Girlfriends

[Ruostunut kokis]

True, although that does vary between couples.

Once again true, although always being prepared to bail out can be bad for a relationship, you should be able to trust your partner enough to handle unforeseen circumstances (or they should have enough trust in you). And do you (general you, not you in particular) really care about your reputation so much that you'd place others opinion about you above your girlfriend, if so you shouldn't be with them.

 

I think you're being a little skeptical and don't trust others enough. Go out on a limb and try it some time, if you get burnt learn from it, if not you'll have someone you can trust for a long time to come 

You've got good points. I just have trust issues with everyone. I can't even trust my own family on anything.

[KemoKa]

You've got good points. I just have trust issues with everyone. I can't even trust my own family on anything.

You need to have more faith in the people you rely on. If you can do that, relationships won't be a problem.

[Ruostunut kokis]

You need to have more faith in the people you rely on. If you can do that, relationships won't be a problem.

I don't really trust in anybody, but no-one trusts me either. And I don't blame them: while I keep most of the promises I have to keep, every now and then those get broken. Literally everyone around me is more reliable at anything than I am. I'm not trusted to do even the easiest work available (but I do work alone better than in a group: in groups I get to do nothing. Even people who I've just met don't trust me in the slightest)

 

And I try to think of other people's good too: I know I'm a worthless piece of s***, and thus try to restrain myself from for example getting friends so that no-one has to deal with my crap. And when people ask for me for any sort-of advice, I say to not trust my words, ever (as a lot of times what I say turns out to be false, or just a pathetic lie, even if I don't mean to lie), and instead tell them to look for advice elsewhere.

 

Family also causes quite a bit of trust issues as well... Not gonna say what, but I will say that most of the things they say should only be taken with a grain of salt...

[KemoKa]

I don't really trust in anybody, but no-one trusts me either. And I don't blame them: while I keep most of the promises I have to keep, every now and then those get broken. Literally everyone around me is more reliable at anything than I am. I'm not trusted to do even the easiest work available (but I do work alone better than in a group: in groups I get to do nothing. Even people who I've just met don't trust me in the slightest)

 

And I try to think of other people's good too: I know I'm a worthless piece of s***, and thus try to restrain myself from for example getting friends so that no-one has to deal with my crap. And when people ask for me for any sort-of advice, I say to not trust my words, ever (as a lot of times what I say turns out to be false, or just a pathetic lie, even id I don't mean to lie), and instead tell them to look for advice elsewhere.

 

Family also causes quite a bit of trust issues as well... Not gonna say what, but I will say that most of the things they say should only be taken with a grain of salt...

Degrading yourself doesn't help. All it is going to do is further your depression. I don't have the same problem, and I'm not qualified to really help solve it. The only one who can solve it really is yourself, as cheesy as it sounds. All we can do is come up with suggestions to help you do things better. People trust me with a lot of stuff, and I do the best that I can, but when it comes right down to it, I'm a lying, manipulative little bastard, and I look back on the people I've mirthlessly twisted and I feel awful. But really, the longer I stay in that mindframe, the harder it's going to be to get back on track. I face the problem head on instead of trying to ignore the problem like every other person tells me to, and I do everything I can to help whoever I can, because helping people makes me happy. That's why I come to this forum every day, to help people who need help, not because it raises my ego, but because it helps me do what I need to do to get my problems sorted out, and it doesn't cost me a damn thing.

I don't know you very well, but I have no ill feelings against you. I don't hate people, and I don't judge them. I only do what is best for all sides and if someone's feelings get hurt or if someone gets mad, then that's really their problem. We're all friends here.

Someone out there genuinely cares about you and won't leave your side just because of your faults. Find them and let them bear your burdens with you, and help bear theirs in return.

 

Just because you've done bad things doesn't make you a bad person, nor does it mean your life as you know it has to end. Just do good things for others. That's the least you can do.

[The Crazed Child]

Degrading yourself doesn't help. All it is going to do is further your depression. I don't have the same problem, and I'm not qualified to really help solve it. The only one who can solve it really is yourself, as cheesy as it sounds. All we can do is come up with suggestions to help you do things better. People trust me with a lot of stuff, and I do the best that I can, but when it comes right down to it, I'm a lying, manipulative little bastard, and I look back on the people I've mirthlessly twisted and I feel awful. But really, the longer I stay in that mindframe, the harder it's going to be to get back on track. I face the problem head on instead of trying to ignore the problem like every other person tells me to, and I do everything I can to help whoever I can, because helping people makes me happy. That's why I come to this forum every day, to help people who need help, not because it raises my ego, but because it helps me do what I need to do to get my problems sorted out, and it doesn't cost me a damn thing.

I don't know you very well, but I have no ill feelings against you. I don't hate people, and I don't judge them. I only do what is best for all sides and if someone's feelings get hurt or if someone gets mad, then that's really their problem. We're all friends here.

Someone out there genuinely cares about you and won't leave your side just because of your faults. Find them and let them bear your burdens with you, and help bear theirs in return.

 

Just because you've done bad things doesn't make you a bad person, nor does it mean your life as you know it has to end. Just do good things for others. That's the least you can do.

words cannot describe how amazing this is

[Ruostunut kokis]

Degrading yourself doesn't help. All it is going to do is further your depression. I don't have the same problem, and I'm not qualified to really help solve it. The only one who can solve it really is yourself, as cheesy as it sounds. All we can do is come up with suggestions to help you do things better. People trust me with a lot of stuff, and I do the best that I can, but when it comes right down to it, I'm a lying, manipulative little bastard, and I look back on the people I've mirthlessly twisted and I feel awful. But really, the longer I stay in that mindframe, the harder it's going to be to get back on track. I face the problem head on instead of trying to ignore the problem like every other person tells me to, and I do everything I can to help whoever I can, because helping people makes me happy. That's why I come to this forum every day, to help people who need help, not because it raises my ego, but because it helps me do what I need to do to get my problems sorted out, and it doesn't cost me a damn thing.

I don't know you very well, but I have no ill feelings against you. I don't hate people, and I don't judge them. I only do what is best for all sides and if someone's feelings get hurt or if someone gets mad, then that's really their problem. We're all friends here.

Someone out there genuinely cares about you and won't leave your side just because of your faults. Find them and let them bear your burdens with you, and help bear theirs in return.

 

Just because you've done bad things doesn't make you a bad person, nor does it mean your life as you know it has to end. Just do good things for others. That's the least you can do.

I have difficult time thinking about myself positively anymore. I've been negative towards myself since getting into middle school, and while over time I've started to think a little more realistically, I just can't think anything about myself without thinking that I'm a self-centered egotistic asshole in the process.

 

Some people say being bullied since young age does leave a mark on the person... Could be true: been bullied since preschool, and local teens still do that every time they see me on the streets (but not in school: they avoid high school and similar forms of educations... They're jocks, go figure....) Thanks to them, I had suicidal thoughts at some point, and while I'm over that now (I've had total of 3 years of weekly psychologists' visits in the past), my self-confidence remains shattered in dozens of pieces.

 

I think I'm just wasting everyone's time here. Maybe it's better to just stick to the topic instead of trying to help a helpless cause.

[KemoKa]

I have difficult time thinking about myself positively anymore. I've been negative towards myself since getting into middle school, and while over time I've started to think a little more realistically, I just can't think anything about myself without thinking that I'm a self-centered egotistic asshole in the process.

 

Some people say being bullied since young age does leave a mark on the person... Could be true: been bullied since preschool, and local teens still do that every time they see me on the streets (but not in school: they avoid high school and similar forms of educations... They're jocks, go figure....) Thanks to them, I had suicidal thoughts at some point, and while I'm over that now (I've had total of 3 years of weekly psychologists' visits in the past), my self-confidence remains shattered in dozens of pieces.

 

I think I'm just wasting everyone's time here. Maybe it's better to just stick to the topic instead of trying to help a helpless cause.

Come on, man, don't be like that. If it's worth anything at all to you, we like you! Don't we, fellas? Not called a Linus Media Group for nothing, is it? Not a forum just for shits and giggles, is it? no, we love to help people here, as well as make friends with people we share interests with. You yourself know that, elseways you wouldn't be standing there with 1,100 posts and counting.

 

[Nup]

My god this thread is still going?

 

seems boys and girls are worth taking about, who would have guessed. 

[zappian]

Come on, man, don't be like that. If it's worth anything at all to you, we like you! Don't we, fellas? Not called a Linus Media Group for nothing, is it? Not a forum just for shits and giggles, is it? no, we love to help people here, as well as make friends with people we share interests with. You yourself know that, elseways you wouldn't be standing there with 1,100 posts and counting.

 

Can confirm I like Ruostunut kokis alot.

We are friends.

 

You arent alone . People actually care about you and like you for who you are.

 

Dont put yourself down , self loathing leads to nowhere.

 

You need to find things you like about yourself , start saying positive things about yourself.

 

We are here for you buddy :# 

[Ruostunut kokis]

Come on, man, don't be like that. If it's worth anything at all to you, we like you! Don't we, fellas? Not called a Linus Media Group for nothing, is it? Not a forum just for shits and giggles, is it? no, we love to help people here, as well as make friends with people we share interests with. You yourself know that, elseways you wouldn't be standing there with 1,100 posts and counting.

 

Trying to help by saying positive things that may or may not be true doesn't help. But I do know I'm not (too) hated on LTT forum. I've been here for over a year, and will continue to be here, as with the anonymity, we can have tech-related conversations, where nothing else matters, but the enthusiasm to computers and modern technology.

 

How my things are IRL: I've gotten used to this. I'm fine being alone, and even prefer being alone as opposed to being in some groups. And bullies... While they are a problem for me still, I somewhat know when they are moving on the streets and where, so I know how to avoid them. And it makes me to think more strategically about how to deal with them if they are within close proximity. At least things learned in stealth games aren't completely useless... :lol: Plus their vehicles are loud AF anyway (can be heard from over 500 meters away), so usually it's not too hard to avoid them.

[KemoKa]

Trying to help by saying positive things that may or may not be true doesn't help. But I do know I'm not (too) hated on LTT forum. I've been here for over a year, and will continue to be here, as with the anonymity, we can have tech-related conversations, where nothing else matters, but the enthusiasm to computers and modern technology.

Well, just take stock in the fact that you have people on here you can talk to. zappian and me think you're a cool guy, at the very least.

[XTankSlayerX]

Imma bump in here and ask a rather simple question...

What's the difference between a girlfriend and a a really good friend?

My friend and i were talking about it and the only conclusion we came down to was that it's all words of mouth.

As for me, well not yet. I haven't had a girlfriend yet, but theres n9 rush considering I've been "blessed" with some very loving people.

[Nup]

Imma bump in here and ask a rather simple question...

What's the difference between a girlfriend and a a really good friend?

My friend and i were talking about it and the only conclusion we came down to was that it's all words of mouth.

As for me, well not yet. I haven't had a girlfriend yet, but theres n9 rush considering I've been "blessed" with some very loving people.

 

To me the answer to that is the physical side of a relationship. 

 

To me a parter, should first and foremost be your best friend, so I see where you're coming form. After that comes mushy mushy feelings  

 

Good discussion you guys had going. 

[1Scotty1]

I had my very first girlfriend when I was 20. (now I am 25) - and now we are married and have a daughter top kek

[zappian]

Imma bump in here and ask a rather simple question...

What's the difference between a girlfriend and a a really good friend?

My friend and i were talking about it and the only conclusion we came down to was that it's all words of mouth.

As for me, well not yet. I haven't had a girlfriend yet, but theres n9 rush considering I've been "blessed" with some very loving people.

 

 

The distinction is simple , if you have a best friend that you constantly think about , you hold hands constantly and you kiss them( in the mouth plz)

 

You are not just friends.

 

The type of intimacy is just different , i woundlt kiss my best friend in the mouth ( in some cultures is different i know) .

 

I will draw the line there probably.

 

This doesn't exist IRL:

 

 

I love scrubs sorry.

[XTankSlayerX]

To me the answer to that is the physical side of a relationship.

To me a parter, should first and foremost be your best friend, so I see where you're coming form. After that comes mushy mushy feelings

Good discussion you guys had going.

Haha not bad for a pair of 15/16 year olds eh?

Yeah, most of feelngs we've had towards each other have mostly been made out of relateable things and friendship i guess?

On another note, what is love? (baby don't hu-ill cut that out...)

I can't really explain it, it just feels nice (loving and being love struck might be 2 different feels but oh well.)

Edit: Yes. She is a girl, only friend i have really...I'm lonely *sobs*

[Nup]

Haha not bad for a pair of 15/16 year olds eh?

Yeah, most of feelngs we've had towards each other have mostly been made out of relateable things and friendship i guess?

On another note, what is love? (baby don't hu-ill cut that out...)

I can't really explain it, it just feels nice (loving and being love struck might be 2 different feels but oh well.)

Edit: Yes. She is a girl, only friend i have really...I'm lonely *sobs*

 

Haha indeed, age is just a number though  

 

I guess so, that makes sense. I guess like Zappian said, it's a next level of intimacy. 

 

I have no idea man, haha, to me its just being happy (so very happy) with someone else's company.

 

Well there are different types of love, as you say. One you may have for your mother and the other your lover. One is no less then the other but the two are quite different. 

 

Its very hard to come by good friends. you're a lucky guy  

[ComradeHX]

She looks good with nothing on.

[zappian]

She looks good with nothing on.

 

Nice Pillow.

[XTankSlayerX]

Its very hard to come by good friends. you're a lucky guy

Haha thanks, only bad thing is that i don't get too see her very often at all. We life in different bits of BC (she lives in Richmond, i live in Surrey closer to Linus Senpai) i only get to talk to her a few times a week (compared to every day in the summer) so all we have is text and the like. Which we normally do if she's not busy studying away (she's a straight A student).

Only times we do get to see each other is when she comes over for a sleepover, which happens about 10 times in the year.

Yeah... I miss her haha.

Edit: you and i seem to be the only ones being serious lol.

[chimmychunger]

My god this thread is still going?

 

seems boys and girls are worth taking about, who would have guessed. 

 

ye i must have started this thread about a year and a bit ago

[Redut]

i want to have a relationship like ot genasis has with the coco

[chimmychunger]

i want to have a relationship like ot genasis has with the coco

 

[RedSpade]

Imma bump in here and ask a rather simple question...

What's the difference between a girlfriend and a a really good friend?

My friend and i were talking about it and the only conclusion we came down to was that it's all words of mouth.

As for me, well not yet. I haven't had a girlfriend yet, but theres n9 rush considering I've been "blessed" with some very loving people.

IMO it's all a sliding scale, girlfriend and friends overlap a lot. The only difference is the title.

 

On topic: Have a girlfriend of 3+ years (been long distance for the past year which sucks  )

[chimmychunger]

IMO it's all a sliding scale, girlfriend and friends overlap a lot. The only difference is the title.

 

On topic: Have a girlfriend of 3+ years (been long distance for the past year which sucks  )

 

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