Kawaii Koneko

Hey, sorry, I didn't mean for it to sound in any way like I was telling you how to react. Maybe my wording was poor. I was just trying to say that every trans woman is different and finding one who you (not you as in you but you as in a general sense for anyone) can connect with sexually requires tact and understanding. Sorry, if I was sounding like I was lecturing, it wasn't my intent at all! Yeah, I know nothing of this since I'm not attracted to men at all and never did any research, unlike with me and trans women. My gf probably knows more since she likes trans men in addition to cis men.

Right, good point! Trans porn can be both straight and lesbian. My mind just slipped for a second.

Well, trans porn is straight porn because trans women are women, just born a little different. I think the best way to refer to it would be cis gender porn vs trans porn. Sorry, I don't mean to nitpick and I'm the last one to be politically correct but I think it's important to get terms right when talking about this kind of stuff. Eh, it depends on the person. Femboys are different than trans women with smaller breasts and penis. Obviously, what they self identify as being the biggest difference. I'd be a little careful tossing terms around here because you don't want to accidentally label a trans woman femboy or vice versa. Either way would be insulting. There is a lot of mislabeling in porn so that can cause confusion, I get that. Just be a little careful. Those are what I would label femboys and different than trans women. Totally different but also totally fine. You do you. And that is where things can get difficult because every trans woman is different. Some transwomen are dysphoric about that part of them to the point of wanting it totally ignored, others are accepting of it, and others embrace it. My gf literally told me that she likes her penis and wants to keep it. She only told me this though after she asked me if I would stay with her if she got SRS and I told her course I would, I love her for who she is. Then she basically said "Good but I plan to keep it anyway". I think she just wanted to know I wasn't only into her for that reason and of course, that isn't the only reason I like her. I love her as a person but sexual compatibility is important and it seems we have that. It is something to tread lightly on. It's something I tried not to bring up with anyone early on. The first trans girl, the topic didn't even come up until before I met her, the second, well, she was very upfront about where she stood early on (oh yeah, there was a second I didn't mention but that was because I just wasn't feeling things with her), and then there is my gf who did ask me right away what my preference was but only later revealed her personal position on everything.. Turns out we both are a great match for each other because of our preferences and our own bodies. I actually tried to tell myself it was fetish for awhile until I realized it was a genuine feeling. It's just what I'm into. It's my orientation. It's best to just accept it. But if you do, be ready to give that girl the life she deserves. The whole keep it a secret thing is a big downer. Some girls accept it but they deserve better. Just like a cis gender woman. Really no difference there. And again, every trans woman is different when it comes to sexual things. But like I said, femboy/trans = two separate identities. It's important to maintain a clear distinction. Didn't realize they called themselves that. I actually know next to nothing about trans men because I don't like dudes so haven't really read anything beyond passive reading. So my gf likes cis gender and trans men. She finds both attractive. She isn't attracted to women though. So actually had a trans man that she liked at one point but he didn't feel the same way.

Ah, yes. The funny magic words. More like the most annoying word ever lol. Why they couldn't have come up with a term a little easier to say in normal conversation is beyond me. GAMP is the shorthand for it but meh, can we please come up with something better? Basically, without breaking the word down, it just means someone who is attracted to trans women who haven't had SRS. It's something I realized about myself like a decade ago and it took me a long time to fully embrace who I am, for a variety of reasons. But I've fully embraced who I am and just decided to roll with it. I do like cis gender women too which makes sense. I like women. Cis gender women and transwomen are both women, but there are things about trans women that I've found in recent years draws me to them with greater attraction than cis women. Honesty, one of the things that made me a bit nervous before I decided to start being who I am is that there is a lot of skepticism towards "GAMPS" in the trans community. I've seen a lot of threads of guys online who try to open up and get pushback. And don't get me wrong, I fully get why there is skepticism. I think there are two kinds of GAMPS. The "chasers/curious" and the genuine ones. There are a lot of guys who do view trans women as a kind of fetish that they just want to experience them in secret and treat them like some kind of sex toy. And I do think some of the curious ones just aren't quite where they need to be yet. Some might never leave the curious camp but some will ultimately just embrace who they are, like I did. Although, I wouldn't say I was ever "curious". I think I realized really quickly what I liked but it just took me forever to fully embrace it. And I'm glad I never tried to get in any kind of relationship until I just fully accepted who I am. Guys who are on the fence don't make good boyfriends and don't give trans women the kind of relationship they deserve. So my girlfriend, her last boyfriend was a "down low man". He didn't want any of his friends to know he was dating a trans women. They never even went on a proper date because of this. She said they went out in public one time in the nearly three years that they dated. She put up with it because she loved him. But then he left her right before their three year anniversary for a cis gender woman. You can imagine how crippling this experience must have been for her. I'm pretty open about who I am. Hell, I've told my parents. The way I see it, if people can't accept that I'm dating a woman who just so happened to be born a little different than cis gender women, that's their problem. I'm proud of my gf for her bravery and the adversity she has overcome. I fully support her and you know what? She fully supports me. Like I said, some trans women are skeptical about guys like me but my gf is totally accepting of it. She gets that I just like what I like, and frankly, based on her plans for the future, she is glad because well, she doesn't want SRS so she is happy that I like all of her. She has been getting more and more open with me lately talking about her dysphoria and she has made it pretty clear that her dysphoria has to do with other things.

Just reminds me of my mom when I told her not only am I dating a trans woman but I am gynandromorphophilic. Her response was "So you're gay.". SMH.

Well, when I can't even mention her in conversation and they refuse to even meet her, that's a big problem. Sure, I do care what they think, but it in no way changes how I feel or act toward her. I think most people want their parents to accept their partners.

Not really. Yes, I was super into that other girl but we never actually dated. I'll admit, I did have strong feelings for her and I really wanted something to happen but she just couldn't pull the trigger. We really did have everything in common and we talked a ton about our interests. I drove out and visited her and it went great. We continued to talk after that and things seemed great. But then it started to become obvious she just wasn't moving forward. So I tried to push a bit and then she finally just said she wasn't ready to start dating. She even pulled her profile from the dating site we met on so I do believe her. I don't know if it was a commitment thing or family pressures. I really did get the sense she liked me but something was just holding her back. Idk. Maybe she was just afraid of getting hurt. But this girl and I are actually dating so it's a bit different. And while we may not have all the nerdy things in common like I did with that other girl, we connect on a different level. We connect to each other emotionally and that's what is really important. Even though we aren't into all the same things, it's like as we talked, we just got into each other more and more. And the thing is, I'm 35 and I've had other girlfriend's before (all of them cis until now) but I've never felt this kind of connection so fast and so strongly with anyone before. So part of me likes to think I'm not being an idiot thanks to my life experience lol. Arrested Development fan spotted lol. That is interesting to know. I seriously had no clue. I'm going to have to ask my girlfriend about this. And majoring in Counter Strike, that might be a thing now that esports are getting so popular lol. That's pretty badass actually. I guess I just never heard this meme. Is this more of a joke among the transwomen community specifically? Because I've never heard it outside of it.

It's not a grey area in any way shape or form. If the developers themselves added support as a means of input then it's totally legit. Having an advantage due to your choice input method is fine. Saying it's a grey area is like saying using mouse and keyboard on a XBox One/Series game that has support natively in the game because the developer added it is a grey area as well.

Honestly, as a Vita owner, I have never had a shortage of games to play. It is still a great handheld if you are into JRPG, anime, and just Japanese games in general. It had a lot of indie games too. I think people think the Vita has a small library because they are looking for the AAA experience games Sony marketed the Vita as specializing in. There were very few and but like I said, there are just tons of great games for it if you are into weeb type games. As for the cards, yeah, they were expensive but I think part of the reason for this was to combat piracy. While it may have sucked for the consumer to have to cough up so much money, it's hard to blame Sony considering just how bad piracy was on the PSP. That said, I put up with an 8 GB card when I first got mine but quickly just sprang for the 64 GB version. Coughing up $100 for a 64 GB card felt like a joke considering what that would get you for any other media but man, it sure made the experience a lot better. I never used the 3G either. One, because AT&T coverage sucks around me and two, I have a 4G smartphone. I think the speed and low latency of Verizon LTE far outweighs the convenience of just turning on the Vita and being online. It's not that hard to have to turn tethering on lol. As for a disappointing console? Well, it wasn't a console but rather a handheld. I actually convinced my parents to buy me a Tiger Game.com when I was a kid. I was a dumb kid and lured by the PDA functions and internet connectivity. Do I even need to explain why I was disappointed?

Yes, any USB C cable should work fine.

Wait, what is this meme you speak of? Is computer science (I take it that's what CS is) a common field of study in the trans community or something? I'm just curious because my girlfriend who is trans also went to college for computer science. Yeah, it is actually. I mean, I definitely see how crazy that looks. Actually, we both do. But we both just came to the conclusion of so what? We both just feel an incredible connection and we just know the other is who we have been looking for. We aren't actually sharing our finances though. That comment was just more of a in the future kind of thing. I kind of got carried away when writing that lol.

Well, it is almost that girl's and my one month anniversary. It will be on the 9th. That is our official anniversary though since I asked her out and she said yes. We actually met on the 31st of March. We literally talked like crazy since that day until I asked her out. I knew probably by the third day that I really wanted to go out with her and we were already lovey dovey by that point. Not sure why I even waited that long other than really wanting to make sure I didn't have any residual feelings for that other girl where things fell apart. And it has been amazing ever since. I've never felt like this about anyone and the things we share, wow. We've both shared so much we've never told anyone and we both just totally accept it. She is also so good at reading me as well. I had a big fight with my mom the other day AGAIN over her being trans. I was talking to her a little later on the phone and like, she could tell right away something was bothered me. It really makes me feel bad to tell her just how unaccepting my parents are and that my mom said she doesn't want to ever even meet her but she is just so accepting. She said a lot of things but one of which was that even if my parents can't accept her, she still cares about them because they are my family and she'll just hope that one day they will. She is just such an angel. We had a pretty long and open conversation the other day on the phone and I sent her a message just a minute after saying " Baby, let's promise each other that we will both always accept the other no matter what. That we will never hesitate to share with the other because we know we won't be judge. Baby, we are going to be partners for life and I wasn't us to share everything, our finances, our hopes, our dreams, our fears, our perverted fantasies, our souls, our bodies, our very essence, and most of all our love. I love you (her name here) and (my last name here)!" Not even five minutes later she calls me back crying. I asked her what was wrong and she said it was my message. She said it made her cry tears of joy when she read it because it touched her heart so much. She told me she had pretty much given up on ever finding love until she met me. She said she can't believe she met a guy who is so accepting of who she is and who makes her feel so special. I seriously fell in love even deeper at that point. Oh, and if you are wondering about the perverted line in my message, it was a bit of an ongoing joke between us about us both having a lot of things we are into that most people would label as perverted. Let's just say we have very similar mindsets when it comes to what turns us on and what we think is hot in the bedroom lol.

Another meaning, and the one in which I most commonly use it, is being true to yourself, accepting who you are, and acting on it. Often this is accompanied by the attitude of not caring what others think.

Haha, that would be awesome to convert into a party/gaming bus.

Really, this isn't something to worry about from a rational global player. Nuclear deterrence works and with economies so interwoven, major nations don't want conflict with other big players. It's bad for their economy and can have political repercussions.