important question

[realsmooth59]

Hey what would you do if you saw your best friend (less than 16 years old) Drink 8 Shots of vodka right in front of you( i am sure he does this on a regular basis)and his parents have bought it for him he even drank it in front of them

[PlayStation 2]

Honestly, not my fucking problem.

I wouldn't care. If that's what they wanna do, trying to do something about it won't change anything.

[Guest]

8 shots of vodka is not healthy for someone at that age. Probably ask where he got the vodka and report them to the police tbh. 

[jiyeon]

Question how I managed to become friends with a 13-year old crippling alcoholic.

[Princess Luna]

git gud

[Guest]

This is quite a serious thing btw. At that age, that amount of alcohol will cause developmental problems.

[Gale]

I'd laugh at the guy, and then ask him "what the fuck is your problem"?

[EPENEX]

At the age, adult me says not be friends with them anymore. Kid me says ask them for some Vodka.

[Ithanul]

1 hour ago, RorzNZ said:

This is quite a serious thing btw. At that age, that amount of alcohol will cause developmental problems.

No joke, vodka has a high proof compare to something like beer.

Eight shots probably doing a number on the liver.

[realsmooth59]

On 7/29/2018 at 5:11 PM, seoz said:

Question how I managed to become friends with a less than 16-year old crippling alcoholic.

I dont know this happened a few days ago

I did not know what to do but I kind of agree with the first guy but I will take more answers 

[kelvinhall05]

Drink 9 shots.

[DimasRMDO]

Woah, if someone who's underage drink 8 shots of vodka....

To be honest, it's his/her life, if it's broken because of that at least he/she can learn something from it. Sometimes you have to learn something the hard way....

Though I'd love to intervene and tell him/her that it's not okay, but I bet he/she will ignore me so, again back to "it's his/her life" stuff.

[Guest]

You could have him do shots till he passss out but it’s not uncommon. I’ve known 11 year olds that get wasted. 8-9 year olds that smoke weed & have sex. This isn’t really news. 

 

I would probably not be his friend if he was only about that. If I was suspicious he drank alcohol but hadn’t seen him doing it, then I probably wouldn’t care. Presuming you’re 13~ or so now. As that I’m older, I might find a way to tell his parents and let them know not to come angrily at him as if they do, I might lose the 13 year old’s trust. If he does something more dangerous, I wouldn’t know & couldn’t warn anyone. 

[DeafeningSilence]

Good morning! (or afternoon)

 

In this case and scenario, it is definitely a difficult situation to assess. On one hand, you would want to take action, and on the other you wouldn't want to report your friend. In this situation, I would definitely reach out to his parents and authorities and report this behavior. Not only is this illegal, but also is detrimental (harmful) to his health at such a young age of development. Drinking alcohol at that age could cause health and development issues during the beginning of puberty. If his actions begin to put you in danger, report his behavior immediately! Do not allow yourself to be put in harms way! Ultimately, whatever you decide, realize and understand that it is not your personal responsibility to look after his well-being. I have seen this far too often where friends will go out of their way to try and look after somebody who makes poor decisions and puts them at risk for injury and health problems. 

 

TLDR: Reach out to his parents and officials, but ultimately realize that his well-being is not your personal responsibility.

 

Feel free to PM me if you want to talk this over more. This can be a difficult situation, and having someone to talk things through is immensely helpful for gathering and processing your thoughts.

[realsmooth59]

oh yeah forgot to tell you guys that his parents have bought it for him and i saw him do it right in front of me

i will be closing up this thread very soon 

[DeafeningSilence]

22 minutes ago, Somekid5 said:

oh yeah forgot to tell you guys that his parents have bought it for him and i saw him do it right in front of me

If this is the case, I would say that it should be mentioned to some sort of authoritative figure that is not their parents. You could ask the local police department as it could possibly be considered child endangerment. If they won't be able to help, perhaps they could point you in the right direction.

[realsmooth59]

6 hours ago, DeafeningSilence said:

If this is the case, I would say that it should be mentioned to some sort of authoritative figure that is not their parents. You could ask the local police department as it could possibly be considered child endangerment. If they won't be able to help, perhaps they could point you in the right direction.

but should I though and even though if I do report them 1, I don't really want to though and 2 even if I do report him they would not find any traces of alcohol cuz this happened 6 days ago. But you know 

 

but yeah tomorrow I will pick a good answer  

[DeafeningSilence]

7 minutes ago, Somekid5 said:

but should I though and even though if I do report them 1, I don't really want to though and 2 even if I do report him they would not find any traces of alcohol cuz this happened 6 days ago. But you know 

If that's your thought process, then the best would be to ignore it. Just do not allow yourself to get into dangerous situations or peer pressured into having a drink if they try to encourage you to (this can be VERY difficult in the moment). As long as it is not directly influencing or affecting you, then it's probably best to ignore it as best you can.

[realsmooth59]

Just now, DeafeningSilence said:

If that's your thought process, then the best would be to ignore it. Just do not allow yourself to get into dangerous situations or peer pressured into having a drink if they try to encourage you to (this can be VERY difficult in the moment). As long as it is not directly influencing or affecting you, then it's probably best to ignore it as best you can.

what do you mean ignore it

[DeafeningSilence]

1 minute ago, Somekid5 said:

what do you mean ignore it

Disregard and not let it influence you as much as possible. Or another possibility is to spend time with your friend at your house or at public places that he would not be able to drink alcohol. 

[realsmooth59]

1 minute ago, DeafeningSilence said:

Disregard and not let it influence you as much as possible. Or another possibility is to spend time with your friend at your house or at public places that he would not be able to drink alcohol. 

yeah but what about his parents and do you think i should be friends with him anymore

[DeafeningSilence]

Just now, Somekid5 said:

yeah but what about his parents and do you think i should be friends with him anymore

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about their parents aside from get advice from the local police department in my opinion. It is not your responsibility or place to bring that up with your friend's parents. Also, whether you should remain friends with him is up to you. If this situation makes you uncomfortable, and you think this is going to be more than a one-time occurrence, you have no obligation to tolerate it. Personally, if I were in your shoes, I would maybe ask your friend about it, and express your concern (if you have any). If the behavior continues, I would personally be unlikely to remain friends with them. But ultimately, this decision is up to you.

[Mira Yurizaki]

8 minutes ago, Somekid5 said:

yeah but what about his parents and do you think i should be friends with him anymore

The fact you're questioning it probably means you should take a step back from your current relationship or confront him about it and see where it goes.

 

Also underage drinking being illegal period is only a thing in certain states in the US. The other states don't care as long as a legal guardian is close enough and it's in a private setting.

[realsmooth59]

5 hours ago, M.Yurizaki said:

The fact you're questioning it probably means you should take a step back from your current relationship or confront him about it and see where it goes.

 

Also underage drinking being illegal period is only a thing in certain states in the US. The other states don't care as long as a legal guardian is close enough and it's in a private setting.

i live in Illinois 

 

5 hours ago, DeafeningSilence said:

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about their parents aside from get advice from the local police department in my opinion. It is not your responsibility or place to bring that up with your friend's parents. Also, whether you should remain friends with him is up to you. If this situation makes you uncomfortable, and you think this is going to be more than a one-time occurrence, you have no obligation to tolerate it. Personally, if I were in your shoes, I would maybe ask your friend about it, and express your concern (if you have any). If the behavior continues, I would personally be unlikely to remain friends with them. But ultimately, this decision is up to you.

well he said that it was fun doing it

 

well in my state you have to 21

 

but do you think i should do it i mean he is 45% of an asshole but he is my sometimes good friend

 

5 hours ago, valdyrgramr said:

Honestly, the most you should do is tell child services about it if it's illegal where you are.  Or, maybe the cops.  That's like super bad parenting right there, and I can't really blame a kid for what their parents let them do.  I also would advise against hanging out with the kid if they continue and don't let it influence you.

But do you think i should do that

[Eduard the weeb]

well being a fellow teen here is my thoughts. To put it bluntly you shouldn't really give two fucks, because in the end of the day you can't force your friend to stop drink and in the end of the day where just kids, we do stupid shit and should just accept it and just try having fun wall we are in this world because, we aren't gonna be here forever.