Girl Help!

[Slottr]

Welcome to the natural teenage life of me. I'm a skinny nerdy kid whos pretty bad at making conversation.

 

I really want to get into another relationship and this girl is 100% out of my league and I'm 110% introverted. We were friends like 2 years ago but kinda split ways when my friend group changed while dating someone else.

 

How should I go about this? 

[KuJoe]

You can either force the situation and approach her directly and hope it works out (but based on your post it sounds like you don't have a lot of confidence in this method) or you can wait for the opportunity to present itself, maybe you run into her outside of school or get paired up with her in a class or something. Patience might be your best bet but then again if you don't take the initiative it might never happen or it might happen when it's too late. No matter what you do don't sweat however it turns out, I'm the only one of my group of friends that married their high school sweetheart and am still married after 9+ years, the rest of them that did got divorced within a year and the rest broke up after high school so the chances of you finding "the one" at your age are very slim so stay positive whatever the outcome is.

[Slottr]

16 minutes ago, KuJoe said:

You can either force the situation and approach her directly and hope it works out (but based on your post it sounds like you don't have a lot of confidence in this method) or you can wait for the opportunity to present itself, maybe you run into her outside of school or get paired up with her in a class or something. Patience might be your best bet but then again if you don't take the initiative it might never happen or it might happen when it's too late. No matter what you do don't sweat however it turns out, I'm the only one of my group of friends that married their high school sweetheart and am still married after 9+ years, the rest of them that did got divorced within a year and the rest broke up after high school so the chances of you finding "the one" at your age are very slim so stay positive whatever the outcome is.

Well im definitely on the side of directly going at it. I've always had the mentality that I am in high school and only 17, so really anything I do now is very permanent. Thanks for the reply

[themaniac]

i have a good friend named Shia that has this say let me quote it for you "JUST DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!" but seriously just talk to her, why does it matter if its been 2 years, i recently have been talking to a girl that i knew from 5 years ago and i've been fine talking to her, heck i even thought i was very introverted like you but i was wrong, nothing bad will happen if you talk to her

[Sintezza]

And why would you concider her to be 100% out of your league?

[Gale]

3 hours ago, Slottr said:

How should I go about this? 

The same way you would approach any one of your friends. Just ask her if she wants to hang out, don't make it any more complicated on yourself.

[Slottr]

2 hours ago, themaniac said:

i have a good friend named Shia that has this say let me quote it for you "JUST DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!" but seriously just talk to her, why does it matter if its been 2 years, i recently have been talking to a girl that i knew from 5 years ago and i've been fine talking to her, heck i even thought i was very introverted like you but i was wrong, nothing bad will happen if you talk to her

Haha, yeah guess nothing bad could happen aside from a no. Thanks 

[NeoZeon]

Hi, we should catchup sometime. Can I buy you a cup of coffee ? 

[Slottr]

4 minutes ago, Gale said:

The same way you would approach any one of your friends. Just ask her if she wants to hang out, don't make it any more complicated on yourself.

I tend to overthink stuff, this entire thread is just me doing that  thanks 

[Slottr]

1 minute ago, NeoZeon said:

Hi, we should catchup sometime. Can I buy you a cup of coffee ? 

You literally just ripped what I was going to say out of my head. What kind of wizard are you?

[NeoZeon]

1 minute ago, Slottr said:

You literally just ripped what I was going to say out of my head. What kind of wizard are you?

 

A lesson for all you lonely folk out there. Be direct. There really isn't any art in it. Just like you would be flattered getting asked out, so will she (or he). 

[Sintezza]

As a girl myself, i realy find these kind of topics amusing.

 

[Slottr]

2 minutes ago, Sintezza said:

As a girl myself, i realy find these kind of topics amusing.

 

I wouldnt doubt it haha

[Sintezza]

5 minutes ago, Slottr said:

I wouldnt doubt it haha

But yeah just ask if she likes to hang out some time.

You realy shouldnt make it any more difficult then that for your self realy.

 

[alicskysareblue]

5 hours ago, Slottr said:

Welcome to the natural teenage life of me. I'm a skinny nerdy kid whos pretty bad at making conversation.

 

I really want to get into another relationship and this girl is 100% out of my league and I'm 110% introverted. We were friends like 2 years ago but kinda split ways when my friend group changed while dating someone else.

 

How should I go about this? 

You kill yourself by putting yourself down stop it, instead. Make simple complement. Say oh I really that necklace where you get it? . Or find something your both interested in say a tshirt with a band you like,, be honest and respectful. 

 

And some general advice take care of your self show some pride in what you do 

 

 

[Sauron]

18 hours ago, Slottr said:

this girl is 100% out of my league

That's the worst attitude you can have about it. She's not "out of your league", there is no such thing. You either love each other or you don't. If you love her, let her know in a non creepy manner and if she's into it she'll tell you so.

[Unhelpful]

22 hours ago, Slottr said:

only 17, so really anything I do now is very permanent. Thanks for the reply

Everything about your life right now is the least permanent it will ever be...

 

Just go for it. Rejection hurts, but it fades.

[Gale]

20 hours ago, NeoZeon said:

Hi, we should catchup sometime. Can I buy you a cup of coffee ? 

Hell yeah, I love coffee.

[BlueChinchillaEatingDorito]

5 hours ago, Gale said:

Hell yeah, I love coffee.

Any Canadian is down for Tims.