what to do w/ my life

[spirals]

so I love playing video games, 6-8hours a day, spending 80% of my life dedicated to gaming, at first few years since I got my new computer, I was having fun! feels great to have my new gaming PC, feels great to join the PC gaming communities, but..these days I started to feel bored, having little to no people to socialize with..I live in an apartment to the point where I live alone, I don't know what else to do..the only people I socialize to is the internet or my steam friends list, so tell me.. should I go outside? try to make friends physically or what.? At this point I'm just gonna say: I have (almost) nothing else to do with my life

[Velcade]

Not sure where you live but you could try joining a local YMCA.  Get into a couple pick up basketball games.

 

Do you like to read?  Head over to the library.  There are book clubs you can join.

 

Or just go for a walk.  If you want some non-human interaction local animal shelters are always looking for volunteers to help walk the dogs.

[spirals]

Just now, Velcade said:

Not sure where you live but you could try joining a local YMCA.  Get into a couple pick up basketball games.

 

Do you like to read?  Head over to the library?  

 

Or just go for a walk.  

where do I live? My apartment looks like and feels like I'm living in Downtown, but maybe that'll do. I'll try.

[Velcade]

1 minute ago, spirals said:

where do I live?

I meant country... I don't need your address

 

I also edited my first post a little while you were replying. 

[imreloadin]

8 minutes ago, spirals said:

so I love playing video games, 6-8hours a day, spending 80% of my life dedicated to gaming, at first few years since I got my new computer, I was having fun! feels great to have my new gaming PC, feels great to join the PC gaming communities, but..these days I started to feel bored, having little to no people to socialize with..I live in an apartment to the point where I live alone, I don't know what else to do..the only people I socialize to is the internet or my steam friends list, so tell me.. should I go outside? try to make friends physically or what.? At this point I'm just gonna say: I have (almost) nothing else to do with my life

I see you said you live alone in an apartment, what do you do for work?

[spirals]

Just now, imreloadin said:

I see you said you live alone in an apartment, what do you do for work?

Looking for one. Decided to have a little break

[wasab]

I spent 5 hours gaming last night from 12-5am. 2 hours spent on watching porn from 10-12.

 

Yeah.... It wasn't productive. I tend to do this after all my big exams. Haha

[imreloadin]

3 minutes ago, wasab said:

I spent 5 hours gaming last night from 12-5am. 2 hours spent on watching porn from 10-12.

 

Yeah.... It wasn't productive. I tend to do this after all my big exams. Haha

Gotta de-stress somehow

[AlexTheGreatish]

Maybe try learning how to code and create games.  Also learning how to fiddle with electronics can be a lot of fun, an Arduino and a breadboard can get you started for under $100 and there are heaps of guides online to progress.

 

Another good way to meet people is to join a maker space, they normally will have a bunch of classes that you can attend for a reasonable price, then you get to learn cool things and meet cool people at the same time.

[Guest]

Join a social sports club or take a class at a community college. 

[Techicolors]

learning to code is a nice start, but it can be a rather solitary activity unless you can find people willing and committed to do a project together

 

maybe see if your online friends want to meet up? tho may not be possible if they live far. i know someone who meets up with online friends all the time 

 

do you go to school? 

[dDave64]

What do you do for work? That may be a simple and productive way to get into some social circles. 

 

Gaming gets a bad rap from a lot of people but it’s only when it hinders us from living the life we should that it becomes an issue. Same with most other things really (drinking, movies, even outdoor activities like hiking)

 

I think gaming has been a very healthy thing for me. Though admittedly, it’s an extremely rare occasion that I put more than 1 or 2 hours into it in a day (I’m married and work 40+ hours a week)

 

Personally, I attend church, spend time with family, and spend time with certain coworkers. Most of my friends fall into at least one of those categories as it relates to me. That’s my community. It’s healthy to be around people. Maybe not all the time but it’s healthy to have people in your life.

 

in your personal time maybe take up a hobby like reading, lego building, or maybe writing. There’s so much out there. If you feel gaming is not a good use of your time 6-8 hours a day there are other things to do.

[wasab]

5 hours ago, Techicolors said:

learning to code is a nice start, but it can be a rather solitary activity unless you can find people willing and committed to do a project together

 

maybe see if your online friends want to meet up? tho may not be possible if they live far. i know someone who meets up with online friends all the time 

 

do you go to school? 

100% agree. Find other code hobbyists/enthusiasts to peer code with otherwise it is just like playing a single player chess game. 

[Boarder]

I don't know how old are you but I spend most of my days on my PC. That's because I am old (turn 69 in a few days) and practically all my friends are dead. I'm a retired mechanic so I'm disabled from heavy work.

 

You say you have very little friends and I can understand that what with people stabbing you in the back. I see it everywhere, even with my so called friends. They're dead I'm not.

 

All you can do is to take care of yourself. Don't sit all day, Get up and move around, go out for a walk. Get some exercise and fresh air.

 

The rest is up to you. 

[DumbAsshole32]

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[Arika]

maybe my early life has just been easy, but you shouldn't have to go out for the explicit purpose of making friends, it just kind of happens when you hang around the same people. work and school is good for this.

 

you can try going to the same place every day at the same time, like a cafe or gym, the staff and patrons might notice and you might just make friends with them by just simply being around. If you're going to spark up conversation with someone don't immediately go to PC stuff unless you know or have a very good indication that they are also into it

[Boarder]

That's how friendships started. You get to talking and soon y'all warm up to subjects y'all have in common and probably become friends.

[Tog Driver]

As much as I love playing computer games, it is largely a waste of time, while it has led me to learn about history a bit, chances are you aren't learning new things while playing your 1,155th round of CS:GO, this is a bit of "do as I say not as I do" but do something, read, go outside, learn to play an instrument, do something.

[Giganthrax]

How old are you? Do you have a job? That's kinda important.

 

If you're a teenager or in your early 20s, you really should stop playing so many video games and meet as many people as possible. Make friends. Human happiness is greatly reliant on the quality of your relationships (both romantic and platonic), and you will quite literally go insane and become depressed unless you have at least some meaningful socialization. 

 

Also, video games will become less fun and less fulfilling as you grow older. Get a job and start making friends with your colleagues, high school friends, family friends, etc. Go to activities such as salsa, yoga, martial arts, improv stand-up, whatever, just as long as it has people you can interact with. 

 

Finally, get some ambition in your life. Jump headfirst into it. Start working toward a larger goal such as a career, a creative endeavor, etc. If you're serious about it, this will automatically put you in a certain world where you will meet likeminded people. 

[Skylon]

Ways to find friends. Start playing magic the gathering or dnd at a local shop. Get a job with people your age, maybe work at a restaurant store or call center. Locate and join the local music scene, go to hippy / electronic music festivals they are very friendly places but don't start doing large amounts "receationals" start small if at all. Have a generally positive attitude don't bring up negative topics but if others are complaining about something join then and agree it's bullshit. Good luck out there

[Boarder]

I remember when I was so hung up on video games (I used to write them). In fact I built a Raspberry Pi project that looked like a mini Nintendo box. It uses a RetroPie OS and Emulation Station and loaded with 4500+ games on 12 consoles. I used to play guitar and others things.

 

All that's behind me because I've aged and lost interest.