Server hosting and connection

[iiAmKn1ght]

I've got a decent PC build, 1660S, p1TB SSD, 16gb ddr4, i-10100F and 2.4gHz/5gHz network (using ethernet instead)

Now I have been having trouble connecting to my friend's game servers, wether its Rust, Minecraft etc. I fixed minecraft connection by turning on my vpn when connecting, then disabling it

However, I try to join Rust and it has the console result of "Attempt=0;timeout=10000"

"Attempt=1;timeout=10000"

Then I end up on the menu again. So issues with connectivity when joining private servers.

What is going on here?

*Not on the same wifi

*Using hosting tools correlated to each game (server.jar and built in Rust SDK on steam)

[Phas3L0ck]

Do you and your friend have port forwarding configured properly where necessary?

Do either of you have a dynamic IP address, or are you two lucky enough to have static numbers?

[iiAmKn1ght]

He is the host, and the ports add up on each place, example port: 25015

I tried the port he gave me, still, after 2 attempts, I get Disconnected and returned to menu