I finally figured out a solution to this and thought I would share on here incase anyone has the same problem.
If you can't mod your bios or just don't want to and you have an amd cpu, then you can use ryzen master to change your memory speed. Just check what your motherboard is capable of or your computer may not boot to the bios and will need the cmos to be reset. I accidentally put it at the memory max of 3600mhz when my board only supports 3200mhz max. After that I just dialed in the correct timings and left everything else on auto and then I tested it and saved the profile.