Hi Brian! I'm basically in the exact same situation as you. I'm nights & weekends xbox and PC gamer who generally prefers PvE games. I too am in my 30s and dig metal and playing music. Of the games you listed, I've played a lot of Halo, Overcooked, Fall Guys, and Destiny 2. This seems like a perfect situation to reactivate my game pass subscription for. I guess the only tricky part is that I live on the west coast so that's going make for a 3 hour time difference. But I'm down to work with that if you still wanna game some time!
-Jake