feedback would be a life saver and sorry for my poor English.

 

Thank you so much for reading!

i don't have a masters in psychology so take this as armchair doctoring. but it sounds somewhat like rad disorder as well as social anxiety disorder. if you're at all interested we could pm if that would make you feel more comfortable to talk.

however with that said, you really should see a psychologist. and ONLY a psychologist. not a therapist, neurologist, or any other doctor.

[CjlabanG]

Are we twins?

 

But seriously, just don't give a fuck. Yeah, that's what I did. Just like you, even the little things, I get worried... I think about what they "said" or "did", a lot. But then I just say "lol fuck dat".  I know I can't be taken seriously by saying this...exactly, don't take things too seriously and you'll be better off from that point forward.

 

It's hard to "master" the art of IDontCare-ery, well, for a person like me and you at least. 

[Joshua Ondangan]

well you can go out pay a hooker or some slut and get some practice and be wild.

 

pretty much just do what you like. just be proud of who you are. live upright the same way with your man hood

[ilove64]

Had fun playing League tonight!  I noticed I never actually left any advice in my previous posts... So...

 

I was in this situation.  I slowly have been getting more social. (It's hard... Especially when you are a big introvert like myself).  You just have to push past it all.  You only get one chance to be young.  Don't spend it wishing you could be doing something that you think you can't.  Get a small group of friends (Core group) and that will suffice for awhile.  With your core group of friends, you will eventually start to hang out with more and more people.

 

Oh also.  Friends from the opposite sex help.  A lot.  Getting that first girlfriend is hard (Still working on that goal ;D)

 

Good luck man.

Oh, had fun! thanks for the advise.

PS: When I left in the middle of the queue, It was because my league crashed and I tryed to log back in but couldn't and had to go to bed then, so sorry for your time.

[ilove64]

Are we twins?

 

But seriously, just don't give a fuck. Yeah, that's what I did. Just like you, even the little things, I get worried... I think about what they "said" or "did", a lot. But then I just say "lol fuck dat".  I know I can't be taken seriously by saying this...exactly, don't take things too seriously and you'll be better off from that point forward.

 

It's hard to "master" the art of IDontCare-ery, well, for a person like me and you at least. 

Are weee twins?

 

Wow, thanks the thing I've been trying lately, like really, and never heard it anywhere.... Whenever I have a doubt if to do something or not lately, I'm like " Whatever will happen, it won't make anything worse for sure, so I really don't care if I fail at doing something so much" (Aka talking to people) Kinda like "I don't give a fuck anymore"

And it surprisingly it really works, makes me get out of my box.

Thanks brother