What is Bad Parenting?

[AlTech]

Recently ,with the parent taking phone scam starting this trend, parenting is coming into questioning as to what is right or wrong.

 

 

So what is considered bad parenting to you?

 

For me: If the child is 15 or over, then taking anything is grand theft

 

Under 15 and then taking anything is sort of ok.

[TommyB]

Always saying NO is no go :-)

 

Theft remains theft, even under 15.

 

 

A 2 y/o doesn't know money with value, so the kid doesn't understand that it needs to pay for something in the store...

a 4y/o does know money :-)

SO if he/she steals, it was willingly !

[SeriouslyMikey]

I disagree. If the child is under the age of 18, and is still living in their parent's home, unless it's the kid that bought the phone, the parent should have the right to confiscate it from them. 

I didn't have a mobile until the age of 14, and I never had my mobile phone taken away as it didn't seem to big of a deal to my mum, however, I had other things taken off me and other privileges taken away too. It taught me a lesson and after about the 4th or 5th time I stopped misbehaving. I was a slow learner.  

[AlTech]

33 minutes ago, SeriouslyMikey said:

I disagree. If the child is under the age of 18, and is still living in their parent's home, unless it's the kid that bought the phone, the parent should have the right to confiscate it from them. 

I didn't have a mobile until the age of 14, and I never had my mobile phone taken away as it didn't seem to big of a deal to my mum, however, I had other things taken off me and other privileges taken away too. It taught me a lesson and after about the 4th or 5th time I stopped misbehaving. I was a slow learner.  

Yeah well if you're a slow learner then I must be a fucking snail.

 

Taking things away from me never taught me anything. I was just really pissed off with a vendetta afterwards.

[RevoltTrain]

Bad parenting to me is a parent, or pair of parents that just don't put forward any effort. They don't really give any effort to their kids. They're the parents that honestly don't deserve to have kids.

[SeriouslyMikey]

5 minutes ago, RevoltTrain said:

Bad parenting to me is a parent, or pair of parents that just don't put forward any effort. They don't really give any effort to their kids. They're the parents that honestly don't deserve to have kids.

Agreed. Along with those parents who just throw money at their kids to shut them up. Noticed it's either the broken families that do that, or the really rich ones that are already sick of having their kids. 

[stconquest]

Bad people make bad parents.  Going off topic a bit but this is generally the way it works.  People that settle for their current level if ignorance, that are easily dumber than necessary about life in general.

 

Take Bill O'Reilly:  The idiot.  Terrible father.  Who would have guessed. 

 

 

 

[SeriouslyMikey]

9 minutes ago, AluminiumTech said:

Yeah well if you're a slow learner then I must be a fucking snail.

 

Taking things away from me never taught me anything. I was just really pissed off with a vendetta afterwards.

 

I see a parent confiscating something to being similar to a punishment you'd receive from a court house, though on a much smaller scale of course. You misbehave, you lose something either until you learn your lesson or you're allowed to have it back by decision of the person taking it away from you, whether that's a parent or a teacher. 

[Guest]

My house, my rules.

 

You live under my roof (and you aren't my wife....), Your name is on our (specifically my) $200 phone bill, and  you disrespect me, Your phone will be mine. The end.

 

Bad parenting: Any asshat kid who thinks using his phone at the dinner table, has to have what I consider bad parents. 

[Volbet]

I probably am a bad parent according to some. Although, there are limits to what you can do to a 4 year old. 

When she misbehaves it's generally just her being a 4 year old. I.E. moving stuff around, screaming and just being a bit of a diva. 

All of those are fine by me. While it's not always fun, she also has to have the freedom to be a child, and children do stupid stuff and hopefully she will learn from those her mistakes. 

What I hope makes me a good parent would be a general interst in seeing her grow up and taking an interst in her life. 

I want her to be able to go to me if she has problems that she needs advice on.

 

As with the phone. I wouldn't take anything away. Mostly becuase I would never buy her a cellphone and I would never take away something that isn't mine. 

I also believe in correlation of crime and punishment. I simply can't see what someone could do with a cellphone that could warrent it being taken away.

[Griffscavern]

Too many kids these days have this sense of entitlement. I call bullshit!! They whine and cry because daddy or mommy took my phone! They won't let me play my XBOX!! They're assholes!

 

Grow up!! Smell the coffee. If you're patents didn't love you they wouldn't give 2 shits about what you're doing. Respect and things are earned. Not your right.

[SeriouslyMikey]

6 minutes ago, Griffscavern said:

Too many kids these days have this sense of entitlement. I call bullshit!! They whine and cry because daddy or mommy took my phone! They won't let me play my XBOX!! They're assholes!

 

Grow up!! Smell the coffee. If you're patents didn't love you they wouldn't give 2 shits about what you're doing. Respect and things are earned. Not your right.

These days? Kids in the 60's and 70's were acting up just as bad as kids are now, nothing has changed. If you want to say these days, then at least say "Kids from the 60's onwards are asshats." There's one major difference now, and that's technology.

[KuJoe]

If your kid grows up to be a shitty person, you are a bad parent. Plain and simple.

[Serin]

IMO bad parenting is as follows: Not giving ones child the tools to survive in the modern world.
Not leading by example in compassion and reason.
On reason - there's a saying that floats around - teach children how to think, not what to think. That ones important.
Not providing stability and making choices for oneself over ones offspring. 

Oh and I'm pretty sure disowning a child due to their biology.... complete bastardry.

[Silyy097]

As a 15 yo teenager, I have this mindset that confiscating my devices shouldn't be the way to go.

 

In the past (when I was 10, 11 etc), my handphone/laptop was confiscated frequently. My dad would always bring it to his workplace for safekeeping. For what reason I cant remember, but im sure that the school had never called my parents up before. My thinking was that "Sure, you can confiscate this device now. Sure, you can confiscate this other device now." What will happen to the point where I have nothing else to offer to you? Are you going to lug a 70" TV and stow it away in your office? 

 

Also, taking away my devices might be the first idea that comes to your mind, because "it will teach the kid to not do this, that, by making him not have his luxuries." However, this can also cause repercussions for the parents themselves. To us as kids, we would not be able to play our games, or whatnot. To the parents, it will only cost them more inconvenience, as we might not be able to receive urgent messages from our friends or teachers, and the blame will be cast on the parents. Also, taking away our handphones will only not allow us to play games. As an avid reader, I would usually turn to story books to relieve my stress. Are you going to take my books away from me now?

 

As a teenager, I feel that parents should instead educate their children about what they have done wrong. Instead of just telling them "You're wrong" and just taking away their stuff, parents should explain to their kids about why and how their doings have affected others around them. Its like being a teacher, and instead of just telling you that the maths questions that you've done is wrong and leave you to figure out the solution by yourself, parents should take the initiative to explain to their kids, just like how the teachers would explain the solution to a question you've done wrongly. 

[BuckGup]

Saying yes to everything and not caring what time you get home

[AlTech]

1 hour ago, Silyy097 said:

As a 15 yo teenager, I have this mindset that confiscating my devices shouldn't be the way to go.

 

In the past (when I was 10, 11 etc), my handphone/laptop was confiscated frequently. My dad would always bring it to his workplace for safekeeping. For what reason I cant remember, but im sure that the school had never called my parents up before. My thinking was that "Sure, you can confiscate this device now. Sure, you can confiscate this other device now." What will happen to the point where I have nothing else to offer to you? Are you going to lug a 70" TV and stow it away in your office? 

 

Also, taking away my devices might be the first idea that comes to your mind, because "it will teach the kid to not do this, that, by making him not have his luxuries." However, this can also cause repercussions for the parents themselves. To us as kids, we would not be able to play our games, or whatnot. To the parents, it will only cost them more inconvenience, as we might not be able to receive urgent messages from our friends or teachers, and the blame will be cast on the parents. Also, taking away our handphones will only not allow us to play games. As an avid reader, I would usually turn to story books to relieve my stress. Are you going to take my books away from me now?

 

As a teenager, I feel that parents should instead educate their children about what they have done wrong. Instead of just telling them "You're wrong" and just taking away their stuff, parents should explain to their kids about why and how their doings have affected others around them. Its like being a teacher, and instead of just telling you that the maths questions that you've done is wrong and leave you to figure out the solution by yourself, parents should take the initiative to explain to their kids, just like how the teachers would explain the solution to a question you've done wrongly. 

I completely agree with this.

[Tmt97]

1 hour ago, Silyy097 said:

As a 15 yo teenager, I have this mindset that confiscating my devices shouldn't be the way to go.

 

In the past (when I was 10, 11 etc), my handphone/laptop was confiscated frequently. My dad would always bring it to his workplace for safekeeping. For what reason I cant remember, but im sure that the school had never called my parents up before. My thinking was that "Sure, you can confiscate this device now. Sure, you can confiscate this other device now." What will happen to the point where I have nothing else to offer to you? Are you going to lug a 70" TV and stow it away in your office? 

 

Also, taking away my devices might be the first idea that comes to your mind, because "it will teach the kid to not do this, that, by making him not have his luxuries." However, this can also cause repercussions for the parents themselves. To us as kids, we would not be able to play our games, or whatnot. To the parents, it will only cost them more inconvenience, as we might not be able to receive urgent messages from our friends or teachers, and the blame will be cast on the parents. Also, taking away our handphones will only not allow us to play games. As an avid reader, I would usually turn to story books to relieve my stress. Are you going to take my books away from me now?

 

As a teenager, I feel that parents should instead educate their children about what they have done wrong. Instead of just telling them "You're wrong" and just taking away their stuff, parents should explain to their kids about why and how their doings have affected others around them. Its like being a teacher, and instead of just telling you that the maths questions that you've done is wrong and leave you to figure out the solution by yourself, parents should take the initiative to explain to their kids, just like how the teachers would explain the solution to a question you've done wrongly. 

Lol, i know the feeling you described of "what are ya gonna do? Confiscate everything?" My parents once went on a power trip and did. Unplugged the TV, hid all electronics, hid my books. They even tried to kill my pet cat. Think that "put me back in line"? Hell no. It freed me. Because i realized a simple truth. Power is an illusion. We only think people have power over us, usually because we want something from said person, or we fear something they will do. But the concept of "power" itself is all in our heads. I realized nothing my parents could give me or do for me was worth the hell they had put me through, so i no longer wanted anything from them. From that point on, i was free.

[djsoggy1234]

Young people + gang crime = the youth of Middlesbrough. A lot of the shit that goes down to do with this is most likely due to parents that simply don't give a shit about their kids and just let them do whatever the fuck they want.

[SeriouslyMikey]

6 minutes ago, djsoggy1234 said:

Young people + gang crime = the youth of Middlesbrough. A lot of the shit that goes down to do with this is most likely due to parents that simply don't give a shit about their kids and just let them do whatever the fuck they want.

 

More like the youth of the entire North East. 

[cluelessgenius]

4 hours ago, AluminiumTech said:

Recently ,with the parent taking phone scam starting this trend, parenting is coming into questioning as to what is right or wrong.

 

 

So what is considered bad parenting to you?

 

For me: If the child is 15 or over, then taking anything is grand theft

 

Under 15 and then taking anything is sort of ok.

well to me if i payed for it its mine. so if i allow you to use it as my child then me taking it back is not theft and frankly i think most kids complaining are spiled anyway. if the kid payed for it themselves then its theirs and they can do whatever.

 

bad parenting to me is spoiling your and then getting angry for them being ungreatful brads when you are the one who fucked them up like that. 

if your child is an ass its your fault and parents getting angry at their kids is freaking stupid. 

[Tech N Gamer]

Parents who spoil their kids, and don't punish them, are the worst parents ever.

[Okjoek]

Reminds me of that episode of House where he claims all parents damage their children.

[minimoose]

4 hours ago, SeriouslyMikey said:

I disagree. If the child is under the age of 18, and is still living in their parent's home, unless it's the kid that bought the phone, the parent should have the right to confiscate it from them. 

I didn't have a mobile until the age of 14, and I never had my mobile phone taken away as it didn't seem to big of a deal to my mum, however, I had other things taken off me and other privileges taken away too. It taught me a lesson and after about the 4th or 5th time I stopped misbehaving. I was a slow learner.  

 

4 hours ago, SeriouslyMikey said:

I disagree. If the child is under the age of 18, and is still living in their parent's home, unless it's the kid that bought the phone, the parent should have the right to confiscate it from them. 

I didn't have a mobile until the age of 14, and I never had my mobile phone taken away as it didn't seem to big of a deal to my mum, however, I had other things taken off me and other privileges taken away too. It taught me a lesson and after about the 4th or 5th time I stopped misbehaving. I was a slow learner.  

Well legally that's just not true, if I bought my friend a phone and I have no right to steal that phone six months later and the same is true for kids. If the phone is on a contract under the parents name then yeah, the parent owns it. Regardless I do think parents should be able to take things away, that doesn't really make it legal though. 

[SeriouslyMikey]

1 minute ago, minimoose said:

 

Well legally that's just not true, if I bought my friend a phone and I have no right to steal that phone six months later and the same is true for kids. If the phone is on a contract under the parents name then yeah, the parent owns it. Regardless I do think parents should be able to take things away, that doesn't really make it legal though. 

A parent and a friend can't really be compared though, can they? Not to mention, a parent isn't stealing it. It would be like a teacher taking a phone off you in class. You'll get it back, though maybe at the end of the day, or the end of the lesson, they're not going to run off with it and use it for their own personal gain. And neither is a parent. Unless your parent is a low life piece of crap.