Dad too strict?

[jai1988]

buy him some more straws

[Lord Pantaloons]

Why would he say that he is on his last straw? It was your brother who failed, not you. Just sayin'.

That's the price of having a sibling, one child's failure or mistake is often put on the shoulders of one of their siblings, usually the youngest one. It stems from the parent worrying that the younger sibling will make the same mistake and trying to do something to stop it from happening, there are many ways this can be done. Unfortunately OP's father has gone for the intimidation route, which more often than not only inhibits the child further by adding stress to an already stressful situation. Some children crack under the pressure and are irreversibly harmed because of it, it often affects them for the rest of their life, leading to massive amounts of stress, depression and fear. A person that was harmed in that way can go through the rest of their life feeling like they are on the clock, thinking that if that bell rings and they aren't perfect then their life is over and they are worthless. This can lead to alcohol and drug abuse and often suicide, parents who use the intimidation method are often people who experienced the same treatment when they were a child, it's the only way of child raising they know because it's what they lived through.

 

@OP

Here is my contribution to you, a bit of advice.

 

Do not question his threat as confronting him about it can actually make him follow through on it even if he originally did not intend to. Try not to let the stress mount, when you feel the pressure mounting take 5 minutes to close your eyes and breathe very slowly, in through the nose, out through the mouth. Think of something that clams you down, for me it's the scent of honey suckles, and just breathe. After that carry on as you were minus the stress and perform to the best of your abilities, you may fail, you may make mistakes, but your fathers anger means nothing because all you can do is your best and no amount of anger or screaming or threats will change that.

[Guest]

And hey, if you do get kicked out, there is still Detroit.

 

You would probably GET money if you take a house there...

 

 

Or is it not cool to joke about that?

[Stefan Becker]

That's the price of having a sibling, one child's failure or mistake is often put on the shoulders of one of their siblings, usually the youngest one. It stems from the parent worrying that the younger sibling will make the same mistake and trying to do something to stop it from happening, there are many ways this can be done. Unfortunately OP's father has gone for the intimidation route, which more often than not only inhibits the child further by adding stress to an already stressful situation. Some children crack under the pressure and are irreversibly harmed because of it, it often affects them for the rest of their life, leading to massive amounts of stress, depression and fear. A person that was harmed in that way can go through the rest of their life feeling like they are on the clock, thinking that if that bell rings and they aren't perfect then their life is over and they are worthless. This can lead to alcohol and drug abuse and often suicide, parents who use the intimidation method are often people who experienced the same treatment when they were a child, it's the only way of child raising they know because it's what they lived through.

Gotta make sure that i don't do anything wrong then. I don't want my younger brother to get shit for what i do.

[eoso]

I'm 17 in my senior year. I have an 86 gpa (I think like a 3.3) and have been taking honors courses since middle school. My older brothers never took any honors and barely passed in school and he never said a word. I scored a 26 on my ACT and a 1900 on my SAT. I'm not too worried about being accepted into any of the 3 schools I'm looking at, but it's paying for them that's the problem

 

ROFL you think your parents are strict? If I got caught with a 3.3 GPA back in high school I'd be dead right now. Hell, a SAT score below 2000 earned me a talking to and perhaps a whipping.

 

On a serious note, I wouldn't worry that much if I were you. If you really become financially independent during college, you can get federal pell grants, scholarships, student loans and all that jazz. So its fine, don't worry. You'll just have to work a little harder, that's all. And I doubt your father is serious.

[eoso]

Personally though I think homework and higher education is a crock of rubbish.

 

Because fuck the doctors, lawyers, engineers, and businessmen who make sure the world doesn't go to shit, amiright?

[amiah137]

If he finds out, just hide behind the curtains(assuming you have them) He will never find you then