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[IRMacGuyver]

Just text them every 15 minutes till you get a response. Either: 

Did you get that thing I sent

or 

We need to talk

You should be golden. 

[WhitetailAni]

5 minutes ago, IRMacGuyver said:

Just text them every 15 minutes till you get a response. Either: 

Did you get that thing I sent

or 

We need to talk

You should be golden. 

This is a prime example of how you get your butt blocked. Never EVER do this.

[Mark Kaine]

to everyone saying its normal to not respond for days/weeks...

 

A shes pretty obviously ghosting him  

B if you "text" someone and they aren't responding for weeks is it really worth texting them? the point of texting is that its instant and easy to respond.

"wanna go out tomorrow"

 

"y/n"

 

 

if im not getting a response from someone quickly i will assume that they aren't really understanding the medium and also that they aren't real friends... that said it does depend on the relationship and the subject too obviously. 

 

Kind of funny im saying this on a forum where quick response times are the norm, just because its a private conversation doesn't mean ghosting someone (you know) is the cool thing to do...

 

 

[IRMacGuyver]

12 minutes ago, Caroline said:

*number blocked*

well I never

[mwagen]

1 hour ago, Arika S said:

I don't respond to advances with "i already have a boyfriend" because all i can think of is the stupid cliche were the woman comes off as a bitch in the way she says it.

I've never heard of that response being a bitchy cliche. If your tone isn't getting through their persistent, thick skulls then you're justified in giving them a reality check. Clueless guys won't understand you're closed for business unless the door is shut and locked, so do yourself the favor.

 

[Montana One-Six]

I don't know anything about you or her so I can only assume.

 

I for example tend to not use my phone for hours when I am with someone or somewhere (vacation or a trip, things like that) I like / love, because I value the time with them or there and want to take as much in as possible without being distracted or disturbed.

If I was in a long distance relationship and were visiting my gf I probably wouldn't  look at my phone for very long periods.

So just be patient and don't think to much of it.

[Mark Kaine]

6 hours ago, Montana16 said:

I for example tend to not use my phone for hours when I am with someone or somewhere (vacation or a trip, things like that) I like / love, because I value the time with them or there and want to take as much in as possible without being distracted or disturbed.

this kinda seems to make sense in isolation,  but i find this highly unusual and also kind of highly unlikely therefore.  especially the younger generation has their phones on hand 24/7 , even when they're with someone,  they arent talking... theyre "texting" (and i understand why, keeps eavesdropping out simply)

 

and yeah so for longer periods,  does that mean days,  hours... ?

 

i would think people check their phones at least once a day... also not responding a few days, on vacation,  that's totally ok, if its weeks though... i dunno, thats simply ghosting, which is really really rude as heck.

 

 

6 hours ago, Montana16 said:

don't think to much of it.

ironically... this is probably good advice since it really seems op cares a bit more than they care to admit  - why would it be a big deal for them otherwise,  and in turn this girl is in relationship with another girl, and they're on vacation? well, i probably wouldn't respond to certain "messages" in that situation either...

 

however,  that doesn't mean it's not still super rude and uncalled for under normal circumstances... 

[dalekphalm]

6 minutes ago, Mark Kaine said:

this kinda seems to make sense in isolation,  but i find this highly unusual and also kind of highly unlikely therefore.  especially the younger generation has their phones on hand 24/7 , even when they're with someone,  they arent talking... theyre "texting" (and i understand why, keeps eavesdropping out simply)

 

and yeah so for longer periods,  does that mean days,  hours... ?

 

i would think people check their phones at least once a day... also not responding a few days, on vacation,  that's totally ok, if its weeks though... i dunno, thats simply ghosting, which is really really rude as heck.

Ghosting is only rude if there's no reason for it.

 

Most women who ghost men, do so because they've had VERY BAD experiences doing what half the replies here suggest: "Being honest" and "letting someone down right away", etc.

 

That's all well and good, until when you tell someone no, they freak out and it becomes a large issue, often involving aggressive or threatening behaviour. Even if it's not "in person", that can still be a very traumatic experience.

 

Now, if you're ghosting a legit friend for weeks? Yeah that can be rude. Especially if you do it all the time. But for a day or two? No. Be patient. If it's important, use other means of communication, like a phone call.

[Mark Kaine]

22 minutes ago, dalekphalm said:

Ghosting is only rude if there's no reason for it.

 

Most women who ghost men, do so because they've had VERY BAD experiences doing what half the replies here suggest: "Being honest" and "letting someone down right away", etc.

 

That's all well and good, until when you tell someone no, they freak out and it becomes a large issue, often involving aggressive or threatening behaviour. Even if it's not "in person", that can still be a very traumatic experience.

 

true... and i edited my post with this in mind,  there "can" be very good reasons for it...

 

22 minutes ago, dalekphalm said:

Now, if you're ghosting a legit friend for weeks? Yeah that can be rude.

exactly,  and taking op at face value this is whats happening (except they're talking about "12 hours"? ) on the other hand, i think theres probably more to it (and also a good example why you shouldn't post about stuff like this to randoms on a "tech forum" its just embarrassing for everyone involved : D )

 

[Montana One-Six]

2 hours ago, Mark Kaine said:

this kinda seems to make sense in isolation,  but i find this highly unusual and also kind of highly unlikely therefore.  especially the younger generation has their phones on hand 24/7 , even when they're with someone,  they arent talking... theyre "texting" (and i understand why, keeps eavesdropping out simply)

 

and yeah so for longer periods,  does that mean days,  hours... ?

 

i would think people check their phones at least once a day... also not responding a few days, on vacation,  that's totally ok, if its weeks though... i dunno, thats simply ghosting, which is really really rude as heck.

 

 

ironically... this is probably good advice since it really seems op cares a bit more than they care to admit  - why would it be a big deal for them otherwise,  and in turn this girl is in relationship with another girl, and they're on vacation? well, i probably wouldn't respond to certain "messages" in that situation either...

 

however,  that doesn't mean it's not still super rude and uncalled for under normal circumstances... 

I'm in my mid 20s and I may be a bit more oldschool in things like using the phone while being with my girlfriend, family members or friends. I don't use it a lot anyway and I use it even less in these situations because I personally think it's not respectful to the other person or people in these situations. That doesn't mean I don't look at it once in a while but looking at it takes maybe a second or two in which I can determine if any notifications need my immediate attention or not and probably 95% of the time they do not. If they do I answer quickly and if not I don't answer right away but maybe 4 or 5 hours later. If it were really important I'd get a call anyway.

 

So like I said if I were in a long distance relationship and I were visiting her for a few days I probably would look even less on the phone. Since I don't know anything about the person involved and from my standpoint I don't think its strange at all.

 

If she is from an even younger generation I would agree. My cousin which is about 10 years younger has basically a phone implanted in his hand.

 

You are probably right with the statement that he cares more for her than just a friend considering how big of a deal it seems.

 

I personally don't think it is rude and I can totally understand it. People often think the world revolves around them when in reality it doesn't and other people have other more important things happening to them and many don't understand that.

[CT854]

21 hours ago, Arika S said:

I don't respond to advances with "i already have a boyfriend" because all i can think of is the stupid cliche were the woman comes off as a bitch in the way she says it.

Maybe it's just me but if someone makes a move on you, and someone thinks you're being a "bitch" by responding with the fact that you're taken, that says much more about them and their worldview than you.

 

Why would I want to continue consorting with someone who takes offense at me communicating that I have a girlfriend, for instance?

 

I get that it probably comes from a place of self-consciousness but that's just my two cents.

[Montana One-Six]

2 hours ago, Mark Kaine said:

on the other hand, i think theres probably more to it (and also a good example why you shouldn't post about stuff like this to randoms on a "tech forum" its just embarrassing for everyone involved : D )

100%

[Avocado Diaboli]

What amuses me most here is that OPs name is MyLittleFella. An almost prophetic choice of name considering what must have sparked this thread.