A guy is harassing my girlfriend. What to do?

[IMPERIUS]

Hi!

 

So every time my gf goes on the bus to home a guy always speaks to her, today he even pulled back her bag to "see if she has an ass" and then I decided to do something about it.

 

Disclaimer: I'm not an overprotective guy and I do this because she said she really doesn't like it and wants him to stop.

 

Situation: since my gf is a very friendly person she couldn't ignore his "hey, how are you doing?" messages on FB and snapchat they started to chat. She doesn't like him but she did it because she's just that type of person who doesn't have the heart to say "no" to anybody. So its up to me to get rid of him. He is older than me so the "beat him up" plan won't work here. Also no friends can be used here because of the situation given

 

So I can message him via snapchat or FB (preferably on snapchat) or the extreme way would be to go on the same bus as she and sit with her, pretend to not be her bf and if he says anything to her I can be like: "wtf are you talking to? My girlfriend?" and that should be enough to make him stop harassing her. Only problem is that me and her don't ride on the same busses and there is like a 1% chance I could go with her on it since my parents don't allow me to just go on a random bus and would be very mad at me why I came 2h later than usual home.

 

What would you do in my situation? IMO the easiest way to do it is via snapchat but what to write?

 

Thanks!

[flibberdipper]

[terrytek]

Find the sucker and just sock his face.

 

Kidding, just tell him you'll call the cops

[xnoobftw]

Hi!

 

So every time my gf goes on the bus to home a guy always speaks to her, today he even pulled back her bag to "see if she has an ass" and then I decided to do something about it.

 

Disclaimer: I'm not an overprotective guy and I do this because she said she really doesn't like it and wants him to stop.

 

Situation: since my gf is a very friendly person she couldn't ignore his "hey, how are you doing?" messages on FB and snapchat they started to chat. She doesn't like him but she did it because she's just that type of person who doesn't have the heart to say "no" to anybody. So its up to me to get rid of him. He is older than me so the "beat him up" plan won't work here. Also no friends can be used here because of the situation given

 

So I can message him via snapchat or FB (preferably on snapchat) or the extreme way would be to go on the same bus as she and sit with her, pretend to not be her bf and if he says anything to her I can be like: "wtf are you talking to? My girlfriend?" and that should be enough to make him stop harassing her. Only problem is that me and her don't ride on the same busses and there is like a 1% chance I could go with her on it since my parents don't allow me to just go on a random bus and would be very mad at me why I came 2h later than usual home.

 

What would you do in my situation? IMO the easiest way to do it is via snapchat but what to write?

 

Thanks!

I would say go with her personally. Explain to your parents why do you need to do this

[airdeano]

go to the po-po and file a report. if it does not subside, then a writ of no contact order.

[Bittenfleax]

Well if "beat him up" is not an option... Just, give her a tazer and next time he does something bad.. She just tazes the f*ck out of him???

[jayctech]

[Ciccioo]

>  today he even pulled back her bag to "see if she has an ass"

> she didn't tell him that it's not cool

> chats with him

if i were the guy, i would have zero reasons to stop, even if the boyfriend came to complain, especially if i'm not scared of him

i think she's the one who has to do something, she just has to tell him that she doesn't like what he's doing, or that she has a boyfriend already. if that doesn't work, come back here and we'll proceed to plan B

[IMPERIUS]

go to the po-po and file a report. if it does not subside, then a writ of no contact order.

Find the sucker and just sock his face.

 

Kidding, just tell him you'll call the cops

 

Its not like he would be touching her its not that bad. He's just very annoying and because my gf is a very friendly person and can't just ignore him (they see each other every day on the bus home btw) he thinks she likes him and therefore he even more spams her with messages. 

He stopped for a bit when we sent him a snap of us two together but what happened today with the bag is a bit too much imo

 

Well if "beat him up" is not an option... Just, give her a tazer and next time he does something bad.. She just tazes the f*ck out of him???

 

Thats illegal here 

[Laurysss]

Wow you miss something and make your parents angry for helping your girlfriend. Why is she with you ? Sorry for the words bud, but you have to do everything for your loved one.

 

Whats the age difference between you and that guy? Dont be a pussy, just go on the bus with her. Tell him to fuck off or you will call the cops.

 

And tazers arent allowed? What about chili spray or whatever its called(to spray to the eyes) ? So you basicly cant have deffence. Some countrys these days.

[IMPERIUS]

if i were the guy, i would have zero reasons to stop, even if the boyfriend came to complain, especially if i'm not scared of him

i think she's the one who has to do something, she just has to tell him that she doesn't like what he's doing, or that she has a boyfriend already. if that doesn't work, come back here and we'll proceed to plan B

 

Yes and thats the problem. But knowing her for over 2 years now I know she won't say anything at least for now, maybe in the near future

[IMPERIUS]

Wow you miss something and make your parents angry for helping your girlfriend. Why is she with you ? Sorry for the words bud, but you have to do everything for your loved one.

 

True. I might just go yolo and risk something for her

[Trik'Stari]

Get her to get a friend on the bus record his harassment, and report it to the school and or police if necessary.

 

Wow you miss something and make your parents angry for helping your girlfriend. Why is she with you ? Sorry for the words bud, but you have to do everything for your loved one.

 

Very true. But there are smarter and better ways to go about it. But I agree, to hell with his parents.

[Dzzope]

You gf really needs to learn to handle unwanted attention better.

 

Thats how I'd deal with it.. if he doesn't get the message and continues after SHE has made it clear THEN you can intervene..

Biggest problem at the moment is that HE will think your being an over-protective bf (possibly) as your gf has been nice to him up to now.

 

It's all well and good being a nice girl but unless she learns how to treat people honestly she will do more harm to both herself and others than she will do good.

 

I'm not saying she needs to be mean but she needs to make it clear to him that she is not interested in him in that way 

[imperialplanet]

kick him in the dick, and tell him to leave her alone

[Laurysss]

True. I might just go yolo and risk something for her

Man.... Just dedicate yourself to her.

[ImBleu]

I'll be that guy but, your girlfriend is the problem. If she doesnt mention that she doesnt like it or doesnt mention that she has a boyfriend, as far as he knows she's single and interested. 

[IMPERIUS]

You gf really needs to learn to handle unwanted attention better.

 

Thats how I'd deal with it.. if he doesn't get the message and continues after SHE has made it clear THEN you can intervene..

Biggest problem at the moment is that HE will think your being an over-protective bf (possibly) as your gf has been nice to him up to now.

 

It's all well and good being a nice girl but unless she learns how to treat people honestly she will do more harm to both herself and others than she will do good.

 

Agree. She was replying in a "cold" way but I guess he'll keep on going.

And will try to convince her to say something to him

[IMPERIUS]

I'll be that guy but, your girlfriend is the problem. If she doesnt mention that she doesnt like it or doesnt mention that she has a boyfriend, as far as he knows she's single and interested. 

 

He knows she has me. Gonna see me soon in person too I guess

[Dzzope]

Yea, I mean just be clear that she doesn't like him doing that stuff but will "still be friends"

 

If he keeps going, she needs to cut any ties and let him know she thinks he's being a creep and to leave her alone.. if still doesn't stop.. THEN you get directly involved (or parents / cops / teachers as necessary)

[Grrizz]

While maintaining the rouse of being your GF send him a dick pic on snap chat with something along the lines of "feeling lonely"... if that doesn't work you're in trouble...

[airdeano]

Hi!

 

So every time my gf goes on the bus to home a guy always speaks to her, today he even pulled back her bag to "see if she has an ass" and then I decided to do something about it.

 

this is battery. touching someone else's personal property without permission

when attached to the owner is battery. next-time it might be more personal

or damaging. so this could be an escalation issue and if not addressed can

turn into something over your jurisdiction of reprise. alert the authorities

and let them rule on the legalities.

[stconquest]

He knows she has me. Gonna see me soon in person too I guess

 

If the only reason he has made advances is that he thinks she is pretty, then it is neither her fault nor yours.  If it continues there will be a confrontation, try talking to him... sternly.  (just in case, always be ready to duck/bob/weave)

 

If he does not back off, involve the police.  Here in Canada, that touching her bag to look at her ass thing is sexual assault.

[JamGorby]

if i were the guy, i would have zero reasons to stop, even if the boyfriend came to complain, especially if i'm not scared of him

i think she's the one who has to do something, she just has to tell him that she doesn't like what he's doing, or that she has a boyfriend already. if that doesn't work, come back here and we'll proceed to plan B

 

 

You gf really needs to learn to handle unwanted attention better.

 

Thats how I'd deal with it.. if he doesn't get the message and continues after SHE has made it clear THEN you can intervene..

Biggest problem at the moment is that HE will think your being an over-protective bf (possibly) as your gf has been nice to him up to now.

 

It's all well and good being a nice girl but unless she learns how to treat people honestly she will do more harm to both herself and others than she will do good.

 

I'm not saying she needs to be mean but she needs to make it clear to him that she is not interested in him in that way 

These guys know what they're talking about. 

She needs to be firm and tell the guy what's up first. If you really don't like a person you have no real reason to be nice to them, after all. And if she did that to my satisfaction, I would kick the dude in the dick.

If she didn't or claims she "couldn't do it" to my satisfaction, I'd be like "it's time we have a little chat". 

I mean, you don't go around being all nice to some chick whose checking out your ass when you don't want her too, right? 

Not to stultify you or your girl, but you should only expect from someone you're with what you'd do for them. Nothing less, nothing more. 

[Trik'Stari]

this is battery. touching someone else's personal property without permission

when attached to the owner is battery. next-time it might be more personal

or damaging. so this could be an escalation issue and if not addressed can

turn into something over your jurisdiction of reprise. alert the authorities

and let them rule on the legalities.

^this.

 

While it would be infinitely more satisfying to just deck the f***ker, it would also not solve the problem. Especially today when kids don't get the message, and come back with a gun or a knife or whatever.

 

Just get someone to record the harassment, and take it to the principle/cops and have your GF file a complaint. That's the only way it's going to stop.