Linus Relationship Tips. (UPDATE)

[FruitBasketSilex]

This is a somewhat long read. If you can stand the read, please give me some advice.

So, like, holy shit. I have had THE worst three days.

It all starts almost a year ago. I graduated high school, and my girlfriend loved me so much, she just couldn't live without me. My step-dad happened to be getting ready to move, and my girlfriend convinced her dad to give me a place to live. I lived there for almost a year, right up until three days ago.

Me and my girlfriend had been having some trouble, at some point neither of us was faithful, which honestly was the worst thing I could fucking do, and holy shit, if I could just undo all of that I would in a second. I hate to hurt people. We managed to get through that though. Even though after that I would go through her phone and shit to be doubly sure and it never really left me. (The paranoia)

So, I had gotten a job after living there for a few months, bought computer parts after watching a lot of Linus and selling my AW laptop to a friend. It was just a crappy McDonalds job, I hate it, not to mention its full of high schoolers and people that I used to know and they bother me all the time asking about things that my semi-crazetastic girlfriend would say. (Usually not very true) and its quite a pain in the ass. I woke up one day and no one was able to give me a ride, and I live across town, so I decided instead of walking for forty five minutes to get to work, just to be way late, and work a 9hour shift I would just call in sick. They said OK, just bring in a doctors note. Well against common sense, I waited two weeks to do so, (appointment is tommorow morning) so I could play PC games on my brand new desktop. Well her mother (who I swear to god is the craziest woman in the world) wanted me out, I'd been hearing it from my girlfriend for a few days. My girlfriend said I had to be out by Monday. (Tommorow, more than likely before my appointment) I decided that since I really have no home, I must do the only thing I can and couch surf at my moms until she leaves for Washington and I'd just go with her, since I'd have no other choice.

I told my mother I would go with her, and I told my girlfriend right after i got off the phone with my mother the news. She took it pretty terribly, and I held her as she cried. We went over to my mother's for dinner the next night, (yesterday, and I stayed there for the night) My girlfriend assumed we could no longer be together even though I'm not moving for two months.

The entire thing sent me into a giant spiral of horrible, horrible deep depression which I am occupying as we speak. I went to see her about four hours ago and there was someone with her, which could've been someone that lived in the house, I asked her to come outside for a walk, she agreed, I looked around, no sign of said person, who honestly may just be a house member that I didn't recognize from a distance, but on our way out I made a smart ass remark to her mother and her dad got pissed, so our walk became me talking to her on the front porch.

I talked to her, and we made up. But while we were talking she kept looking inside for something, and she had originally come out covered in a blanket but went in and changed. Basically, I kept getting small little hints that maybe something isn't what it appears, but I left after giving her a hug and a kiss with nothing sure-fire that anything was actually off. It could've easily been my paranoia sending me wrong info. But then again maybe not.

So basically, that's my current life in a nutshell, (or several paragraphs) and I need some advice on what to do.

Do I convince her to go to Washington with me, do I stay and get an apartment and get her to move in with me? Do I go to Washington and move on without her? I have no clue what to do. I have a doctors appointment tommorow to get a doctors note, should I beg for my job, and sustain us. Should I tell my boss I've had the worst time with my life falling around my feet and I need some time? Do I drink myself into a coma? I'm fucking lost and I need some guidance.

Some of you may say just move on, but I'm not sure if I can and be happy. As many problems as I may have with this woman, I love her too much, no matter what she does, I just can't help but love her. I want to hold her and help her escape everything bad.

Also, thanks to anyone for at least reading this.

GLORIOUS FILTHY UPDATE TIME.

said screw it, stayed, got fucked, she almost convinced me to kill myself, I hit her and left (she fucking deserved it ;- and now I only have the clothes I left with, and my phone. She now has $1500 worth of my stuff, and if she doesn't return it soon I'll be calling the cops.

Fuck bitches.

[Jade]

repeating my other two posts:

Nerd forum, don't expect good advice.

[FruitBasketSilex]

repeating my other two posts:

Nerd forum, don't expect good advice.

Hey man, beggers can't be choosers.

[FruitBasketSilex]

Also, the blue ray player remote won't work or something and I can't drown my sorrows in Bobs Burgers. Its pissing me off.

Edit: never mind, I turned it off and back on and it works.

[SuperPug]

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Any chance of a TLDR?

[REX.exe]

You should probably look into finding out if she's with someone else. If so, don't take her with you to Washington.

 

If you can't find out in time just ask her if she'd like to come anyway. Renting an apartment is also a good idea. Just make sure you can afford the rent.

 

If she doesn't want to come to Washington with you, she's probably with someone else. In that case you should just ditch her.

[VioDuskar]

Also, the blue ray player remote won't work or something and I can't drown my sorrows in Bobs Burgers. Its pissing me off.

try turning it off and on again?

 

my advise, you need to move to washington, give her up, give the job up. it's time to start over at this point.

she's been unfaithful before and so have you, and it will happen again.

it's a shitty job and you hate working with people because they used to go to HS with you, well in Washington you'll have better oppritunitys and chances to meet better people.

 

start over bro.

 

edit: bonus points if you find a rich girl in washington, and can give her good enough D to move in with her. (don't ever be the side man. don't date chicks with side men)

[FruitBasketSilex]

Any chance of a TLDR?

Lived with my girlfriend and her parents. Cheated on her once, she cheated on me once, with seven people. (On Kik) we got over it. I kept the paranoia. I got kicked out, choices are at the end of my long post. I went back four hours ago, saw some things that let off little hints something might be off, we made up. Possibly paranoia giving me bad info, possibly she is with someone else already.

[REX.exe]

try turning it off and on again?

 

my advise, you need to move to washington, give her up, give the job up. it's time to start over at this point.

she's been unfaithful before and so have you, and it will happen again.

it's a shitty job and you hate working with people because they used to go to HS with you, well in Washington you'll have better oppritunitys and chances to meet better people.

 

start over bro.

That's really good advice.

[ind3x]

"Some of you may say just move on, but I'm not sure if I can and be happy. As many problems as I may have with this woman, I love her too much, no matter what she does, I just can't help but love her. I want to hold her and help her escape everything bad."

 

This is basically what i would do.

Life's not easy, and giving up might seem the easiest (i've done this) But it also locks up all the good memories for good.

[FruitBasketSilex]

try turning it off and on again?

my advise, you need to move to washington, give her up, give the job up. it's time to start over at this point.

she's been unfaithful before and so have you, and it will happen again.

it's a shitty job and you hate working with people because they used to go to HS with you, well in Washington you'll have better oppritunitys and chances to meet better people.

start over bro.

edit: bonus points if you find a rich girl in washington, and can give her good enough D to move in with her. (don't ever be the side man. don't date chicks with side men)

Yeah, I know. I better be the only girls man if I want a relationship with her. I can give pretty good d but that's off topic. Are you sure it would be worth all the pain and heartbreak? She's been faithful for quite a while. A few weed-provoked inductions of mass hysteria and paranoia that be rattled me. But I believe her to be faithful. I sure as shit wouldn't do it again. I would've beat the shit out of myself if I had a time machine.

[FruitBasketSilex]

"Some of you may say just move on, but I'm not sure if I can and be happy. As many problems as I may have with this woman, I love her too much, no matter what she does, I just can't help but love her. I want to hold her and help her escape everything bad."

This is basically what i would do.

Life's not easy, and giving up might seem the easiest (i've done this) But it also locks up all the good memories for good.

What would you do?

[VioDuskar]

 

"Some of you may say just move on, but I'm not sure if I can and be happy. As many problems as I may have with this woman, I love her too much, no matter what she does, I just can't help but love her. I want to hold her and help her escape everything bad."

 

This is basically what i would do.

Life's not easy, and giving up might seem the easiest (i've done this) But it also locks up all the good memories for good.

 

listen man, i used to love a girl to bit, i would do ANYTHING for her, but she cheated on me and it just got worse and worse. sometimes when you grab someones hand to pull them out of the quicksand, they drag you in.

 

i gave up my first love in a similar situation. i had to move away, i gave her up, i started over. i've talked to her a few years ago and she wound up with a marine who married her and took her to south korea, there she became a great person and got off drugs, quit fucking everyone she saw, and generally was a ton better.

 

you can't drag someone out of the sand when you're beside them, you can however drag them out with a rope a state or three away. that's what the marine did and it helped her alot.

i couldn't have done that, i wasn't able to take her with me, and i wasnt able to even support myself at the time.

 

i had to let her go and work on myself first before i coulld help anyone else. it was best for both of us.

[SuperPug]

she cheated on me once, with seven people. (On Kik) we got over it.

 

Pleeease tell me thats not all at once... either way wtf. Screw her and go to Washington.

[FruitBasketSilex]

listen man, i used to love a girl to bit, i would do ANYTHING for her, but she cheated on me and it just got worse and worse. sometimes when you grab someones hand to pull them out of the quicksand, they drag you in.

i gave up my first love in a similar situation. i had to move away, i gave her up, i started over. i've talked to her a few years ago and she wound up with a marine who married her and took her to south korea, there she became a great person and got off drugs, quit fucking everyone she saw, and generally was a ton better.

you can't drag someone out of the sand when you're beside them, you can however drag them out with a rope a state or three away. that's what the marine did and it helped her alot.

i couldn't have done that, i wasn't able to take her with me, and i wasnt able to even support myself at the time.

i had to let her go and work on myself first before i coulld help anyone else. it was best for both of us.

That's pretty fucking deep man.

[Dzzope]

No-one can tell you what to do. You need to decide and then stick to it. If it feels right, it's right.. Even if in the long run it's wrong..

It'll help make you who you are, stand by your choices and try to make them work but if you can't get past the paranoia it's going to mess with your head (whether it's in your head or actually there is a different issue)

 

Personally, I'd try and broaden my horizons a bit.. Try get a job doing something amazing.. hard work good pay and see some of the world. But thats me.. you gotta see what your options are, think about the pros and cons of each and then go with what your gut says is right for you and don't look back. If your meant to be with her, you'll meet her again and maybe you'll be ready.. or maybe you'll meet someone else and they will become your world.. There is allot to see and do out there, don't limit your options but stick to what you decide.

[VioDuskar]

Yeah, I know. I better be the only girls man if I want a relationship with her. I can give pretty good d but that's off topic. Are you sure it would be worth all the pain and heartbreak? She's been faithful for quite a while. A few weed-provoked inductions of mass hysteria and paranoia that be rattled me. But I believe her to be faithful. I sure as shit wouldn't do it again. I would've beat the shit out of myself if I had a time machine.

drugs make everything worse.

the only time drugs work in a relationship is if it's only weed, you both have decent jobs, live in the country (anywhere not suburban) and have your own plant or two to share. no one but you and the gal know, and it's just that relaxing alabama kush type shit. don't tell friends, co-workers, family, nobody. because bitches be snitchs.

[SuperPug]

the only time drugs work in a relationship is if it's only weed, you both have decent jobs, live in the country (anywhere not suburban) and have your own plant or two to share. no one but you and the gal know, and it's just that relaxing alabama kush type shit. don't tell friends, co-workers, family, nobody. because bitches be snitchs.

 

lol thats oddly specific

[FruitBasketSilex]

Pleeease tell me thats not all at once... either way wtf. Screw her and go to Washington.

Yeah, it was. It emotionally destroyed me.

But I still loved her, fuck, we almost had sex on the kitchen floor the same night she left me about that one.

But what I am saying is basically is she worth it, if I love her enough to forgive her for something like that. Or is it better to just break myself emotionally for a time, and hope someone else comes along that makes me just as happy?

[FruitBasketSilex]

lol thats oddly specific

Wow, like @SuperPug said that WAS oddly specific.

[FruitBasketSilex]

No-one can tell you what to do. You need to decide and then stick to it. If it feels right, it's right.. Even if in the long run it's wrong..

It'll help make you who you are, stand by your choices and try to make them work but if you can't get past the paranoia it's going to mess with your head (whether it's in your head or actually there is a different issue)

Personally, I'd try and broaden my horizons a bit.. Try get a job doing something amazing.. hard work good pay and see some of the world. But thats me.. you gotta see what your options are, think about the pros and cons of each and then go with what your gut says is right for you and don't look back. If your meant to be with her, you'll meet her again and maybe you'll be ready.. or maybe you'll meet someone else and they will become your world.. There is allot to see and do out there, don't limit your options but stick to what you decide.

Basically, my problem with leaving her behind is I Dont want to be my dad.

I Dont want to be a forty year old man breaking down about his ex-lover (my mother) and how great of a woman she was, and badly he misses her.

[VioDuskar]

Yeah, it was. It emotionally destroyed me.

But I still loved her, fuck, we almost had sex on the kitchen floor the same night she left me about that one.

But what I am saying is basically is she worth it, if I love her enough to forgive her for something like that. Or is it better to just break myself emotionally for a time, and hope someone else comes along that makes me just as happy?

that's fucked up bro. 7 at once? i'd be worried for your health.

it's hard to not have sex with a nymph, i don't blame you, but it's not a good idea to stick around man.

 

i know you love her, but it isn't worth it. it's going to hurt really bad leaving, really really bad. but trust me, there will be another.

when i had to break it off with my first love it really fucked me up. i became emotionally numb for a few years before i trusted anyone else, but now i've been with my current GF for 4 years, and while her sex drive isn't perfect, and she's a bit disorganized in life, she's alot better than the slutty drug-enthusiast i left.

[VioDuskar]

Basically, my problem with leaving her behind is I Dont want to be my dad.

I Dont want to be a forty year old man breaking down about his ex-lover (my mother) and how great of a woman she was, and badly he misses her.

did your mom fuck 7 guys at a time and do drugs when your dad left her? i mean, she could have.

having a child with someone and then seeing that someone do really well for themself later really has a way of making you feel like a complete dumbass when you look back on it.

 

also, is your mom cool with taking you and your GF to washington? are her parents cool with that?

[FruitBasketSilex]

that's fucked up bro. 7 at once? i'd be worried for your health.

it's hard to not have sex with a nymph, i don't blame you, but it's not a good idea to stick around man.

i know you love her, but it isn't worth it. it's going to hurt really bad leaving, really really bad. but trust me, there will be another.

when i had to break it off with my first love it really fucked me up. i became emotionally numb for a few years before i trusted anyone else, but now i've been with my current GF for 4 years, and while her sex drive isn't perfect, and she's a bit disorganized in life, she's alot better than the slutty drug-enthusiast i left.

She didnt, like, fuck them. She only really did it to get back at me, though there were signs things may have run deeper than that sometimes. She just texted and sexted and sent pics and shit. She did it for almost two months even though I flat out knew and she knew I knew.

I'm not sure she is the wrong woman though. I just Dont know man...

[FruitBasketSilex]

did your mom fuck 7 guys at a time and do drugs when your dad left her? i mean, she could have.

having a child with someone and then seeing that someone do really well for themself later really has a way of making you feel like a complete dumbass when you look back on it.

also, is your mom cool with taking you and your GF to washington? are her parents cool with that?

No, my moms situation was different. Crazy people, me being taken by child protective services at a young age (I remember that one explicitly, how great of a memory for a child) but they are still friends.