Girlfriends

[lukky211111]

Have any of you had any serious girlfriends (or boyfriends for the couple of girls here) and what age were you when you got them

 

Im currantly 15 have never had a non serious gilfriend or a serious girlfriend. But i have tried to get one,

ok your 15 your mind isnt fully developed yet and your hormones are rageing i highly dont recomend a girlfriend for anyone at that age just because it causes a lot of problems theirs legality issues (personal experience please take this advice from me seriously) and just well why do you really want one? companionship? your 15 you should be focusing on your school work as well as thinking about your life do you before you ever try being with someone. more or less be the person you want to be before you go out trying to find someone to like you.

[JAKEBAB]

Only had sex once, no relationships. I'm glad I won't die a virgin. That was one of my biggest fears.

It doesn't count if you paid for it 

[Sr_Zarate]

im almost 26 i had a couple of relationships before but the last one still hurts and it was over on December, i wanted to marry that girl but well, plans doesnt always goes as we want lol, anyway im just doing my life again its time to move on

[The_Strict_Nein]

It ain't a good situation here, I'll tell you that much

[DeViLzzz]

I met my hand when ... oh

[79wjd]

I still find it offensive honestly.

 

The Physical aspects arent everything on a relationship.

 

If thats all you are looking for its a bit shallow IMO.

I don't really think it's all that shallow tbh. You can't be attracted to someone who you don't find attractive. I don't care how amazing their personality is, if you don't find them physically attractive things will never work out. 

 

Its amazing while it lasts but the heartbreak when it ends is almost enough to say it isn't worth it  :unsure:

 

Edit: Not that it ending is always the case.

This really does scare me.....a LOT... I've been dating my current (and only) girlfriend for almost two years (we're both about to turn 20), and I'm convinced I'm going to do something stupid and it'll be done....at which point I really don't know what I'd do... I honestly can't remember what it was like before we started dating....All I can say is I'm pretty sure I'll end up relegated to a corner for a few months  

[JAKEBAB]

I don't really think it's all that shallow tbh. You can't be attracted to someone who you don't find attractive. I don't care how amazing their personality is, if you don't find them physically attractive things will never work out. 

 

This really does scare me.....a LOT... I've been dating my current (and only) girlfriend for almost two years (we're both about to turn 20), and I'm convinced I'm going to do something stupid and it'll be done....at which point I really don't know what I'd do... I honestly can't remember what it was like before we started dating....All I can say is I'm pretty sure I'll end up relegated to a corner for a few months  

She said physical aspects aren't everything, which they aren't but im pretty sure shes acknowledging it counts for some part just not as much as SSOB is making it out to be.

 

Why are you convinced you will do something stupid? Any examples of what your so scared that your going to do?

[Darren]

Its amazing while it lasts but the heartbreak when it ends is almost enough to say it isn't worth it  :unsure:

 

Edit: Not that it ending is always the case.

 

Interesting, I wouldn't pair heartbreak with something where I have to question its worth. If a relationship wasn't worth the effort I was putting in, I wouldn't be heartbroken over it.

 

This is why i dont get into relationships.

 

Where's the fun in that? No pain; no gain, no risk; no reward and all that...

[zappian]

Interesting, I wouldn't pair heartbreak with something where I have to question its worth. If a relationship wasn't worth the effort I was putting in, I wouldn't be heartbroken over it.

 

 

Where's the fun in that? No pain; no gain, no risk; no reward and all that...

 

No pain.

 

I like that.

[JAKEBAB]

Interesting, I wouldn't pair heartbreak with something where I have to question its worth. If a relationship wasn't worth the effort I was putting in, I wouldn't be heartbroken over it.

Yea but while your in the relationship you don't think about it ending because you want to stay happy forever but the unfortunate truth is most of the time no matter how hard you try you will end up basically wasting all the time you did with the other person just to end up alone and heartbroken. 

 

Love isn't rational.

[Darren]

No pain.

 

I like that.

 

I find it unfortunate that you don't feel comfortable investing in someone emotionally, I really do.

 

Is it because you have no idea what you're getting into out of inexperience, or fear because of something that's happened before?

 

 

Yea but while your in the relationship you don't think about it ending because you want to stay happy forever but the unfortunate truth is most of the time no matter how hard you try you will end up basically wasting all the time you did with the other person just to end up alone and heartbroken. 

 

Love isn't rational.

 

I'm not sure I agree. I don't think I've ever been involved in something that's been serious that's also wasted my time. I think if someone has lead you on to believe they are serious about you when they're not, I consider that wasting my time. In saying that, I really try figure out someones motives before getting too attached.

[JAKEBAB]

I'm not sure I agree. I don't think I've ever been involved in something that's been serious that's also wasted my time. I think if someone has lead you on to believe they are serious about you when they're not, I consider that wasting my time. In saying that, I really try figure out someones motives before getting too attached.

Well the way i see it if for example you date someone for 3yrs. Think of all the times you did something for them that you could of been doing other shit. That whole time you could of been finding the one that you would stay with, now your alone and have basically nothing to show for it. imo that is a waste of time!

[zappian]

 

I find it unfortunate that you don't feel comfortable investing in someone emotionally, I really do.

 

Is it because you have no idea what you're getting into out of inexperience, or fear because of something that's happened before?

 

 

 

I'm not sure I agree. I don't think I've ever been involved in something that's been serious that's also wasted my time. I think if someone has lead you on to believe they are serious about you when they're not, I consider that wasting my time. In saying that, I really try figure out someones motives before getting too attached.

 

 

Fear of Commitment mainly.

Social Anxiety doesn't help as well.

[Ruostunut kokis]

Fear of Commitment mainly.

Social Anxiety doesn't help as well.

 

^This. I can relate to this so much.

 

I just feel like I don't want to commit my life for any person. And i feel like I don't want to get attached to anything from where I can't flee ASAP if situation calls it (one example: finding out that your significant other is a complete pyscho, how can you get away from that, without her going ape sh*t and maybe possibly without getting killed by him/her in a worst case scenario?).

 

Social anxiety is kinda of a minor one for me now, but it's still significant. Does affect communicating quite a bit. Basic ones like going through store register, no problem, but anything more complex than that, and... Social anxiety kicks in.

[Admiral Naismith]

I have very odd... social behaviors.

 

I find it extremely difficult to meet new people and get to know them. It doesn't help my behavior changes once I'm semi-comfortable around the person.

 

If I could just skip the first month of a relationship I'd be golden.

 

No, I haven't had a GF, I've been friendzoned twice though. So......................... fml.

[chimmychunger]

I have very odd... social behaviors.

 

I find it extremely difficult to meet new people and get to know them. It doesn't help my behavior changes once I'm semi-comfortable around the person.

 

If I could just skip the first month of a relationship I'd be golden.

 

No, I haven't had a GF, I've been friendzoned twice though. So......................... fml.

 

ive been friendzoned once but been told never to talk to them again about 4 or 5 times

[chimmychunger]

Brace Yourselves, Valentines day is coming.. AH HAH AH

 

your pic and that comment

[Wardojack]

(or boyfriends for the guys/girlfriends for the girls)

DIVERSITY

We have to accommodate everyone. ;D

 

Aaaand kinda...no.

[RedSpade]

This really does scare me.....a LOT... I've been dating my current (and only) girlfriend for almost two years (we're both about to turn 20), and I'm convinced I'm going to do something stupid and it'll be done....at which point I really don't know what I'd do... I honestly can't remember what it was like before we started dating....All I can say is I'm pretty sure I'll end up relegated to a corner for a few months  

If you've been dating for 2 years she's most likely seen all sides of you, so she should be able to forgive you for doing something stupid. So long as you don't consistently stuff up you'll be fine.

 

You shouldn't be scared of what MAY happen, live in the moment 

[chimmychunger]

If you've been dating for 2 years she's most likely seen all sides of you, so she should be able to forgive you for doing something stupid. So long as you don't consistently stuff up you'll be fine.

 

You shouldn't be scared of what MAY happen, live in the moment 

 

I totally agree

[chimmychunger]

I'm married on my 3rd year, so you can say I have a serious girfriend. 

 

is it going good

[79wjd]

If you've been dating for 2 years she's most likely seen all sides of you, so she should be able to forgive you for doing something stupid. So long as you don't consistently stuff up you'll be fine.

 

You shouldn't be scared of what MAY happen, live in the moment 

I totally agree

I really hope you're right.

 

part of me will always still worry though.

[Ruostunut kokis]

If you've been dating for 2 years she's most likely seen all sides of you, so she should be able to forgive you for doing something stupid. So long as you don't consistently stuff up you'll be fine.

 

You shouldn't be scared of what MAY happen, live in the moment 

You'd be surprised to know that even after a few years of relationship there can be a lot of things still kept hidden, and usually it's the bad things that are kept hidden (no point in hiding good things after that amount of time). And when those bad things get revealed... Things will most likely not end well. On rare cases, the significant other could maybe even accept it, but you have to be lucky for that to happen, ever.

 

And it's good to think about things that could possibly happen in the future, bad things as well, so you can be more prepared to bail out if things go south. Better have at least some sort of plan to bail out ASAP than being too late to escape, and having to bear with the consequences (they can include, but are not limited to: ruined reputation in your area, fines, jail sentence, or death by psychopathic significant other)

 

Am I being a little skeptical or do I simply just not trust anyone?

[Volbet]

is it going good

It's going just fine. We are now in our 4th year, and we are as happy as ever. 

Luckily we are still enjoying the same things, and not even work and school are getting in the way of that.

 

The few relationship advice that my father gave me really are a blessing, so this whole thing might be thanks to him.

 

 

sex but no relationship, lel

That's just hook-up culture. Sex and relationships don't always follow eachother. 

I have been with people, that I never saw before or after, and I have been in relationships that didn't involve sex at all.

[RedSpade]

You'd be surprised to know that even after a few years of relationship there can be a lot of things still kept hidden, and usually it's the bad things that are kept hidden (no point in hiding good things after that amount of time). And when those bad things get revealed... Things will most likely not end well. On rare cases, the significant other could maybe even accept it, but you have to be lucky for that to happen, ever.

 

And it's good to think about things that could possibly happen in the future, bad things as well, so you can be more prepared to bail out if things go south. Better have at least some sort of plan to bail out ASAP than being too late to escape, and having to bear with the consequences (they can include, but are not limited to: ruined reputation in your area, fines, jail sentence, or death by psychopathic significant other)

 

Am I being a little skeptical or do I simply just not trust anyone?

True, although that does vary between couples.

Once again true, although always being prepared to bail out can be bad for a relationship, you should be able to trust your partner enough to handle unforeseen circumstances (or they should have enough trust in you). And do you (general you, not you in particular) really care about your reputation so much that you'd place others opinion about you above your girlfriend, if so you shouldn't be with them.

 

I think you're being a little skeptical and don't trust others enough. Go out on a limb and try it some time, if you get burnt learn from it, if not you'll have someone you can trust for a long time to come