what kind of tab hoarder are you? are we talking 20 tabs or 50?
https://ark.intel.com/products/122589/Intel-Core-i7-8550U-Processor-8M-Cache-up-to-4_00-GHz
quad core, hyperthreading and 15W TDP. sounds like what you want. look for laptops with that chip.
seems about equal to last gen's 7700HQ, which was 45W TDP.
https://browser.geekbench.com/v4/cpu/search?utf8=✓&q=8550U
https://browser.geekbench.com/v4/cpu/search?utf8=✓&q=7700HQ
i have kinda big hands too, and i use a 15" MacBook Pro. it's nice to have a place for my wrists. if you have the chance to use a 13" laptop for a little bit, maybe ask a friend or something, try to find out if you can have your hands and wrists in a comfortable position for typing on a 13"... if you can't just get a 15".
i can't really give you recommendations on specific laptops, because i'm not too familiar with them as well.