Friendzone

[SupremeGOAT]

"You can't be in the friendzone if you value women's friendships" what do you guys think about that?... be brutally honest

 

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Edited September 24, 2018 by SupremeGOAT
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[Volbet]

What does "value a woman's friendship" mean and how do you define the "friendzone"?

[SupremeGOAT]

1 minute ago, Volbet said:

What does "value a woman's friendship" mean and how do you define the "friendzone"?

friendzone: In popular culture, the friend zone is a situation in which one member of a friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation for the rejected person.

 

a woman's friendship : 

[ARikozuM]

I would make it clear that you'd like to enter a relationship. How? I don't know. 

 

There are too many double-standards these days to even care anymore. 

[Volbet]

4 minutes ago, SupremeGOAT said:

friendzone: In popular culture, the friend zone is a situation in which one member of a friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation for the rejected person.

 

a woman's friendship :

 

 

 
 

 

I know what the friendzone is. I asked for your definition. Pretty much everyone put their own spin on the concept, so to give a brutally honest answer I would need to know what I'm working from.

And the picture answers nothing at all. 

[SupremeGOAT]

29 minutes ago, Volbet said:

I know what the friendzone is

then give me your answer o,o

 

29 minutes ago, Volbet said:

picture answers nothing at all

friend zone: you tryna smash but she think you being friendly is because you wanna JUST hang out... 

 

women's friendships: for some reason its harder to be friends with women... you gotta tip toe with what you say and they need SO MUCH support and help... naaah... when you with yo FRIENDS you free af and you can minimize dat filter and dey dont call you in the night move heavy shit... unless it fun..

[Volbet]

10 minutes ago, SupremeGOAT said:

then give me your answer o,o

Okay, the reason why you're original post doesn't make sense is becuase valuing a friendship doesn't impact the concept of the friendzone in any way.

If we work from the broad definition that you posted, then it's perfectly possible to value your platonic relationship with a person even if you want for it ti go further than that. 

I would even go as far as to say that you should value it. Else you might as well end it.

And if you only value a person due to the prospect of a romantic relationship, then you might need to check your priorities. 

 

 

4 minutes ago, SupremeGOAT said:

women's friendships: for some reason its harder to be friends with women... you gotta tip toe with what you say and they need SO MUCH support and help... naaah... when you with yo FRIENDS you free af and you can minimize dat filter and dey dont call you in the night move heavy shit... unless it fun..

If you find it difficult to friends with women than you might need to check the women in your life. Or check yourself, whatever is the most reasonable option. 

For the majority of my life the majority of my friends have been women and I've never experienced any of the things you mention. 

Just like men, women come in a varity of types. There's not reason to suspect otherwise. 

Women are human after all. They aren't some alien race that should be studied and understood. 

[SupremeGOAT]

16 minutes ago, Volbet said:

Okay, the reason why you're original post doesn't make sense is becuase valuing a friendship doesn't impact the concept of the friendzone in any way.

If we work from the broad definition that you posted, then it's perfectly possible to value your platonic relationship with a person even if you want for it ti go further than that. 

I would even go as far as to say that you should value it. else you might as well end it.

And if you only value a person due to the prospect of a romantic relationship, then you might need to check your priorities. 

 

If you find it difficult to friends with women than you might need to check the women in your life. Or check yourself, whatever is the most reasonable option. 

For the majority of my life the majority of my friends have been women and I've never experienced any of the things you mention. 

Just like men, women come in a varity of types. There's not reason to suspect otherwise. 

Women are human after all. They aren't some alien race that should be studied and understood. 

bruh you ever go 2 weeks without hitting nothing? at that point you aint looking for no friends. I been friends with women for short periods of time i didn't like what they liked AND if i ended up liking what they liked we hit it off and i get some without trying so hard... idk maybe thats friendship... I personally would smash a girl i have little in common with buuut if you wanna eat vegan and hang out and i aint getting none? HA! noooooo...

 

16 minutes ago, Volbet said:

I've never experienced any of the things you mention

then you probably a woman

[EPENEX]

Stop just thinking about having sex, that's why masturbation exists. Don't go into a relationship expecting or wanting sex and you'll do fine.

[SupremeGOAT]

Just now, valdyrgramr said:

Damn son, you need some water.

nothin wrong with being thirsty... as long as you get some drink o,o

 

[SupremeGOAT]

15 minutes ago, EPENEX said:

relationship

oooh misunderstanding.... no relationships just hit it for a month or 2 and break it off... i can put up with being vegan for a few dinners to get some but... not forever

 

15 minutes ago, EPENEX said:

Stop just thinking about having sex, that's why masturbation exists.

its like a drug bro... you dont just...what??

 

11 minutes ago, valdyrgramr said:

Well, in reality

 way to talk for all women... bruh download tinder

[Volbet]

13 minutes ago, SupremeGOAT said:

then you probably a woman

I'm just in touch with my feminine side. 

 

14 minutes ago, SupremeGOAT said:

bruh you ever go 2 weeks without hitting nothing? at that point you aint looking for no friends. I been friends with women for short periods of time i didn't like what they liked AND if i ended up liking what they liked we hit it off and i get some without trying so hard... idk maybe thats friendship... I personally would smash a girl i have little in common with buuut if you wanna eat vegan and hang out and i aint getting none? HA! noooooo...

Yeah, that's called compromising. It's something friends do. Not just something you do with your female friends.  

If you just want sex, then go to a prostitute and get it over with. 

[SupremeGOAT]

10 minutes ago, valdyrgramr said:

  Most women want a serious relationship when they're adults.

you think this argument holds water with tinder out there? you think these women looking for a serious relationship on tinder? i thank god for tinder i dont have to waste time on the games... "You can't be in the friendzone if you value women's friendships"  <-- i saw this looking for memes... i was just wondering if people took this pill and stayed zoned 

 

3 minutes ago, Volbet said:

If you just want sex, then go to a prostitute and get it over with. 

oooh you calling women who just want sex prostitutes? if women looking what im looking for... they prostitutes?.... cool...

[Volbet]

11 minutes ago, SupremeGOAT said:

oooh you calling women who just want sex prostitutes? if women looking what im looking for... they prostitutes?.... cool...

No, I'm saying that if YOU just want sex then the easiest way is to pay for it. You're obviously not interested in the work, so paying to get it seems like the easiest option for you.

I'm in no way insinuated that women with a free sexual moral are, by deffinition, prostitutes. 

 

Also, nice way to change the topic completely. 

 

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you think this argument holds water with tinder out there? you think these women looking for a serious relationship on tinder? i thank god for tinder i dont have to waste time on the games... "You can't be in the friendzone if you value women's friendships"  <-- i saw this looking for memes... i was just wondering if people took this pill and stayed zoned 

So you're just a pick-up artist that wants to seem smarter than everyone else? 

Fair enough, but I'm not gonna entertain that shit. 

Go to incel.me. They'll worship you like a god over there.

[Volbet]

Just now, valdyrgramr said:

Abandon ship!

 

[TetraSky]

11 minutes ago, SupremeGOAT said:

oooh you calling women who just want sex prostitutes? if women looking what im looking for... they prostitutes?.... cool...

It's not "women who just want sex". There's plenty of women who are sex crazy and sleep around, but they aren't prostitute. 
It's women(and men, it goes both ways) who demand money, be it on the internet or on the sidewalk, in exchange for sex. There's a difference here between the two and while the line may look thin, it still exist. The moment you ask for money to do something, it becomes a "job" and what is the job title for someone who has sex with people? Prostitute, the oldest job in the world.
Hence why he said it, if you just want sex, get a prostitute, it's quicker and easier to go that route, since they'll generally sleep with anyone as long as they are paying.

 

As for the whole friendzone thing. Yes, you can be just friend with women. While it can be harder to interact with them after getting rejected/friendzoned, you'll get over it/find someone else to obsess over and be able to just be friend with them.

[SupremeGOAT]

39 minutes ago, Volbet said:

No, I'm saying that if YOU just want sex then the easiest way is to pay for it.

easiest way is hookup apps o,o where the women are willing and ready

 

40 minutes ago, Volbet said:

Also, nice way to change the topic completely. 

man i just wanted an answer... you didn't want to answer until you knew my stance on the subject.. guess you didn't want to answer till you got an opportunity to talk down to me... that's fine...

 

44 minutes ago, Volbet said:

Fair enough, but I'm not gonna entertain that shit. 

there you go again...

 

peace be with you brother...

[PlayStation 2]

Doesn't really seem like you're taking this seriously.

[SupremeGOAT]

27 minutes ago, Dan Castellaneta said:

Doesn't really seem like you're taking this seriously.

well it started as a general question then people tried to make it about me for some reason... at that point i guess i should take it personal but then again that wouldn't bring me any closer to an answer... at the end of the day i still get to learn about people and how they react to the friendzone and women's friendships... just because im not talking down to people and judging them that doesn't mean im not getting my answers.

 

 

 

[dizmo]

You can only be put in the friend zone if you are trying to be friends with someone. Everything that you've said points to wanting nothing but sex from the person, which isn't a really a friendship. Hence the meme. If you're not trying to be their friend, you can't be put in the friend zone. It's not rocket science to understand.

 

It's really not hard to be friends with women. At all.  You don't help your buddies move heavy stuff? Or offer them advice?

The fact that you can't seem to control your hormones enough to do so is, quite frankly, pathetic.

Your answers after that, though, just make you sound like a total womanizing dick.

At least you do realize that Tinder can be a place to find people of like mind.

 

On 9/22/2018 at 1:54 PM, SupremeGOAT said:

you think this argument holds water with tinder out there? you think these women looking for a serious relationship on tinder? i thank god for tinder i dont have to waste time on the games... "You can't be in the friendzone if you value women's friendships"  <-- i saw this looking for memes... i was just wondering if people took this pill and stayed zoned

Yes, actually there are women on Tinder that look for actual relationships.

[TacoSenpai]

Step 1:  Get a VR Headset

Step 2:  Buy some trash weeb VR title

Step 3:  Get a VR waifu

Step 4:  Profit?

 

I think thats how it works?

 

Spoiler

Low key if you are trying to get in a relationship or get to date someone tell em off the bat.  Don't beat around the bush.  Worst that happens is they say no.

 

[SupremeGOAT]

On 9/25/2018 at 9:33 PM, dizmo said:

You can only be put in the friend zone if you are trying to be friends with someone.

In popular culture, the friend zone is a situation in which one member of a friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation for the rejected person. < googled friendzone. 

 

On 9/25/2018 at 9:33 PM, dizmo said:

Everything that you've said points to wanting nothing but sex from the person, which isn't a really a friendship.

You're making this about me instead of the title -.o. Nothing wrong with casual consensual sexual relations

 

On 9/25/2018 at 9:33 PM, dizmo said:

If you're not trying to be their friend, you can't be put in the friend zone. It's not rocket science to understand.

...I think the general consensus of the meme is : being in the friendzone is ok as long as you're ok with being friends with women. You're right its not rocket science...

On 9/25/2018 at 9:33 PM, dizmo said:

It's really not hard to be friends with women.

Speak for yourself. Some women find it hard to be friends with women...

On 9/25/2018 at 9:33 PM, dizmo said:

You don't help your buddies move heavy stuff? Or offer them advice?

I do those things without hesitation and vice versa... The thing is my friends call me for more than that and in the end we end up enjoying ourselves because we sync well. I don't like what most women like and that's just me. If I should move something for a female "friend" that's where the story ends. no plot development no nothing o,o

On 9/25/2018 at 9:33 PM, dizmo said:

The fact that you can't seem to control your hormones enough to do so is, quite frankly, pathetic.

Well that'll fix things... I have no problems with helping a coworker move her stuff... The fact that I'm not gonna hang with her afterwards or find common ground because i have no interest in her interests would prove the opposite.I just don't want her to call me again.

On 9/25/2018 at 9:33 PM, dizmo said:

Your answers after that, though, just make you sound like a total womanizing dick.

womanizer: a man who engages in numerous casual sexual affairs with women. definition by google

... why would that make me a dick?

On 9/25/2018 at 9:33 PM, dizmo said:

At least you do realize that Tinder can be a place to find people of like mind.

Yes and i can only imagine what you would say to the women with similar mind frames on that are on tinder

On 9/25/2018 at 9:33 PM, dizmo said:

Yes, actually there are women on Tinder that look for actual relationships.

well to each their own o,o

 

I personally think the concept of the friendzone is accurate, however tolerating it is optional and there in lies the enigma... to want something you cannot have, to ignore your wants and accept something you didn't want. To be vilified for walking away from what you don't want because you didn't get what you wanted. The dynamic of the friendzone is predictable and brings to surface only questions of why... why bother? why not? This divide is inevitable and being humans with a plethora of personalities along with variable mental and emotional states we would easily fall into either category. I do understand that it would be difficult to fully comprehend the opposition's point of view on the matter hence the thread. Please understand your personal insults will not bring you closer to understanding anything... after all we're all adults (sometimes).

[Tristerin]

Been with my wife since before 9th grade (now 34), was friendzoned for 2 years prior.

 

What it took?  Being sick and tired of being in the friendzone so I asked out the 1 girl she hated who said yes (I think just because they hated each other, I didn't care...boobies!).  I didn't want to date her per say I was just tired of being "not" needed and seeing her have time for other guys.  So I WAS going to move on, but luckily she took it serious and knew she was losing me.  It worked out for me to be friendzoned, however in this day and age I don't advise it.  In the early 90's things were different when it comes to communication modicums etc.

 

 

[MadyTehWolfie]

Men and women can't "just be friends" sooner you realize this the better off you'll be.

[MadyTehWolfie]

On 9/25/2018 at 10:33 PM, dizmo said:

You can only be put in the friend zone if you are trying to be friends with someone. Everything that you've said points to wanting nothing but sex from the person, which isn't a really a friendship. Hence the meme. If you're not trying to be their friend, you can't be put in the friend zone. It's not rocket science to understand.

 

It's really not hard to be friends with women. At all.  You don't help your buddies move heavy stuff? Or offer them advice?

The fact that you can't seem to control your hormones enough to do so is, quite frankly, pathetic.

Your answers after that, though, just make you sound like a total womanizing dick.

At least you do realize that Tinder can be a place to find people of like mind.

 

Yes, actually there are women on Tinder that look for actual relationships.

Any women who needs a date app to get a date will come with baggage. Either physically or mentally.