Texting My Crush

lazyfortress · December 27, 2016

I don't know what to do. I just got my crush's number last month, and I can't tell if we're friends or not. She seemed very cheerful about giving her number to me (I asked her for her number). We text just about every day or every other day. She doesn't seem to have a problem talking with me. I ask her questions about herself, such as how her day was, how classes went, and et cetera. Today I talked to her, and she seemed to be a bit more involved in my conversation. For an example, when I said that I woke up late (at 8:30, I usually get up at 5:45. We're both in 9th grade), she said, "wait, hold up, what?!" She also seems to listen to whatever I'm saying, such as my horrid puns. Last week when I was standing near the dismissal door, and when my crush saw me, she smiled and waved. I've never had that happen to me before.

I'm a geek, so I sometimes share some facts to her, such as the time I defined "ångström", or computer facts. I try my best to not bore her out.

But it's like I have to talk to my crush first. She never talks to me first. How can I get her interest? I thought that we were in totally different "leagues". But she doesn't seem to mind me. My goal is to FaceTime her before this year ends. How can I accomplish that goal? I'm currently on Christmas break, so would it be appropriate for me to FaceTime her during this break? She's not doing anything special.

Also, I have another question. Would it be appropriate for me to ask my crush to take a picture with me? Would she be weirded out? There's this one girl who asked to take a picture with me on her phone, and I asked her the same thing, but with my phone, and she didn't seem to mind. She seemed happy. So what do you think?

I just don't know if she likes me or not. Can my crush tell if I like her? What's your opinion, does my crush like me?

FinestRyeBread · December 27, 2016

Well I have some experience with this. She's interested in you but I don't know to what extent. Just say you want to chat with her on FaceTime cuz you haven't seen her and wonder how she's doing. I would only ask to take a picture with her if you're hanging out so it's not weird (memories). I would wait a little but not too long to tell her that you like her.

asand1 · December 27, 2016

Or ask her is she'd like to get a coffee or see a movie?

MrDynamicMan · December 27, 2016

Obligatory.

MrDynamicMan · December 27, 2016

OK: real advice.

Go out with her, IRL. Not as in dating, but go to a movie or something that can be a conversation point. Going for a coffee has one or two issues with it:

If youre overly nervous you might not know what to talk about, leaving it awkward
If you don't know what to talk about, Ditto.

A movie also eases initial tensions. It calms both of you down and makes you comfortable, so you're not nervous when leaving, and creates a talking point. If the night goes ask her out. If she says no stay in your room for a couple weeks and cry yourself to sleep, because your life is meaningless and the world is horrible.

Take my advice with a grain of salt: I'm sociable but have never actually had the balls to ask someone out.