Got out of the friendzone!

[Hidden Orange]

I cannot, nobody really can

Man, your avatar is trippy...

 

Er... Congrats, OP? :huh:

[Mooshi]

-words-

 

I agree about the friendship thing being a myth. Usually guys are all "I'm too nice" blah blah and the reality of it is, those same men are usually extremely creepy, stalkerish or clingy. There are several females I am friends with, but I have zero desire to be in a relationship with them or even cheat to be in a relationship with. Women don't say "friendzone", insecure men do. Those men fail to realize the simple fact that they are not gods gift to females and women are not shiny objects. Women have their own pref in a partners just like men do. Even if the two share hobbies, you still need the initial attraction and confidence is a huge booster. The whole concept of friendship zone is eh.

[Skylercompany]

Girls always use a tactic to lure you in.

 

I'm glad she ended up accepting your offer, don't let her down .

[KamiKatze]

Good Luck.

 

Btw. never show her this thread or mention it at all! Hip people still use Facebook 9/10 times to vomit out their social activities. You don't want to be the tech creep next week again now do you?

[flibberdipper]

Meanwhile, I continue to try and get out of it...

[Darkman]

Meanwhile, I continue to try and get out of it...

Not the only one..

[flibberdipper]

Not the only one..

I feel close. But it could just be another ploy.

[Deletive]

@BloodWithIce I really hope your pp isn't her.

lol, but I'm starting to hate to word friendzone. but that just because my guy friends use it a lot talking about a girl i'm close to.

[Deletive]

Meanwhile, I continue to try and get out of it...

You'll probably get out of it eventually, i've got 21 rejections in a row before I finally met the one. and she's overclocked running cool with a h80i.

jk jk...   I've never had a girlfriend... but now I just chill on LTT because summer break.

[Le Lion de Barreras]

Congrats OP.

Second person I know of to get out of the friendzone.

[Stadiz]

X:Houston we have lift off !!!

Y:Begin phase 2.

X: Whats phase 2?

Y: Thats for OP. 

[pk-man]

TC deserves it own title: "broke the friendzone barrier"

 

Does she read the LTT forums?  You better close this thread if she does....

[LifesCompanion]

r u a wizard?

[Misanthrope]

Pro tip: Unless she's a confirmed geek herself, don't mention Linus or any other tech youtubers for that matter.

 

And yeah in the past when I was young and stupid I got "friendzoned" a lot but I just didn't made a clean cut because "I value friendship" which a bullshit rationalization I was telling myself hoping to turn them around. As pathetic as it sounds that strategy did worked once but after a while I said nah fuck that I should just move on and not hang around uninterested people.

 

Anyway my rules against hitting on someone who was a friend first might have worked a bit too well since I apparently ended up friendzoning someone myself until she got a bit drunk and came on to me. In my defense though I missed her pretty obvious signals (like grind dancing and one "accidental" and another "joking" kiss) in the past because she had a pretty serious boyfriend and in fact freaked out and stopped talking to me after the first time we hooked up but well, those are her issues to solve I don't care.

[OhNoesItsDobby]

Well man, you're one of the few people (both men and women) who managed to turn an initial friendship (where one person got shot down) into an actual relationship.

 

However, I must note that the "Friendzone" isn't actually a thing. It's not real. We (men) have just made that shit up.

 

"I just got friendzoned" said no woman ever.

 

Check this out:

http://www.rsvlts.com/2014/05/01/friendzone-is-not-a-thing/

 

It blew my fucking mind reading it. I admit that I thought I've been "friendzoned" many times before. But honestly it just comes down to if you get "friendzoned" then she's just not attracted to you or you're not her type.

 

You might encounter the occasional woman who just won't give you the chance to see if you even ARE her type, but then, why would you even want to date a person like that anyway?

This is the really irritating thing about discussing the the friendzone, it is totally a thing, but people overanalyse it way too much. It all boils down to; "I like this girl/boy, but the feeling isn't mutual." That's it. It's all very well saying "Uuh she doesn't owe you anything you're not her type" and all that malarkey, and it may well be true, but the only people that need reminding of this are those who wallow in self-pity about it and/or blame the object of their failed affections. The adult response should simply be "Well, I asked her/him out but they don't feel the same way, I just need to move on."

 

I'm in sort of a similar predicament, 3 years back I befriended this girl while on holiday. Funny, clever, and absolutely gorgeous, but she lives in Liverpool and I in Buckinghamshire (roughly 160 miles apart), and though we're in pretty regular contact through Facebook, due to the distance I get the feeling that if she felt the same way about me as I do for her, something would've developed by now. I've basically come to terms with the fact that I should nut up and tell her how I feel and see what happens, and who knows, I might even be pleasantly surprised, but if she says no, then unfortunately that's just the end of it.

 

It's simply the sort of thing you have to suck up and move on from, else you'll be dwelling uselessly on it and just making yourself feel far worse.

 

/Rant

 

Back on topic though, nice one OP, you are one seriously lucky guy. Best of luck to you and the new missus.

[Chris is awesome]

Congratz fellow ex-friendzoner

 

This one is on me

 

[ilikemacandpc]

Holy mother of linus... that's good

[Sammael]

Congrats but you actually said "Holy mother of Linus"? Fucking hell that's cringeworthy

 

 

At least he did not respond with:

 

(I knew it, she wants the D ! )