I saved up $1000+, but parents still won't let me get a gaming PC.

[IkeaGnome]

22 minutes ago, pipnina said:

Around the world, people live with their parents now increasingly into their 30s, even in long term full-time employment.

A house you live in, even with your parents, doesn't necessarily mean their rules. It means a healthy compromise is needed or every party gets majorly ticked off.

Moving out from your parent's isn't the walk in the park it used to be, boomers.

Yes it is. I didn't agree with my parents. Dug through it for High School. 2 weeks later moved from Washington to Alaska. Got myself through school with no student debt either.

[Energycore]

24 minutes ago, pipnina said:

A house you live in, even with your parents, doesn't necessarily mean their rules. It means a healthy compromise is needed or every party gets majorly ticked off.

I wasn't going to pitch into this conversation, except for this.

 

This only applies when it's all adults in the house.

 

If I'm 25 and live with my parents, then I have every right to set my own rules and boundaries and look for a compromise.

 

In the case of a child, the parents are legally responsible for their actions. This is for good reason, and it means that until the child turns 18 (or whatever age at which point the parents or tutors are not legally responsible), the parents are in a position of authority.

 

I understand why you want to defy that, but if a kid wants to be treated like an adult, they better be paying for their own food, shelter and taxes.

[Dedayog]

18 minutes ago, pipnina said:

My worst problem certainly isn't my parents saying no. If anything mine *were* able to convince me on several occasions to not buy things for valid reasons. Even recently, after I've been in work for over a year now, my dad did convince me to postpone looking to move out because of financial stability.

Several years ago, when the Nvidia Shield came out and I must have been 15 or something, I was heavily enthused about it and my parents dulled that enough for me to realise I didn't need or want it that much after all. They played the delay game without saying no outright, which is a remarkably effective tactic at all ages.

Oh you recognize bad parenting while still living under your parent's roof?  So on the plus side, you see the issues they have to deal with. Mortgages, healthcare, worrying the ever living fuck when their heart and soul leaves the house, damn near every time?

 

The gall you have to say you can recognize bad parenting while still sucking at the teat... incredible.

 

Not even living on your own... boggling.

 

 

[Energycore]

2 minutes ago, gabrielcarvfer said:

- You probably should not be asking a bunch of random people for advice. You have no way to know if any of this is in your best interest.

This is very much true.

[Orange1]

15 hours ago, BaldEagle1949 said:

So basically back in 2018 I asked my parents if they can get me a gaming PC, and they were like "nah." So I decided to get myself a few jobs from the neighbors by doing yardwork and stuff. Fast forward to now and I have over $1000 usd. My parents STILL won't let me get a PC. They say I'm not responsible enough, and then they give me a buncha crap like how I don't do anything else besides screen (not true btw, I exercise multiple times a week, read, draw, etc.) and how I have addiction, and that buying a PC will just feed it. Every time I bring up my points they're just like "stop trying to argue you buttcheek" and then pretty much shut me down from there. They say if I do these things, then MAYBE they'll consider me getting a PC. The thing is though, I'm a good kid. I get all A's (some B's but we don't talk about that), and I am one of the most responsible, independent people at my school (I'm in middle school). So what should I do since pretty much now it seems like my hopes and dreams have been completely crushed. Honestly, I'm kinda shocked/depressed at the same time since I've put in so many hours of hard work for nothing. It's black friday soon and I probably won't even be able to purchase anything.

Parents think they know best, and that is usually always the case they do but some parents dont know best, your parents seem to know what they are talking about. They probably want you offline more, get excersize, find a sport to play like hockey. Hang with neighbor friends. You dont specify anything beyond your screen time on the pc, so your parents are probably right in that regard. You could save your $1g for college or a vehicle when you turn 14 years old.

[pipnina]

1 hour ago, Dedayog said:

Oh you recognize bad parenting while still living under your parent's roof?  So on the plus side, you see the issues they have to deal with. Mortgages, healthcare, worrying the ever living fuck when their heart and soul leaves the house, damn near every time?

 

The gall you have to say you can recognize bad parenting while still sucking at the teat... incredible.

 

Not even living on your own... boggling.

1 hour ago, Voluspa said:

Yes it is. I didn't agree with my parents. Dug through it for High School. 2 weeks later moved from Washington to Alaska. Got myself through school with no student debt either.

 

I won't argue with you any more except that you both have very american attitudes. The US is one of the easiest countries in the world to move out of your parents in in the world.

20% of 18-35 live with their parents in the US. More than 35% in the UK, 40%+ in germany, higher in other countries. Clearly it's not easy.

You can also recognise the fire under the pan whether you're the egg being cooked, the stove, or the high af human anthropomorphizing kitchen items.

[Orange1]

10 hours ago, pipnina said:

20% of 18-35 live with their parents in the US.

What ethnicity are those?