divorce after 50?

[cluelessgenius]

hey guys so i really need to get this off my chest. so my parents had a huge fight yesterday when i visited and it was more than usually. 

things got out of hand and dad is really stupid and so he looses a lot of fights and then escalates till he says something stupid like going away or worse. my parents didnt really have the happiest marriage but still i think there must be a reason they made it so far. and now my moms 56 and my dads 54 so i dont know really what to make of this. does somebody have any kind of input for me i just really need to talk about this.

[NeatSquidYT]

hey guys so i really need to get this off my chest. so my parents had a huge fight yesterday when i visited and it was more than usually. 

things got out of hand and dad is really stupid and so he looses a lot of fights and then escalates till he says something stupid like going away or worse. my parents didnt really have the happiest marriage but still i think there must be a reason they made it so far. and now my moms 56 and my dads 54 so i dont know really what to make of this. does somebody have any kind of input for me i just really need to talk about this.

It'll eventually sort out. I know it'll be hard to understand, as it's clear you love them, but what happens happens for the best.

[techswede]

hey guys so i really need to get this off my chest. so my parents had a huge fight yesterday when i visited and it was more than usually. 

things got out of hand and dad is really stupid and so he looses a lot of fights and then escalates till he says something stupid like going away or worse. my parents didnt really have the happiest marriage but still i think there must be a reason they made it so far. and now my moms 56 and my dads 54 so i dont know really what to make of this. does somebody have any kind of input for me i just really need to talk about this.

My mom and dad separated just two years ago. Both are happier now.

Long term relationships can get difficult at times

[ERSCreeper]

hey guys so i really need to get this off my chest. so my parents had a huge fight yesterday when i visited and it was more than usually. 

things got out of hand and dad is really stupid and so he looses a lot of fights and then escalates till he says something stupid like going away or worse. my parents didnt really have the happiest marriage but still i think there must be a reason they made it so far. and now my moms 56 and my dads 54 so i dont know really what to make of this. does somebody have any kind of input for me i just really need to talk about this.

My parents often threaten that they are going to get divorce but they never will.

[Sauron]

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Couples fight, it's normal. Usually that doesn't automatically mean they might divorce. If that really is a risk though, remember that YOU have the potential of being what holds them together. Try acting as the middle man. When they are discussing and it looks like things might get out of hand try proposing a solution that might suit both, or a compromise. Keep showing them you're there too and you hate it when they fight, not directly, but subtly.

[werto165]

Just flutter your eyes and say think of the children... 

[Swndlr]

my parents divorced when i was 8.

life sucks sometimes, not much more to it.

 

my dad remarried and my mom has a boyfriend, i dont like either of their new partners.

[Volbet]

People fight, and people make up. I have fight (although not big one) with my wife, and we always end up on good terms again.

My parent also thought sometime, but they always made up. They can never divorce either, since they were never married.

 

But sometime people get divorced. Even after a long time. My former neighbors got divorced after 54 years of marriage. They were both in their 70's. 

[Tech_Dreamer]

depends on how much they love eachother underneath all that bullshit. . .

[Hans Christian | Teri]

Just flutter your eyes and say think of the children... 

 

The children aren't going to be happier with two sad parents than with two happy, separated parents.

 

As for OP, what ever is going on between your parents is their deal and they're the ones that have to work it out. There is absolutely nothing you can do other than not standing in the way. Let them work it out, if it ends up in a divorce then that's a step for the better, not the worse. With that said every couple fights, that's just the way of life. That doesn't necessarily mean they're not happy or that there's a serious problem in the relationship.

[Oshino Shinobu]

My parents divorced 3 years ago when I was 16 (parents slightly younger than yours are now). To be honest, both my parents worked abroad a lot, so I was used to only living with one at a time anyway, so I didn't notice too much of a change. 

 

How each person takes it will change depending on their personality (my sister took it pretty hard) so it's hard to say for you. It will also depend on where you are in your life. I was just starting my A Levels when they split, so it affected my studies due to moving house (effectively moving twice, once with each parent). 

 

The thing that I've found that really changes is the back and forth you may get between them. Every time I was with them, I had to listen to them complaining about the other. 

[MegaDave91]

My parents separated when I was 11 or 12, and I used to blame it on myself. Some arguments would arise because one would defend me verbally (never physical) from the other, and I used to think If I never got into trouble with one that a lot of the arguing would never exist in the first place. 

 

Now older (23), wiser and having a better understanding of it - there were far deeper rooted reasons for the separation.

 

It was quite devastating for me; for the longest time I would sleep at my Dad's house and he'd drive me home on his way to work. I'd then get ready for school and be driven by my Mom. 

[cluelessgenius]

Just flutter your eyes and say think of the children... 

ok first of all im 23 and making my own money, living by myself.

 

secondly they are not gonna talk it out, in our family we just dont talk about stuff until people forget.

 

also as for all you other guys thanks for your thought but im still conserned and divorce isnt really the worst case here to be honest. my dad actually threatened to end himself because he cant take it anymore he totally wrong but still as said hes stupid as shit and i fear he might actually act on it.