How2FirstDate?

[branden_lucero]

Just now, Fgtfv567 said:

Yes but the difference here is that one actually MOVES.

then put a robot inside!

[Fgtfv567]

Just now, branden_lucero said:

then put a robot inside!

 

 

[branden_lucero]

2 minutes ago, AlexTheRose said:

Lol, don’t listen to these losers who think women aren’t worth your time. Life will end lonely for those folks unless they realise.

 

Anyway, I do suggest you consider taking her out to dinner. Find things to talk about! As the Dalai Lama would say, dialogue is key! If it doesn’t work out, no biggie - find someone else. Move on.

i've been with enough women to know from experience as with many others probably have here. sometimes happiness is best served by yourself. not everyone is meant to have a relationship or "find the one". therefore, its not really about ending up "lonely". its knowing that "enough is enough". 

[diapersarefullofshit]

I would brag about by pokemon collection:P

[branden_lucero]

Just now, AlexTheRose said:

defeatism: the attitude, policy, or conduct of a person who admits, expects, or no longer resists defeat, as because of a conviction that further struggle or effort is futile; pessimistic resignation.

 

This isn’t what the OP wants. He’s clearly after a date, and you folks barge in and basically tell him that no one’s really worth his time. The fuck?

because relationships are hysterical, especially with the way people have become these days. like, i seriously " study"the behavior of young couples on social media and jesus christ - it makes me glad i'm not apart of the generation they are in. its not like the early 20th century where it was highly likely to marry your high school sweatheart, people are dirtier and dumber than they've ever been before actually being trustworthy and loyal. can't help it if its a shit thing to say, when it pretty much reflects what society has become. 

[branden_lucero]

2 minutes ago, AlexTheRose said:

Aaaand pessimists like you have been around for thousands of years. Ever taken a look at the conservative political parties around the world? They’ve always held dear the days of old, and how things used to be, and have consistently obstructed countless ideas that have made the world a better place. Coincidence much?

 

If you want to jerk your collar and say you have experience with women, well so do I. A lot of people do. And despite having my heart shattered and spattered into a thousand pieces without so much as a reason why, I can say that I’d be happy to start anew with someone different and see how it goes. I’d love to care for someone again, after having all of that caring thrown away. Why? Because to me the positives of being in a relationship outweigh the negatives, and every person is unique. I choose to see the good in front instead of the bad, and I know in my heart every relationship will be a different toss of the dice. Pessimism and defeatism are not options, and if it does go somewhere, I enjoy it all I can. If life is supposed to be about anything, many people will tell you to just be happy, right?

 

And besides, ever heard of the mantra “live and let live”? OP’s looking for advice on how to approach women. At the very least I sure wouldn’t want to be torn down and told to go home for asking for relationship advice in an off-topic forum.

 

@Noyu, just be real with the person. I know it can get a bit overwhelming dealing with the opposite sex in a romantic manner, but both you and her will be a lot better put-at ease if both of you are chill. That’s step 1 of dating my friend. You can find out what their interests and hobbies are, but you do want to make an effort at least in the background to find out what they’re driving for, to get out of the date? Are they wanting a casual relationship? Or just sex? Maybe it’s not going anywhere and you should take note of all of those things.

i can find positivism in other things. relationship and love for a human isnt mandatory.

[cluelessgenius]

well heres my thoughts, maybe it help:

first off im not a fan of you rating girls x/10 that just tells me the wrong things about you. 

in general id say try to be as confident as you can without being an asshole. 

if you already got her on facebook then either look into her profile or talk to her to find out what shes interested in.

then depending on what type she is pick some awesome for a first date and try to include multiple locations. that way it feel like youve done more and creates more memories. something that works for me is picking something exciting for an activity. something that gets your heart racing.

for the first date all you want to do is be different from other guys. girls tend to loose interest pretty qiuckly so making a mark in her memories is crucial.

 

these are not "pick-up" - tips! these are genuine tips for inexperienced and or nervous guys that ive learned in last years.

i hope this helps at least a bit. if not you can always be yourself and relax and all that stuff people tell you.

[BuckGup]

9 hours ago, Noyu said:

I taste bitterness, and salt. ahahahaha

Nah. I just have seen this thousands of times.

[RuffRuffmcgruff]

Just say what I say, " Wanna go out for a drink sometime ?" There is literally no point coming up with pickup lines as I find them incredibly cheesy anyway. When you're out be yourself if she doesn't like you then tough shit brah. If she does good luck with the rest.

[TheWoollyMammoth]

Step 1) Take a shower 

Step 2) be yourself

Step 3) plan the date but only roughly and have a backup.  A fun activity where you can talk during it,  so a movie is a no-go.  Wall climbing,  frisbee golf,  minigolf,  something like that. 

Step 4) DO IT!  JUST DO IT! 

[TheWoollyMammoth]

Oh,  yeah almost forgot the most important thing.  Be honest.  If you get a girl to fall for you with lies,  you're gonna have a bad time. 

[Audi_guy]

16 hours ago, Noyu said:

This is not a tutorial, this is me, a 22.7 y/o virgin (who has been single his whole life), genuinely asking for help on how to ask "her" out on a date.

 

I know this isn't conventional at the very least. But I want opinion and suggestions from people who have the same interests as me.

 

Some Backstory:

1. I'm bored with my life

2. been single forever (haven't even been on a single date yet)

3. have very high standards (hence the #2)

4. I may or may not have friendzoned some grils who were into me but are like, a 4/10

5. I found this gril on Tinder. Same age. Came from the same school but like, I'm Eng'g and she's Accountancy

5.1 Got her to add me on FB with some pretty slick moves (not really, I just found her on FB through a mutual friend). Not sure why she decided to accept the friend request.

5.2 We both have regular jobs.

6. To let you know what kind of person I am, I was considering getting a dog to un-bore me, but I live with my sisters and they no allow. #sad

 

For the question, is it too risky of a move to ask her on a first date NOW? And how do I do it?
"So, would you like to play some League with me" - kidding here, I'm pretty sure she no gamer.

We barely know each other at this point. But I'm under the impression that getting-to-know should happen during the first date.

 

Thoughts please. I'm here all week.

1. If you are bored you might consider where you are going in life and have a goal and develop a plan to get there. I find girls are more willing to talk to guys that are going somewhere rather than just "going with it."
2. Nothing wrong with that, I'm 30 and basically the same as I also "3." Also, be proud to be a virgin; without getting too religious about it, I believe a real woman will appreciate it. I hope you are in good physical shape as well. Girls do appreciate a guy who takes care of himself.

4. Haven't we all?

5. Most of my engineering friends don't get girls until they've reached their 30's and girls likewise. Something about girls needing to grow up before they can see real men and not just their own ego.

6. Animals can help.

If she talks to you on a frequent basis I would think you should try. If she turns you down now, she will turn you down later. It also helps if they are more mature and can actually see outside of their own selfish, puffed up egos.

[Howlingwolf101]

17 hours ago, paps511 said:

Find a girl and 

"I like shorts they're comfortable and easy to wear"

[Noyu]

13 hours ago, RuffRuffmcgruff said:

Just say what I say, " Wanna go out for a drink sometime ?" There is literally no point coming up with pickup lines as I find them incredibly cheesy anyway. When you're out be yourself if she doesn't like you then tough shit brah. If she does good luck with the rest.

Not really into pickup lines myself. But I don't think that kind of "ask-out" works here in my country. Or I'm not entirely sure. But if a girl is on Tinder, she's probably open to that kind of thing right?

12 hours ago, TheWoollyMammoth said:

Step 1) Take a shower 

Step 2) be yourself

Step 3) plan the date but only roughly and have a backup.  A fun activity where you can talk during it,  so a movie is a no-go.  Wall climbing,  frisbee golf,  minigolf,  something like that. 

Step 4) DO IT!  JUST DO IT! 

Yeah, showering EVERYDAY is pretty standard here ahahahahahaha

8 hours ago, Audi_guy said:

1. If you are bored you might consider where you are going in life and have a goal and develop a plan to get there. I find girls are more willing to talk to guys that are going somewhere rather than just "going with it."
2. Nothing wrong with that, I'm 30 and basically the same as I also "3." Also, be proud to be a virgin; without getting too religious about it, I believe a real woman will appreciate it. I hope you are in good physical shape as well. Girls do appreciate a guy who takes care of himself.

4. Haven't we all?

5. Most of my engineering friends don't get girls until they've reached their 30's and girls likewise. Something about girls needing to grow up before they can see real men and not just their own ego.

6. Animals can help.

If she talks to you on a frequent basis I would think you should try. If she turns you down now, she will turn you down later. It also helps if they are more mature and can actually see outside of their own selfish, puffed up egos.

Thanks for the encouragement man. I'm not exactly proud or unhappy with being a virgin. I don't care too much.

 

Problem is, I just met her on Tinder like a few days ago, we exchange about 5-10 msgs PER DAY. I don't think she's THAT interested. Or maybe she's just not into the whole "flirting through chat" thing. I also happen to know that she's also single since birth. So yea, not sure where to go from there.

 

AAANYWAYS, nevermind about this. She stopped replying last night. I know she saw my last message (because facebook) and didn't reply, so I'll probably move on to the next Tinder match for now.

 

THANKS FOR THE SUGGESTIONS THOUGH. Will totally use them on the next one.

 

*Gets a Tinder match

*Say "Hi, wanna go out sometime"

*Get unmatched, rinse and repeat ahahahaha

[paps511]

7 hours ago, Howlingwolf101 said:

"I like shorts they're comfortable and easy to wear"

I was looking for that in a comic, but came to this one first

[Noyu]

Oh wait, she back. Apparently she has "crappy internet". Which I doubt. Who has crappy internet nowadays.

 

We're playing a stupid game I invented.
Ask a question, answer your own question, then other person answers.

 

So far she likes travelling. I don't. hmm #fun.

[Coaxialgamer]

Step 1 : prepare

step 2 : ask her out

step 3 : ?????

step 4 : Profit $

 

And i know this wasn't helpful , thank you very much

[Bhav]

Book a room in a run down hotel, or just find an abandoned building.

 

Take her there.

 

Seal the exits.

 

Remove all your clothes.

 

The ladies love this.

[RuffRuffmcgruff]

On 08/03/2016 at 3:23 AM, Noyu said:

Not really into pickup lines myself. But I don't think that kind of "ask-out" works here in my country. Or I'm not entirely sure. But if a girl is on Tinder, she's probably open to that kind of thing right?

Probably, I wouldn't know what cultural norms would be in your end of the world but maybe something grand and romantic would work like buying her flowers and asking her out then. At the end of the day mate the only thing your going to lose is nothing. Your pride might get hurt if it turns out she doesn't feel the same way but what else do you have to lose ?