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[EmotionalSloth]

Yeah I know, yet another thread about a girl, sorry about this guys, just hang on this one might end up being a rant

 

So when I moved to this school this year I quickly made friends with this one girl. We have been really good friends ever since, and we go out together a lot (with other people though, and nothing serious happens between us other than the occasional cuddle or something like that)

So basically we were friend zoning each other and we were both fine about it, neither of us really wanted anything from each other so yeah..

But over the last few weeks I have been realizing just how perfect she is to me, I mean we have common interests, same sense of humor, similar personalities in a way, and the fact that she is really pretty doesn't hurt

 

Now this is the bad part: a few days ago she told me that she has been secretly having a thing with a friend of mine, they broke up though cos he is leaving the school, but they made out I guess as a grand finale of sorts (she had no clue that I was breaking up inside while she was saying it)

Also, the other day we were in am amusement park together with some friends and while we were playing truth or dare and she got truth and got asked if she would kiss me, and her answer basically was: "Eww no lol just kidding, no but I have some reasons" (What the hell is that reason?! could it be my braces... that would make no sense cos she has them to)

 

TLDR

 

I have a crush on a best friend and she has no clue about it and she just got out of a semi serious relationship, also in a week she is leaving for vacation so I wont see her really until school starts. We are both going to the cinema with some friends tomorrow, and it might be my last chance to tell her for a while, should I say something about my crush or wait till school stars?

 

Credits to anyone who read through the whole thing lol, i had to get this off my chest

inb4 dont ask question about girls on tech forum

inb4 no replies

[Volbet]

First of all I want this cleared up:

 

Now this is the bad part: a few days ago she told me that she has been secretly having a thing with a friend of mine, they broke up though cos he is leaving the school, but they made out I guess as a grand finale of sorts (she had no clue that I was breaking up inside while she was saying it)

How is this a problem? I know most of my former girlfriends had other lovers before me, and that never hurt me.

 

As with everyone asking these kinds of thing. Tell her, not us. Tell her that you have feelings for her, and that you just want to tell that. She can then repay those feelings or decline. If she is truely your friend, she will still be your friend after this.

Why do people think that the opposite gender is always such a mystery?

[FloRolf]

Soooo, how old are you actually?

Also: I'm bad at giving tips cause i suck with girls and i'm in the same position as you, kinda. Just do your thing, i would say!

[Erik4boss]

truth or dare, the typical thing you have to put up with when you are in company of girls.

[EmotionalSloth]

First of all I want this cleared up:

 

How is this a problem? I know most of my former girlfriends had other lovers before me, and that never hurt me.

 

As with everyone asking these kinds of thing. Tell her, not us. Tell her that you have feelings for her, and that you just want to tell that. She can then repay those feelings or decline. If she is truely your friend, she will still be your friend after this.

Why do people think that the opposite gender is always such a mystery?

I meant if it is to early to ask her out/tell her about my crush

[atrash]

Definitely. She'll have plenty of time time to think about it (that's what girls will always tell you when being presented with choices) over the holiday. Don't ask me how but just be honest and not get too excited or creepy about it. Also,don't push her. Let it sink in for her and act normal.

[spwath]

Yeah I know, yet another thread about a girl, sorry about this guys, just hang on this one might end up being a rant

 

 

I have learned in all my experiences... Er, what people have told me on this forum... you just have to go for the enchilada and do it. Maby wait a little due to the friend make out thing. Like wait till after summer maby.

[chilicheeseburger]

Now this is the bad part: a few days ago she told me that she has been secretly having a thing with a friend of mine, they broke up though cos he is leaving the school, but they made out I guess as a grand finale of sorts (she had no clue that I was breaking up inside while she was saying it)

I know that feel bro it's like ripping you apart inside right?

I don't know how old you are but probably arround 14-16.

I can only give you the advice that you just shouldn't take it too seriously at your age. Just wait the right girl will come along sooner or later, I know this sounds stupid.

I think telling her is your best option here since its the inly way to find out.

But don't go all in with your expectations yet.

[Volbet]

I meant if it is to early to ask her out/tell her about my crush

Ahh, OK. 

 

While some people do need a bit of alone time after being in a relationship, it really depends on the person. 

If I were you, I would tell her after she gets home from vacation. 

 

I don't know how old you are, but I'll shoot you to somewhere between 14-16, keeping the forum avarage in mind. 

If this is the case, don't go into this expecting ever lasting love. Relationships in this age usually don't last long, but enjoy the ride while it lasts.

[EmotionalSloth]

I know that feel bro it's like ripping you apart inside right?

I don't know how old you are but probably arround 14-16.

I can only give you the advice that you just shouldn't take it too seriously at your age. Just wait the right girl will come along sooner or later, I know this sounds stupid.

I think telling her is your best option here since its the inly way to find out.

But don't go all in with your expectations yet.

 

I have learned in all my experiences... Er, what people have told me on this forum... you just have to go for the enchilada and do it. Maby wait a little due to the friend make out thing. Like wait till after summer maby.

Its just a bit weird cos so often we have talked to each other and I lied to her saying that I don't care about dating in general till like 11th grade (which is true but she got the best of me:P) and awe would say that we would never date and stuff

[Sauron]

I meant if it is to early to ask her out/tell her about my crush

 

It's never too early if you really feel for her. I mean what would be the line? If you really love this girl just tell her, if she refuses you at least you will stop deluding yourself and if she feels the same as you you will wonder why you didn't tell her sooner.

[Thunderjolt]

Well if you don't want things to get awkward you shouldn't bother mentioning it to her.

I'd say watch this because it's semi-relevant

[EmotionalSloth]

Ahh, OK. 

 

While some people do need a bit of alone time after being in a relationship, it really depends on the person. 

If I were you, I would tell her after she gets home from vacation. 

 

 

I guess your right, its pointless to tell her now cos nothing can happen between us for like 2 months anyways

[Enderman]

I guess your right, its pointless to tell her now cos nothing can happen between us for like 2 months anyways

If you tell her now then she has 2 months to think about it, and hopefully think about you too

Just don't pressure her for an answer, just let her take her time to decide.

[chilicheeseburger]

Its just a bit weird cos so often we have talked to each other and I lied to her saying that I don't care about dating in general till like 11th grade (which is true but she got the best of me:P) and awe would say that we would never date and stuff

That doesn't matter too much I think you should tell her anyway...

If she friendzones you you should just be prepared to move on and don't get all depressed cause that's not gonna change anything then.

[Nineshadow]

Whatever you do, don't go with hookers for a consolation.

Also, just tell her.

Right now a girl is showing lots of signs that she likes me and I'm trying to find the right moment

[EmotionalSloth]

That doesn't matter too much I think you should tell her anyway...

If she friendzones you you should just be prepared to move on and don't get all depressed cause that's not gonna change anything then.

I honestly wouldnt even mind that too much cos the way it is so far has worked out pretty well, it just might be a bit awkward at times but still

[techswede]

Pro's of telling her now - She has time to think about it. 

Con's - It might be a bit early

 

Pro's of telling her later - She might feel ready for a new relationship

Con's - She could've found another bf.

 

I haven't seen a thread like this in a while.

[techswede]

Whatever you do, don't go with hookers for a consolation.

Also, just tell her.

Right now a girl is showing lots of signs that she likes me and I'm trying to find the right moment

Only go to hookers for help with your homework am i right?  :lol:

[EmotionalSloth]

Only go to hookers for help with your homework am i right?  :lol:

umm, I was thinking he would just need some.. ahem... research

[Nineshadow]

Only go to hookers for help with your homework am i right?  :lol:

EXACTLY!

 

Or if you wanna understand anatomy lessons better.

[Nineshadow]

umm, I was thinking I just needed some.. ahem... research

No,it's not that.Here,have a read about what happened to me :

http://linustechtips.com/main/topic/163741-heres-a-little-funny-story/

Yeah...my friend hired hookers to write his fucking homework.

[EmotionalSloth]

Pro's of telling her now - She has time to think about it. 

Con's - It might be a bit early

 

Pro's of telling her later - She might feel ready for a new relationship

Con's - She could've found another bf.

 

I haven't seen a thread like this in a while.

Another Con of not telling her is I have to deal with this situation in my head all summer

But a con of telling her is even is she does like me back, we can't start anything serious for like 2 months, which would suck just as much

[EmotionalSloth]

No,it's not that.Here,have a read about what happened to me :

http://linustechtips.com/main/topic/163741-heres-a-little-funny-story/

Yeah...my friend hired hookers to write his fucking homework.

Ahahaha

[prolemur]

Hey super ripped over summer break and all the bitties will wanna bang you