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hey guys,

i dont know what to do anymore.

i have a (girl) friend and she has quite bad depression. she lost all her friends exept one, her parents are having real problems and she is suspected of having a brain tumor. she sees herself as ugly and useless, and ive tried everything to make her feel better or make her think positiv but i really dont know what to do anymore...

 

i dont wabt her to do something to herself and i would do anything to stop it. she is such a wonderfull person.....

 

anyone know what else i could to?

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2 minutes ago, Radiant said:

hey guys,

i dont know what to do anymore.

i have a (girl) friend and she has quite bad depression. she lost all her friends exept one, her parents are having real problems and she is suspected of having a brain tumor. she sees herself as ugly and useless, and ive tried everything to make her feel better or make her think positiv but i really dont know what to do anymore...

 

i dont wabt her to do something to herself and i would do anything to stop it. she is such a wonderfull person.....

 

anyone know what else i could to?

A very long hug.

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hugs, music, food

I spent $2500 on building my PC and all i do with it is play no games atm & watch anime at 1080p(finally) watch YT and write essays...  nothing, it just sits there collecting dust...

Builds:

The Toaster Project! Northern Bee!

 

The original LAN PC build log! (Old, dead and replaced by The Toaster Project & 5.0)

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"Here is some advice that might have gotten lost somewhere along the way in your life. 

 

#1. Treat others as you would like to be treated.

#2. It's best to keep your mouth shut; and appear to be stupid, rather than open it and remove all doubt.

#3. There is nothing "wrong" with being wrong. Learning from a mistake can be more valuable than not making one in the first place.

 

Follow these simple rules in life, and I promise you, things magically get easier. " - MageTank 31-10-2016

 

 

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Just now, Radiant said:

pizza most likely

yah thats good. i get out of my ocational depression streeks by sitting alone in my room and finding something new to get addicted to, the LAN PC was last year, this year it was Paladins, takes the meaninglessness away to get adicted to doing something(just not drugs or booze, stay the fuck away from those)

I spent $2500 on building my PC and all i do with it is play no games atm & watch anime at 1080p(finally) watch YT and write essays...  nothing, it just sits there collecting dust...

Builds:

The Toaster Project! Northern Bee!

 

The original LAN PC build log! (Old, dead and replaced by The Toaster Project & 5.0)

Spoiler

"Here is some advice that might have gotten lost somewhere along the way in your life. 

 

#1. Treat others as you would like to be treated.

#2. It's best to keep your mouth shut; and appear to be stupid, rather than open it and remove all doubt.

#3. There is nothing "wrong" with being wrong. Learning from a mistake can be more valuable than not making one in the first place.

 

Follow these simple rules in life, and I promise you, things magically get easier. " - MageTank 31-10-2016

 

 

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yah thats good. i get out of my ocational depression streeks by sitting alone in my room and finding something new to get addicted to, the LAN PC was last year, this year it was Paladins, takes the meaninglessness away to get adicted to doing something(just not drugs or booze, stay the fuck away from those)

she likes photography, but she doesnt want to go andwhere to take pictures eventhough shes great at it

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she likes photography, but she doesnt want to go andwhere to take pictures eventhough shes great at it

take pics inside then. just something to do every day, takes you away from the hell that is life sometimes

I spent $2500 on building my PC and all i do with it is play no games atm & watch anime at 1080p(finally) watch YT and write essays...  nothing, it just sits there collecting dust...

Builds:

The Toaster Project! Northern Bee!

 

The original LAN PC build log! (Old, dead and replaced by The Toaster Project & 5.0)

Spoiler

"Here is some advice that might have gotten lost somewhere along the way in your life. 

 

#1. Treat others as you would like to be treated.

#2. It's best to keep your mouth shut; and appear to be stupid, rather than open it and remove all doubt.

#3. There is nothing "wrong" with being wrong. Learning from a mistake can be more valuable than not making one in the first place.

 

Follow these simple rules in life, and I promise you, things magically get easier. " - MageTank 31-10-2016

 

 

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2 minutes ago, Bananasplit_00 said:

take pics inside then. just something to do every day, takes you away from the hell that is life sometimes

she  likes exploring to, and theres this really nice abandoned hostpial in the woods with an amazing view from the room but she just does not want to leave her house

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13 minutes ago, Radiant said:

hey guys,

i dont know what to do anymore.

i have a (girl) friend and she has quite bad depression. she lost all her friends exept one, her parents are having real problems and she is suspected of having a brain tumor. she sees herself as ugly and useless, and ive tried everything to make her feel better or make her think positiv but i really dont know what to do anymore...

 

i dont wabt her to do something to herself and i would do anything to stop it. she is such a wonderfull person.....

 

anyone know what else i could to?

Professional help.

 

There is a difference between being sad or feeling down, and being depressed. If she really suffers from depression, she needs a psychologist. I've seen people with depression treated with "cheering up", people with addictions being treated by "friend support". Just no. True mental illnesses (and that's what clinical depression is) require to be taken as seriously as any other disease. You don't give a massage to your friend who broke a leg. You don't buy a cozy sweater for your girlfriend with pneumonia. Same with depression: seek professional advice.

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1 minute ago, SpaceGhostC2C said:

Professional help.

 

There is a difference between being sad or feeling down, and being depressed. If she really suffers from depression, she needs a psychologist. I've seen people with depression treated with "cheering up", people with addictions being treated by "friend support". Just no. True mental illnesses (and that's what clinical depression is) require to be taken as seriously as any other disease. You don't give a massage to your friend who broke a leg. You don't buy a cozy sweater for your girlfriend with pneumonia. Same with depression: seek professional advice.

this hit me hard now, but i think you are right

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1 minute ago, Radiant said:

she  likes exploring to, and theres this really nice abandoned hostpial in the woods with an amazing view from the room but she just does not want to leave her house

bring a laptop or something and explore something in a game or on the web. what has worked for me is just doing something that i get addicted to to the point where i dedicate myself to the task of makeing it better and better untill i feel better because im doing something. if she dosent want to leave the house i would just do stuff at her house then. watch movies and stuff

I spent $2500 on building my PC and all i do with it is play no games atm & watch anime at 1080p(finally) watch YT and write essays...  nothing, it just sits there collecting dust...

Builds:

The Toaster Project! Northern Bee!

 

The original LAN PC build log! (Old, dead and replaced by The Toaster Project & 5.0)

Spoiler

"Here is some advice that might have gotten lost somewhere along the way in your life. 

 

#1. Treat others as you would like to be treated.

#2. It's best to keep your mouth shut; and appear to be stupid, rather than open it and remove all doubt.

#3. There is nothing "wrong" with being wrong. Learning from a mistake can be more valuable than not making one in the first place.

 

Follow these simple rules in life, and I promise you, things magically get easier. " - MageTank 31-10-2016

 

 

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On 25.02.2017 г. at 0:49 AM, Radiant said:

hey guys,

i dont know what to do anymore.

i have a (girl) friend and she has quite bad depression. she lost all her friends exept one, her parents are having real problems and she is suspected of having a brain tumor. she sees herself as ugly and useless, and ive tried everything to make her feel better or make her think positiv but i really dont know what to do anymore...

 

i dont wabt her to do something to herself and i would do anything to stop it. she is such a wonderfull person.....

 

anyone know what else i could to?

She is really a greedy one, isn`t she.

 

Tell her my story.

 

My body have been ill since birth. I have lived my life mostly in hospitals. I have not been able to make friends because of that.

My father leaved my mother when I was 1y old.

 

Years later my father returned asking to have me to his place for few days every month and my mother agreed probably thinking how good would that be.

The thing is that my father abused me. Hitting me with furniture or beer bottles, or burning me with cigarettes.

And that wasn`t the worst he did to me. He abused me sexually with the help of his mother...

I was alone, there were no friend to tell, my mother didn`t care even with clearly visible scars.

We lived away from the few family members which were still alive at the time and to whom I probably would had a chance to speak to.

In time I was beaten to believe that I deserved the abuse. I was in fault for being alive.

I lost all hope.

Few years later he leaved the town. I guess he got bored from me. I was 13 at the time.

 

School wasn`t a nice place to me.

My classmates loved to abuse me, because I was too weak to stop them.

In time things got really bad. I was pushed from a slide resulting in throat trauma and emergency operation. Because of the urgency the anesthesiologist made a mistake and they used general anesthetic to which I happened to be allergic. That lead to clinical death for over 2 and a half minutes. But they did a miracle and returned me to life.

 

So I had to live with the shame. All alone.

 

In time my mother managed to get a boyfriend who got to be my stepfather. He was truly great man.

But at the time I was feeling able to tell him about what I have been through it was too late. He was dying from lung cancer.

3 months. It took only 3 months from being fully healthy to death.

I was in despair.

That was the first time when I tried to take my life.

I jumped from a building but few trees got in the way. Fractured hand and broken head and few other stuff. Like I could care. He was already dead.

After that my memory was affected very bad. It took me years to get at reasonable working level.

But because of that I was not able to even approach any women.

 

So I continued to live through the hell called life.

 

After that there was few other situations that lead me again to the path of killing myself.

Apparently jumping in front of a fast moving car or drinking poison wasn`t enough or my doctors were just too good.

In the end even death didn't want me.

 

So I gave up.

Here I am, at 33y, still virgin, hating life with all of what is left from the thing once I called my soul.

 

But you know, the world is big. There are many people living way, way worse lives than me. And they are still here.

Hope still may be alive somewhere.

 

On 25.02.2017 г. at 1:06 AM, SpaceGhostC2C said:

she needs a psychologist.

If you find a good one - then yes.

I did not had that luck, my last suicide try was after seeing said professionals in the field. For them taking heavy medications should be enough to fix everyone...

 

ps. English is not my native language so I apologize for every error I have made writing this. I tried my best.

 

ps2. It`s easy to share your life story being anonymous. I feel somehow refreshed. :)

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4 minutes ago, Teddy07 said:

depression does not exist in my eyes it is only a delusion.

And how do you come to that conclusion exactly?

"It pays to keep an open mind, but not so open your brain falls out." - Carl Sagan.

"I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you" - Edward I. Koch

"I didn't die! I performed a tactical reset!" - Apollolol

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