Persuading My Family to Embrace My Computer Science Passion: Seeking Advice

[OppositeCube]

 
OK, I am an AS Cambridge student I want to take computer science. I love technology, Learned to code, currently going through cyber security courses, and I even watch tech-related stuff on YouTube as entertainment. All in all, technology is my passion and what my career is 100% going to be based upon. But my parents are forcing me to take chemistry and I would rather study anything else than this extremely dull and unnecessary subject, I can't even go into dept as to how much I personally hate chemistry. 

My Guardian is saying that you can take computer science as an extra subject. So what happened my mother's brother or my uncle, said that don't take computer science now. He said to take it at university. And when my Guardian got to know. he said I made a terrible mistake. (he is also a computer engineer, and knows I have a lot of passion and interest in information technology, software, and hardware). My counselor said that I need to check specific universities to see if chemistry is necessary for computer engineering. I have an interest in hard and software both. (computer engineering includes both of them). But I prefer software more. My Guardian is also saying you need to do an engineering field he says Computer Science has no scope. I am surprised. But anyways, the main I did was that I told my Uncle about what the counselor said. He said so it might mean that for some universities you might need chemistry. 

He is a mechanical engineer and is not in the Computer Engineering field. And that was my biggest mistake….., I manually didnt check the universities in my country, and the main criteria. Is Physics, Maths, and Computer Science. but if you take chemistry as a secondary you can apply for it. The problem is, why on God's Earth would I waste my energy in time on a subject I absolutely hate. If I clearly have the option to pursue my goals the way I want to? I don’t know why I agreed to his suggestion that some universities might need chemistry. None do, only Harvard and Oxford need it, I even tried to explain that 70% to 80% of the students who have same passions as me Took Computer Science instead of chemistry. And seriously I am so angry as to how my Uncle is interfering and almost ruining my career. And my mother now is also forcing me to take computer science. I actually took some online tuition classes from my Uncle, and he is funding for extra home tuition for all of my subjects. That is why he is trying to help me out, in which he is clearly failing.

 I also have some interest in robotics, and my Guardian said. For that you need chemistry. Like if you take chemistry, you can go into both fields and explore. Even though all of my my Father and my Guardian is from my father's Family all their brothers are in IT and software engineer for some stupid reason my Guardian is saying me to go and "atleast try Engineering Field, who knows if you like it" The only Engineer is my Grandfather, and even my father went through this problem when he was my age. He did try as my grandfather said . After trying it for a semester or two (not sure how long) he said "I don't like! it is too difficult for me.". Look my father's money is limited also, I can't also afford to waste money on a field I already know I will not like. My own Father went through this switched to IT and made a successful family. And because of personal family and health issues already my 1 year got wasted. I can't afford to waste more years; on something I will hate in the end. It is a waste of time and money, I need to get through university and to get highly paid Job Asap , to maintain my Fathers wealth. Not waste it...

I told my Principle the situation, and she talked called my Uncle, unfortunetly he didn’t attend, (its summer vacation, should I contact her again to talk to him in whatsapp? I have less time left). So instead I said her to talk to my Guardian, and told him that “Your son is week in chemistry and he is finding it tough,  its high school chemistry which is even more tough and he will not be able to do it.. You can talk to him in front of me” My Gaurdian me, so what do you want to do in future?
 I said I want to peruse computer science. You wont be able to go in Computer Engineering, you will only be able to go in Computer Science. (At that time I didn’t check my university criteria from my country.) My guardian is forcing me to do University in my country, they do have some very good education insitituions.  But I want to go abroad. My guardian said that you would be better off doing Masters abroad but at least do bachelors in your country, as outside is very expensive and you will have to live alone. My fathers friend lives in America, and my Mothers sister in UK. And my Fathers eldest brother live in Canada Though I haven’t research I know Malaysia is good, has the same degree level of Canada. My mother also motivates me to go abroad as I want to, but long story short. My Guardian left his job and career to take care of me. He was happy living in a rich country. But still left everything for me, as he was very close to my Father. And will leave till I get a stable and have a highly paid Job and a family. So he also said “If you will go abroad, then why did I leave everything” in like a worrying way. He genuinely cares about me helped me out in extremely hard times and we had so many happy memories. But perhaps he can take care of my sisters? I won’t live their forever, I can come back for him. But If I started to like living abroad, he himself lived in UK I could go with him there, and he will be with me.

 I even told my coordinator the situation even though she gets a little angry easily, though she already somewhat knew as she manages my day to day subject related and academic problem. But God… she is the real hero… 
 My Mom on her way with me to the bank with the receipt for registering three A level subjects, with chemistry instead of computer science. I called my coordinator and requested her to talk to my mother, She said “Its fine, he has home tuition, so he can teach him chemistry” and my coordinator said “How can a person teach all three different subjects?” and that was true, the tutor could barely give me time for each subject, and me being weak in chemistry. I wasn’t even passing my school exams.

But sadly my mother hesitated I will personally teach him, and then gave the money for registration. I was just confused as to what I can do in this situation. But as exams were drawing near. My coordinator physically called my mother. They had a fight and threatened that she will kick me out of the collage, if he doesn’t get good grades in maths and physics and ask communicated with Cambridge and withdrawed my registration for Chemistry. 
 Now the problem is this, my tutor is steal teaching me chemistry for October November (I gave AS Physics only in MayJune as my preparation for others wasn’t good). And they still haven’t registered for October November before they register for chemistry again. Would should I do? I still attended computer science classes but for 1 month I didn’t (and left out a lot of chapters, in 1 month they covered so much) My guardian once said that he will talk to my tutor to teach computer science. I will try my best to learn from youtube and stuff, practice pastpapers. 
 My best friend gave me a brilliant suggestion to simply try your best to convince your family to focus on computer science and later give chemistry as a extra subject. Instead of vise-versa. 
 Please guys, I need your help as to how can I convince my family. 
 My Computer Science teacher was suppose to meet my Guardian in meeting to convince him to change my subject, but then it was time to pray, and he went straight home. I will try to call my Teacher and get him into a call.
 Help me guys.

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[Whatisthis]

You’re not going to win this one against your family. Here is what I would do:

 

Spend the minimum amount of time and energy on chemistry to get an ok grade. 
 

Once you’re in uni, no one will care what you took in secondary school.

[wasab]

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He is a mechanical engineer and is not in the Computer Engineering field. And that was my biggest mistake…..

haha, pretty sure all engineers need to take at least a semester of chemistry and like two semesters of physics to satisfy the various engineering departments' general ed requirements. at least that was the case for me. computer science could do away less since oftentimes this major fall under the school of mathematics rather than the school of engineering in many universities but even if this was the case, an unveriveity's general ed often required you to study one or two natural sciences like chemistry plus tons of unrelated courses like English(or other foreign language arts), some liberal arts e,g. history ect regardless of what majors you choose to make you "more rounded" 

 

you are not even in the university yet so i say just suck it up man. i have a CS degree and 50% of my required classes i do not enjoy such as 3 semesters of calculus, one semester of statistics plus one semester of differential equations. i also took one semester of arts history to satisfy my humanity general ed requirement. it was really dumb choice, that thing bored me to death and I ended up getting a pretty lousy grade. it is what it is. you have to learn these all eventually so i suggest you do it now so in the future it wont be as difficult and as much a pain.