Relationship helps?

[IBIubbleTea]

We have been seeing quite a few of these post floating around LTT in the past few months and I'm here to make another one.
 
A little about myself.. I'm currently in grade 10. Had my first relationship when I was 13(yeah I know... ) When I come to think about that relationship, it's stupid to be honest.. I asked the girl out online and even though she said yes... We didn't really do anything special in person even though we when to the same school and such. We only really Skype called...
 
So there's this girl I really like... Goes to the same school as me and same grade too. We have the same homeroom but didn't really talk for the first year of highschool (gr.8-9) until late last year. She was the one who started talking to me and that's when I started to have feelings for her. A month ago, we started walking home with each other as we walked the same way. But one day while walking with her home, she was like.. You like this person(a friend of hers, hangs out and such). I said.."Why do you say that?" She responded with.."cause she bullies(for fun, not serious) you and you don't care or do anything about it" Then I was like.."she isn't the only person who bullies me, you know you bully me too.." 

 

Just this last week, we had some student visitors from China for a week and one of them liked the same girl. Friday was there last day at our school before going to a different school or somewhere else in Vancouver. He decided to ask her out. At first I didn't really know about this when last night she messaged me telling me I should have stayed after school for this event or club and then she said.."How do you friend zone someone" I was a bit confused at this point then she told me that the dude was trying to ask her out. Also told me she didn't want to have a relationship with the guy...

 

Maybe we have some trust in each other with secrets or I'm still acting like a child and what not and who doesn't know anything.

 

Of course being only 15, the older generation may say that relationships don't matter at this age but I do truly like and have feelings for her.

 

Thoughts? 

 

 

 

Sorry about my English; sentence structure and what not.

[niofalpha]

The answer to every problem iv'e encountered in life can be solved by 3 words.

 

Go For It.

[d3sl91]

As for what to tell her: Tell her to be honest to the guy and not mess with his head. A simple "Hey, I'm just not interested in you that way" may be hard to say, but in the end will end up with the least mess.

 

As for you... I'd say honesty again. Maybe give it a little more time to build a friendship, but sooner or later, just going to have to ask her or you may end up ruining a good friendship. 

 

 

 

Edit: ::laughs:: As one of those "old guys" (Who is engaged by the way), Yeah, 15 is young, but it never hurts to learn how to behave in relationships young

[dfsdfgfkjsefoiqzemnd]

When a girl you like asks you how she should put someone in the friend zone, she doesn't have a clue about your feelings. Make sure you're not in the friend zone yourself, because girls tend to keep you there. They "don't want to ruin a good friendship".

I wasted my entire 20s in my special someone's friend zone, and ended up alone after all when she moved and contact faded. If you can't get out of there within a reasonable amount of time, don't hang around.

[Klerk]

There is a pretty high chance she likes you also. You are already in the right track since you already have a good foundation with her being her friend.

 

As what to tell her, just say that she should tell the other guy she is not interested. I would also confess to her as soon as I can if I were you. Just tell her you like her but just don't tell her you love her or something to that degree.

[Admire]

You will get the same answer as all the other "relationship" threads by teenagers. GO FOR IT! Stop looking for a reason it might go wrong.

 

Ask her out! Hell, even explaining this to her could do the trick. Just do something.

 

Best way to be friendzoned is to do nothing. Women expect a guy to make the move. If you don't make the move early enough, you get friendzoned.

[Unhelpful]

When a girl you like asks you how she should put someone in the friend zone, she doesn't have a clue about your feelings. Make sure you're not in the friend zone yourself, because girls tend to keep you there. They "don't want to ruin a good friendship".

I wasted my entire 20s in my special someone's friend zone, and ended up alone after all when she moved and contact faded. If you can't get out of there within a reasonable amount of time, don't hang around.

Friend zones do not exist. A girl may simply not like you. There is no "friend zone." It is a sad attempt at rejected guys trying to justify why a girl does not like them.

[Klerk]

Friend zones do not exist. A girl may simply not like you. There is no "friend zone." It is a sad attempt at rejected guys trying to justify why a girl does not like them.

Totally agree man. It is just usually a silly excuse when a girl doesn't feel the same way as you or a guy doesn't have the guts to tell someone how they feel because "I don't want to ruin the friendship".

[IBIubbleTea]

There is a pretty high chance she likes you also. You are already in the right track since you already have a good foundation with her being her friend.

 

As what to tell her, just say that she should tell the other guy she is not interested. I would also confess to her as soon as I can if I were you. Just tell her you like her but just don't tell her you love her or something to that degree.

 

 

When a girl you like asks you how she should put someone in the friend zone, she doesn't have a clue about your feelings. Make sure you're not in the friend zone yourself, because girls tend to keep you there. They "don't want to ruin a good friendship".

I wasted my entire 20s in my special someone's friend zone, and ended up alone after all when she moved and contact faded. If you can't get out of there within a reasonable amount of time, don't hang around.

 

 

As for what to tell her: Tell her to be honest to the guy and not mess with his head. A simple "Hey, I'm just not interested in you that way" may be hard to say, but in the end will end up with the least mess.

 

As for you... I'd say honesty again. Maybe give it a little more time to build a friendship, but sooner or later, just going to have to ask her or you may end up ruining a good friendship. 

 

 

 

Edit: ::laughs:: As one of those "old guys" (Who is engaged by the way), Yeah, 15 is young, but it never hurts to learn how to behave in relationships young

About the How do you friend zone someone. maybe I should have included this part. After saying that. she was like "If it was someone I know I would talk to them and just throw the word friend out"

[Klerk]

Here is my advice on what you can say to her. Ask her about the other guy on what their status is. Then tell her and say " Hey, I have something to confess to you. Since that guy started pursuing you I got a bit upset and jealous because...well, I kinda like you. I mean I really like you, not just a friend. It's more than that. If you don't feel the same it's ok and I hope this doesn't change anything between us. I just think you are an amazing person and I just really can't help myself from liking you."

 

Goodluck man.

[Admire]

Friend zones do not exist. A girl may simply not like you. There is no "friend zone." It is a sad attempt at rejected guys trying to justify why a girl does not like them.

 

But girls are different with how their feelings transform. Girls will decide pretty early on whether you are boyfriend material or not. If you don't make the move before then, you are usually screwed.

 

You may say the friendzone doesn't exist but there is a big difference in how the two genders approach this.

[Unhelpful]

But girls are different with how their feelings transform. Girls will decide pretty early on whether you are boyfriend material or not. If you don't make the move before then, you are usually screwed.

 

You may say the friendzone doesn't exist but there is a big difference in how the two genders approach this.

The friendzone does not exist. It is as simple as a girl not liking a guy, and him trying to excuse it. "She friendzoned me. Can you believe that?"

[IBIubbleTea]

I think shes just waiting for you to tell her "tell the Chinese guy you already have me"

 

Go be her knight in shining armor.

serious or not. idk why but I find this funny.

[dfsdfgfkjsefoiqzemnd]

The friendzone does not exist. It is as simple as a girl not liking a guy, and him trying to excuse it.

That statement alone proves that you know even less about women than most men (myself included).

[Lewellyn]

Useful stuff

[IBIubbleTea]

It gets the job done for her, and even if she doesn't take it seriously, she will take it as an indication that you like her.

 

You stand to lose nothing.

Yes but only if I could thing outside the box with a size of creativity. I'm 99% positive that she rejected him. 

[Unhelpful]

That statement alone proves that you know even less about women than most men (myself included).

 

"Friendzone" is a coping mechanism. 

 

Well I guess it doesn't matter. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

[IBIubbleTea]

So this happened last night.

I may have messed up but you know, you learn from your mistakes right? 

 

 

~Me

Did you start on your science lab?

~Girl

Nope

I'm sad and lonely

And chinese guy is talking and he thought I hung out with my boyfriend today

~Me 

Sad and lonely?

Same.

~Girl

Oh new news I have a boyfriend apparently someone I don't know

Not talking about the chinese guy

Who do you like

~Me

Guessss

~Girl

(guessed the girl from the walking home part)

~Me

Really?

You still think that.

Common baddie

gueeesss

~Girl

(changed the subject on me and showed me her English powerpoint project or something because she was doing it while we talked)

.....

Doggy poo Im tired

~Me

Who isn't..? (btw it was like 1:30 in the morning)

This guy..

~Girl

(didn't get it, I <3 Bubble's bad jokes)

~Me

I like you. Not just as a friend. It's more than that.

~Girl

How? I'm so mean to you

~Me

Well. You're not mean all the time. Just mostly online.

~Girl

Are you sure about that?

~Me

Yes

it's okay if you don't feel the same. Hope this doesn't change anything between us.

~Girl

It won't change, trust me. I don't mess things up or I don't want to at least

~Me

Okay. I think you're an amazing person. I'll just end it at that. My dad wants me to go to Richmond even though I have an English essay and lab due on Monday. Good Night Baddie

~Girl

I'm not that amazing. I have homework too and Nighty Night.

 

 

 

 

 

[IBIubbleTea]

she didnt directly say that but i think ..... she might be into you maybe ...... hope she is ..... 

I don't mind people giving me their honest opinion..

 

Of course, I didn't directly ask her to be my girlfriend. That may be why she didn't say that.