How2FirstDate?

[Noyu]

This is not a tutorial, this is me, a 22.7 y/o virgin (who has been single his whole life), genuinely asking for help on how to ask "her" out on a date.

 

I know this isn't conventional at the very least. But I want opinion and suggestions from people who have the same interests as me.

 

Some Backstory:

1. I'm bored with my life

2. been single forever (haven't even been on a single date yet)

3. have very high standards (hence the #2)

4. I may or may not have friendzoned some grils who were into me but are like, a 4/10

5. I found this gril on Tinder. Same age. Came from the same school but like, I'm Eng'g and she's Accountancy

5.1 Got her to add me on FB with some pretty slick moves (not really, I just found her on FB through a mutual friend). Not sure why she decided to accept the friend request.

5.2 We both have regular jobs.

6. To let you know what kind of person I am, I was considering getting a dog to un-bore me, but I live with my sisters and they no allow. #sad

 

For the question, is it too risky of a move to ask her on a first date NOW? And how do I do it?
"So, would you like to play some League with me" - kidding here, I'm pretty sure she no gamer.

We barely know each other at this point. But I'm under the impression that getting-to-know should happen during the first date.

 

Thoughts please. I'm here all week.

[Noyu]

OH OH OH, I forgot to say.

 

I never have, even once, talked to a girl I liked, face2face.

Back in HS, or even in college, it was all through text/chat. ahahahahahahaha

[killcomic]

I would start by spelling the title of your post correctly.

[Noyu]

2 minutes ago, killcomic said:

I would start by spelling the title of your post correctly.

But, why? ahaha

[Arty]

show her your hardware  

[killcomic]

2 minutes ago, Noyu said:

But, why? ahaha

Because you sound like a berk. It doesn't make you look cool or intelligent. You sound just like a little kid who spends too much time on the internet.

[paps511]

Find a girl and 

[Noyu]

2 minutes ago, killcomic said:

Because you sound like a berk. It doesn't make you look cool or intelligent, just like a little kid who spends too much time on the internet.

That's probably accurate.

 

I am a fool

BUT, I'm not trying to be cool or intelligent with the title. I was just being lazy.

and, I do spend too much time on the internet.

[killcomic]

4 minutes ago, killcomic said:

Because you sound like a berk. It doesn't make you look cool or intelligent, just like a little kid who spends too much time on the internet.

Seriously, put in the effort. It will pay off in the end. Your chances of scoring are greatly increased when they see a guy that puts in the effort and get stuff done.

[AWF_Noone]

Everyone here is so helpful...

Heres some real advice:

Just ask if she wants to do anything.  Not everything a guy and girl do together is a "Date".  Just hang out with her and see if you can even stand being around her for extended periods of time.  Go from there.  If it doesn't come naturally, I would find someone else.  Oh and plan out what your going to do with her.  Nothing turns off a girl more than an indecisive guy with no confidence.  Confidence is key here.  Oh, and ask her "face2face". DONE ask thru FB, text, etc.

[Noyu]

3 minutes ago, AWF_Noone said:

Everyone here is so helpful...

Heres some real advice:

Just ask if she wants to do anything.  Not everything a guy and girl do together is a "Date".  Just hang out with her and see if you can even stand being around her for extended periods of time.  Go from there.  If it doesn't come naturally, I would find someone else.  Oh and plan out what your going to do with her.  Nothing turns off a girl more than an indecisive guy with no confidence.  Confidence is key here.  Oh, and ask her "face2face". DONE ask thru FB, text, etc.

Huh. Good point there. But, we're total strangers.
Should I be like, "Wanna do something this Saturday?" ahahahaha

[AWF_Noone]

2 minutes ago, Noyu said:

Huh. Good point there. But, we're total strangers.
Should I be like, "Wanna do something this Saturday?" ahahahaha

 

Lol sure.  If I were you, I would ask if she wants to go see Superman v Batman (March 25).  Super open door right there for ya.  Or ask if she wants to try a new restaurant, etc.  Movies are uncommitmental (I promise its a word) and I would go eat or something for your real "Date"

[DominicNikon]

23 minutes ago, Arty said:

show her your hardware  

most girls i know dont even know how to plug a keyboard and mouse into the back of a computer let alone know what pc specs mean

[Noyu]

10 minutes ago, AWF_Noone said:

 

Lol sure.  If I were you, I would ask if she wants to go see Superman v Batman (March 25).  Super open door right there for ya.  Or ask if she wants to try a new restaurant, etc.  Movies are uncommitmental (I promise its a word) and I would go eat or something for your real "Date"

This is probably you on mate4all. HAHAHAHAHAHA

Moving on, nice suggestion. So I just gotta keep her interested till then.

(I'm not even sure if she's still interested now) ahahahaha

Edited March 7, 2016 by Noyu
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[AWF_Noone]

Just now, Noyu said:

 

 

This is probably you on mate4all. HAHAHAHAHAHA

Moving on, nice suggestion. So I just gotta keep her interested till then.

(I'm not even sure if she's still interested now) ahahahaha

Lol wut

[AWF_Noone]

3 minutes ago, Noyu said:

This is probably you on mate4all. HAHAHAHAHAHA

Moving on, nice suggestion. So I just gotta keep her interested till then.

(I'm not even sure if she's still interested now) ahahahaha

 

Ohhh

[Noyu]

1 minute ago, AWF_Noone said:

 

Ohhh

gotcha ahahahaha

Women are like a jigsaw puzzle of abstract art. T_T

[afyeung]

41 minutes ago, Noyu said:

 

smh. Your post makes it seem like you just wanna smash and play games. Which isn't a bad idea, but 99.99% of girls aren't into that. Especially if you have "high standards". Probably go on Facebook, see what she's into. If any of those seem remotely interesting, find time to do those. And message her about them. 

[BuckGup]

BuyATitanXAndSaveLotsOfMoneyAndTimeAndFocusOnYourCareerAsYouWillNotMarryThisPersonAndIfYouDoItWillNotLast

[Noyu]

31 minutes ago, afyeung said:

smh. Your post makes it seem like you just wanna smash and play games. Which isn't a bad idea, but 99.99% of girls aren't into that. Especially if you have "high standards". Probably go on Facebook, see what she's into. If any of those seem remotely interesting, find time to do those. And message her about them. 

From what I gather she traves alot with family. And goes to night-outs (the dinner type) with friends, where she's usually a 3rd,5th, or 7th wheel.

 

20 minutes ago, SamStrecker said:

BuyATitanXAndSaveLotsOfMoneyAndTimeAndFocusOnYourCareerAsYouWillNotMarryThisPersonAndIfYouDoItWillNotLast

If I have money for a Titan X, I wouldn't be here asking for advice. ahahahaha

I'd probably be off to some RPG world where I'm king and sht. ahahaha

[BuckGup]

8 minutes ago, Noyu said:

From what I gather she traves alot with family. And goes to night-outs (the dinner type) with friends, where she's usually a 3rd,5th, or 7th wheel.

 

If I have money for a Titan X, I wouldn't be here asking for advice. ahahahaha

I'd probably be off to some RPG world where I'm king and sht. ahahaha

You will spend enough to buy a Titan X on her in the future. You are also asking for trouble.

[Noyu]

11 minutes ago, SamStrecker said:

You will spend enough to buy a Titan X on her in the future. You are also asking for trouble.

I taste bitterness, and salt. ahahahaha

[Fgtfv567]

3 hours ago, AWF_Noone said:

Everyone here is so helpful...

Heres some real advice:

Just ask if she wants to do anything.  Not everything a guy and girl do together is a "Date".  Just hang out with her and see if you can even stand being around her for extended periods of time.  Go from there.  If it doesn't come naturally, I would find someone else.  Oh and plan out what your going to do with her.  Nothing turns off a girl more than an indecisive guy with no confidence.  Confidence is key here.  Oh, and ask her "face2face". DONE ask thru FB, text, etc.

Good call, this might be worth doing. If she is worth your time,

 

Ask her to dinner, or better yet take her to something you know she loves whether it's her favorite artist playing in town or a new movie she'd like to see. Be clear that this is a date so that she doesn't mistake it as you two just being friends and that you want to go beyond that. Be sure to smile and to show interest! It must be obvious (not so obvious that she thinks you're creepy, mind you) that you like her and want to date her. Do not wimp out on asking her out and for god's sake be confident. Don't lower the volume of your voice to a mouse's squeak when she asks you "What did you say? I couldn't hear you"

http://kotaku.com/ask-dr-nerdlove-why-do-i-keep-getting-friend-zoned-1652893232

 

If you got no money, uh, well....

http://lifehacker.com/top-10-wallet-friendly-date-ideas-1758826946

http://lifehacker.com/233674/how-to-date-on-the-cheap-without-looking-cheap

 

Tell us how your first date went, and be sure to quote me on this as I'll forget in a few days' time

[branden_lucero]

with the amount of money you would blow on a woman who will end up leaving you anyways, you can spend on lube, a lifelike doll, and save towards any other expenses.

[Fgtfv567]

6 minutes ago, branden_lucero said:

with the amount of money you would blow on a woman who will end up leaving you anyways, you can spend on lube, a lifelike doll, and save towards any other expenses.

Yes but the difference here is that one actually MOVES.