Plz help me with a girl situation
59 minutes ago, lolzisgoodforu said:ok sure im gay, whatever you say, but i value the friendship between us, JUST a friendship and i think she tried to turn into more and i dont want that, but i obviously dont want to just kill our friendship and she already knows i have a girlfriend so it was kind of odd for her to send that in the first place, so that kind of pissed me off and triggered a less subtle response. What is it with you people???? Am I not allowed to value a friendship without wanting sex?? And yes I do regret what I said because that was an angered response, I wish I could've just told her not to send me stuff like that in a more polite way.
Well first, it would have provided valuable context in your opening post to tell us the following things:
1. You have a girlfriend
2. You're not interested in this girl, "Hope"
3. You didn't appreciate her sending the image, and don't want her to send them
4. You were specifically confused about what she meant by her response "Ben. No."
I understand that you're frustrated with the responses (Especially, the whole "everyone assumes you want to fuck her" thing). But your OP was, frankly, extremely unclear.
As for what she means? No idea. You should have asked her.
Something simple like "I don't understand what you mean by that. Can you explain it to me?" would likely be sufficient. Teenagers are notoriously morons (no offense) for not saying what they mean, or asking if they need clarification.
It's entirely possible she simply didn't find the picture revealing. Showing a bit of underboob isn't inherently telling someone "Yo I'm down to fuck". Sometimes underboob just happens, and it's not really a big deal unless one of you makes it a big deal. Now if she was showing some nip or hardcore sideboob, that would be a bit different.
Either way, if you don't want her to send you those kinds of images, THEN TELL HER SO. I get that you want to keep her as a friend, but she must respect you and your wishes and your comfort level. If she doesn't respect that, then she's not worth being friends with. Plain and simple.
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