Female advice?

[Trik'Stari]

I've been trying to figure this out FOREVER.

 

From my experience I have deduced the following

1. Women complain about men never wanting to commit, but are afraid of any man who is willing to commit.

2. Women expect men to do all the work of keeping both romance and conversation going.

 

Thusly, I have stopped looking. If a woman want's to pursue me she is more than welcome to. But I will not waste my time on women that expect me to do all the work in the relationship.

 

This was not aimed in any way at "all" women, only at most, as this is how most women are in my experience.

[helping]

Just as old as your trolling capabilities

15

Well damn, that stings.

I was going to suggest alcohol as the quickest and easiest solution.

I'm not saying that it's no longer a solution, it just isn't as easy as it could have been,

[ChipWoodChainSaw]

dont say that... you dont move in for the kill. 

 

also, does she live far away?

sorry, wasn't sure how to say it lol. Um yes, i mean i have never asked for her address but the school district has separate campuses (east and west, i went to west and she went to east) and in middle and high school both come together and yea she live a good distance away.

[ChipWoodChainSaw]

that just means she isnt interested in you... women dont inherently decide someone is just a friend. you just arent her type. move on, find another one

she has never said this.

[LukaP]

sorry, wasn't sure how to say it lol. Um yes, i mean i have never asked for her address but the school district has separate campuses (east and west, i went to west and she went to east) and in middle and high school both come together and yea she live a good distance away.

well ask her out. use the bus if needed. oh and if she says no, move on. its probable she isnt interested. 

[ChipWoodChainSaw]

Well damn, that stings.

I was going to suggest alcohol as the quickest and easiest solution.

I'm not saying that it's no longer a solution, it just isn't as easy as it could have been,

lol 

[scaryjam823]

But...shes pretty, and nice and not a preppy girl...the only girl like this FYI

That may be, but you won't just click with everyone and not everyone you like will like you the same. When you're talking to someone who is interested in you, someone who you can actually get along with the conversation wont be forced and will feel natural. I worried about the same thing, until I met this one girl. Granted we aren't together anymore ( long story) we never had a forced conversation. We talked and texted everyday for over a year. It was comfortable, natural. When you find the right person it will be the same, until then you just need to try with others. Just be cool, has a conversation like she is a human not a female you're really interested in. If she wants the same then things will progress to where you want to be with them. If they don't want the same then the conversation will feel like what you're experiencing now and you need to move on.

[ChipWoodChainSaw]

well ask her out. use the bus if needed. oh and if she says no, move on. its probable she isnt interested. 

yea. i mean im not trying really hard to talk to her just every once and a while "hey, whats up?"

 

She know i sorta like her because i have a great friend who was dating her friend and she toll EVERYONE.

 

And i have moved on many times but she is the last one im interested in the rest of the girls at my school are preps and i really dont like how they treat other people so yea...im screwed till Collage i guess.  i really don't think any girls i like like me back in anyway i must be ugly, i know i gots personality because girls have told me but i...idk anymore what ever 

 

sorry i rambled

[Trik'Stari]

that just means she isnt interested in you... women dont inherently decide someone is just a friend. you just arent her type. move on, find another one

Interesting to me how women do this, usually without ever even giving the man a chance, or truly getting to know them

 

It seems women (in my experience) are only interested in dating (and sleeping with in my experience) men they don't know anything about, and always end up with douchebags.

 

Again, just my experience. I'm the type that want's to wait till marriage, and I've been "dumped" for heroin, meth, and crack addicts that ended up beating the girls, and leaving them when they got pregnant.

 

sigh.....

[Fred Castellum]

Well damn, that stings.

I was going to suggest alcohol as the quickest and easiest solution.

I'm not saying that it's no longer a solution, it just isn't as easy as it could have been,

HEhehe

[DildorTheDecent]

How old are you OP?

Old enough to party.

[Snickerzz]

Might as well if you're gonna call them "females".

whats your prefered word then?

[LukaP]

yea. i mean im not trying really hard to talk to her just every once and a while "hey, whats up?"

 

She know i sorta like her because i have a great friend who was dating her friend and she toll EVERYONE.

 

And i have moved on many times but she is the last one im interested in the rest of the girls at my school are preps and i really dont like how they treat other people so yea...im screwed till Collage i guess.  i really don't think any girls i like like me back in anyway i must be ugly, i know i gots personality because girls have told me but i...idk anymore what ever 

 

sorry i rambled

you cant be that ugly. its probably just that you arent the type that these girls prefer. try to start talking to some that arent that popular in school. those usually (if they arent assholes) prefer to get to know you before making a judgement.

 

Interesting to me how women do this, usually without ever even giving the man a chance, or truly getting to know them

 

It seems women (in my experience) are only interested in dating (and sleeping with in my experience) men they don't know anything about, and always end up with douchebags.

 

Again, just my experience. I'm the type that want's to wait till marriage, and I've been "dumped" for heroin, meth, and crack addicts that ended up beating the girls, and leaving them when they got pregnant.

 

sigh.....

youve had weird experience...

[ChipWoodChainSaw]

That may be, but you won't just click with everyone and not everyone you like will like you the same. When you're talking to someone who is interested in you, someone who you can actually get along with the conversation wont be forced and will feel natural. I worried about the same thing, until I met this one girl. Granted we aren't together anymore ( long story) we never had a forced conversation. We talked and texted everyday for over a year. It was comfortable, natural. When you find the right person it will be the same, until then you just need to try with others. Just be cool, has a conversation like she is a human not a female you're really interested in. If she wants the same then things will progress to where you want to be with them. If they don't want the same then the conversation will feel like what you're experiencing now and you need to move on.

well out of the 600 something girls in my school she is the last one i am interested in the rest are preps who are all not single and dating the preppy boys who are the dickyist people.    

[Trik'Stari]

you cant be that ugly. its probably just that you arent the type that these girls prefer. try to start talking to some that arent that popular in school. those usually (if they arent assholes) prefer to get to know you before making a judgement.

 

youve had weird experience...

Lol not in my experience, I usually end up being shy, because women seem to get scared when you're ready to say I love you after 2 or 3 dates (yet complain men never want to commit).

 

Basically,

[LukaP]

Lol not in my experience, I usually end up being shy, because women seem to get scared when you're ready to say I love you after 2 or 3 dates (yet complain men never want to commit).

 

Basically,

 

just dont say i love you.

 

say that you reaaly like where this is going.

[Mojo-Jojo]

whats your prefered word then?

Girls. Women. Ladies. Something that actually sounds like you're talking about human beings.

Don't get me wrong; females is technically not wrong, but it sounds sanitary and distant. Also possibly objectifying.

[Trik'Stari]

just dont say i love you.

 

say that you reaaly like where this is going.

Why?

 

Why would I want to be in a relationship with someone who's afraid of my being honest? who's afraid to acknowledge their own emotions or follow them?

 

The only thing, THE ONLY THING, that has ever mattered to me, was that I felt as though they wanted to be with me as much as I want to be with them, which is never the case.

 

Women just seem to be so cold to me, uncaring and cold.

[LukaP]

Why?

 

Why would I want to be in a relationship with someone who's afraid of my being honest? who's afraid to acknowledge their own emotions or follow them?

 

The only thing, THE ONLY THING, that has ever mattered to me, was that I felt as though they wanted to be with me as much as I want to be with them, which is never the case.

 

Women just seem to be so cold to me, uncaring and cold.

i know that. but sometimes you just have to wait. not everyone can get attached fast. and if you wait with it, there is a better chance you will end up in a stable relationship. when/if she is ready, you will know

[ChipWoodChainSaw]

you cant be that ugly. its probably just that you arent the type that these girls prefer. try to start talking to some that arent that popular in school. those usually (if they arent assholes) prefer to get to know you before making a judgement.

 

well out of the 600 something girls in my school she is the last one i am interested in the rest are preps who are all not single and dating the preppy boys who are the dickyist people.  She is not super popular but people know her, she is not a asshole.

[Trik'Stari]

i know that. but sometimes you just have to wait. not everyone can get attached fast. and if you wait with it, there is a better chance you will end up in a stable relationship. when/if she is ready, you will know

Meh, they never seem to take an interest in me. I've been on POF for over a year now and had maybe 2 girls total message me, who inexplicably stopped messaging me for absolutely no reason.

 

I'm just going to stop looking, and if one finds me so be it, if not it proves my theory that

[Misanthrope]

yea i do but its always the same 

 

Me: How has your day been?

Her:Good

Me:Cool, do anything majestic? 

Her: No, u?

Me:(i could have said that i final made a platformer game but...) No...summer is pretty boring

Her: Yep

Me: Yep...but i think im going to try to do something before its over

NO RESPONSE 

 

I take my previous post back: she just doesn't seems interested in you at all, move on.

[TwistedDictator]

if she doesnt want to text you then you're boring or not interested.

 

I sense many virgins in this convo.

 

My first advice, dont keep texting and dont always reply straight away. make a interesting convo and take the piss to reply at times. If you want to go out for a date then  ask her, dont be a puss. Text isnt a problem, if you cant speak to a girl in real life then  that a problem.

[Trik'Stari]

I take my previous post back: she just doesn't seems interested in you at all, move on.

As I said, women make no real attempt to get to know people (at least most of them) before dismissing them

[ChipWoodChainSaw]

I take my previous post back: she just doesn't seems interested in you at all, move on.

damn...