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Now I get it. My problems are not the worst - or even anywhere near - the worst in the world. But they are my problems, and I have no idea how to deal with them.

So a little background: I am not your usual teenager, I get up at six, I like Mondays, I like learning, I hang out with girls over guys, I think even the guys in the years above me are childish, I help the school out with there tech related issues, I don't treat women any different, I think porn is demeaning, and bla bla bla.

Oh, and i'm fourteen.

But.

Oh yes, there is a but!

I like (quite a lot) one of my best friends.

We have been told that we would be a good couple.

She is probably my clostest confidate, and I hers.

Yet, any mention of me saying "love" or any mention of me going out with her - like those comments that we would make a good couple - make her cringe and distance herself from me.

Now, A) I know I'm not finding my "true love" but I have been turned down time and time again, and it really crushes me. In a way, it's good. Its what fuelled my passion for video, photo and computing. But what is it about me that turns people away? Why have I been friend zoned? and B) HOW THE HELL DO I GET OUT OF IT?

 

Anyway, Thanks

;) 

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Yup, sounds like a tough one.

 

 

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You can't make someone love you. Be yourself and be patient. Desperation drives away a lot of people and no matter how hard it is now, it will be worth it when you find someone who loves you for who you are.

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7 minutes ago, limegorilla said:
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Now I get it. My problems are not the worst - or even anywhere near - the worst in the world. But they are my problems, and I have no idea how to deal with them.

So a little background: I am not your usual teenager, I get up at six, I like Mondays, I like learning, I hang out with girls over guys, I think even the guys in the years above me are childish, I help the school out with there tech related issues, I don't treat women any different, I think porn is demeaning, and bla bla bla.

Oh, and i'm fourteen.

But.

Oh yes, there is a but!

I like (quite a lot) one of my best friends.

We have been told that we would be a good couple.

She is probably my clostest confidate, and I hers.

Yet, any mention of me saying "love" or any mention of me going out with her - like those comments that we would make a good couple - make her cringe and distance herself from me.

Now, A) I know I'm not finding my "true love" but I have been turned down time and time again, and it really crushes me. In a way, it's good. Its what fuelled my passion for video, photo and computing. But what is it about me that turns people away? Why have I been friend zoned? and B) HOW THE HELL DO I GET OUT OF IT?

 

Anyway, Thanks

;) 

 

 

Well honestly i hate being an adult sometimes so enjoy being a teen as long as you can buddy.

As for the whole friend zone problem i wouldn't force it. If she likes you as a friend then don't force her to become your girlfriend because you might end up losing a good friend.

After all a girl/boy friend is basically your best friend with benefits in my opinion.

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so... verbose

I used to be quite active here.

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8 minutes ago, LtStaffel said:

 

Other than the fact that I am kinda stressing out right now - I really enjoyed that video ;) 

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Also, be a sport and mark the correct answer as the correct answer. It will help pour souls in the future when they are stuck and need guidance.

"If it works, proceed to take it apart and 'make it work better.' Then cry for help when it breaks." - Me, about five minutes ago when my train of thought wandered.

Remember kids, A janky solution is still a solution.

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i wouldn't stress it, I used to be the same way. Then me and a girl I loved went out, after a year it ended very...horribly bad and it still haunts me to this day. It's been almost a year since that incident and I'm still recovering. But just be patient, you can't rush relationships but you can't just sit back and wait for it to happen. You have to also try to make small moves, but don't over do it. 

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I have been friend zone when I was young a couple times. 

 

You meet the right people when you just focus on your own thing, not when you are trying to meet the right people. that is the way its worked out for me at least

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5 hours ago, limegorilla said:

Now I get it. My problems are not the worst - or even anywhere near - the worst in the world. But they are my problems, and I have no idea how to deal with them.

So a little background: I am not your usual teenager, I get up at six, I like Mondays, I like learning, I hang out with girls over guys, I think even the guys in the years above me are childish, I help the school out with there tech related issues, I don't treat women any different, I think porn is demeaning, and bla bla bla.

Oh, and i'm fourteen.

But.

Oh yes, there is a but!

I like (quite a lot) one of my best friends.

We have been told that we would be a good couple.

She is probably my clostest confidate, and I hers.

Yet, any mention of me saying "love" or any mention of me going out with her - like those comments that we would make a good couple - make her cringe and distance herself from me.

Now, A) I know I'm not finding my "true love" but I have been turned down time and time again, and it really crushes me. In a way, it's good. Its what fuelled my passion for video, photo and computing. But what is it about me that turns people away? Why have I been friend zoned? and B) HOW THE HELL DO I GET OUT OF IT?

 

Anyway, Thanks

;) 

Friend zone eh? Good luck getting out of that one, no one escapes that. Also yeah being a teenager sucks in general for most people. All those raging hormones and self discovery fun times. Enjoy it while you can cause if being a teenager sucks, adult hood is like being dry docked anally with a sandpaper condom. 

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Been there, done that . . .

 

You are at a good age.

Do not worry about having her as a girlfriend. Just keep the friend part and the close part going well and when you reach the age were friend and close become mpre on their own you will be all for the better. At the moment your hormones are driving your thoughts.

 

I would not worry about, that is unless she starts to give you hints the she is ready for more then I would make do something. At your age this nothing but hormones ...

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you can continue to love her even if she is nothing more than a friend. sometimes it hurts less that way...

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Being a teenager is stressful. Feeling like you're in the friendzone sucks. But for your best friend it probably sucks too. In my experience in that kind of position, when your best friend is interested in you as more than a friend that puts a lot of pressure on you. It's hard to deal with.

 

My advice: let go of that. Take a step back. Try to have some good times totally segregated from romantic interest, just have fun. And let her know you appreciate her company, and you like your time together. Being friendzoned makes a lot of people super needy -- that's really not what you want to be. Take a step back and just communicate about your feelings, let her know how you feel, and try to make the best of your friendship as you can. If she's interested or she appreciates the openness, she'll let you know.

 

It's really easy to get into one of those "the one that got away" situations if you're yearning after someone but never properly tell them how you feel, and never make the proper effort. Trust me, there's so much anxiety, but it's important to get around it. Being a teen was super stressful. But we all survive.

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As someone who seems quite similar to you in more than one regard....Wait.

 

She's your best friend for a reason, because you both get along well but if shes not ready to make the jump, don't force her. I've known my now girlfriend for 7 Years even though we've only been together for 4. We were once best friends but at first she wasn't ready to make the leap for more.

 

You're 14! You don't have to worry about the confines of a relationship yet! But if the time comes (And I hope it will!), Don't change, be yourself and mostly, have fun!

 

I'm now 22 and in the best place I have been in my life but honestly, its worth waiting for :)

 

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15 hours ago, limegorilla said:

Now I get it. My problems are not the worst - or even anywhere near - the worst in the world. But they are my problems, and I have no idea how to deal with them.

So a little background: I am not your usual teenager, I get up at six, I like Mondays, I like learning, I hang out with girls over guys, I think even the guys in the years above me are childish, I help the school out with there tech related issues, I don't treat women any different, I think porn is demeaning, and bla bla bla.

Oh, and i'm fourteen.

But.

Oh yes, there is a but!

I like (quite a lot) one of my best friends.

We have been told that we would be a good couple.

She is probably my clostest confidate, and I hers.

Yet, any mention of me saying "love" or any mention of me going out with her - like those comments that we would make a good couple - make her cringe and distance herself from me.

Now, A) I know I'm not finding my "true love" but I have been turned down time and time again, and it really crushes me. In a way, it's good. Its what fuelled my passion for video, photo and computing. But what is it about me that turns people away? Why have I been friend zoned? and B) HOW THE HELL DO I GET OUT OF IT?

 

Anyway, Thanks

;) 

Love is a very strong word that normally indicates something strong between the people who say it, ever heard the phrase "never say i love you to early"

 

Best bet would be to sit down with her and just be honest with her say you think she is awesome and you would love to get to know her better and maybe take her out for coffee (as i don't know how old you are i don't know whether you can legally drink)

 

If she says no yes it will hurt but it's better you know rather than playing the what if game for years. If she say yes that's great take it slow especially if your young there is actually a lot of pressure to go fast; take it slow and if you're starting to feel something by date 3 (assuming it gets that far) maybe start to try to get more intimate (i don't mean sex although if you're both comfortable do that) get more romantic; candle lit dinners, roses etc.

 

But i am a hopeless romantic so a lot of these maybe defunct in modern society

 

Also i hate the word "friendzone" to quote Daniel Radcliffe "Friendzone is someone basically saying this girl won't have sex with me"

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Well, primary thanks to everyone that posted here. Got I love the forum. I'm still unclear at the moment as to what I'll do, but I will think of something.

Bow down to me humans.

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Also, be a sport and mark the correct answer as the correct answer. It will help pour souls in the future when they are stuck and need guidance.

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Remember kids, A janky solution is still a solution.

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6 minutes ago, limegorilla said:

Well, primary thanks to everyone that posted here. Got I love the forum. I'm still unclear at the moment as to what I'll do, but I will think of something.

Good luck! ^-^

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Your 14 bro, trust me you might be best friends right now but things change once everyone starts going into the college, the military, and the workforce. People move, people change and mature, don't get yourself into a relationship you might end up  regretting. 

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>Be me

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>Asks some chic I knew for social reasons

>She seems down with it, we go with a group

>Fine by me

>Go to some decent small restaurant 

>Talks to the guy next to me the whole time

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>I got a but too excited I guess and after that downer I slept in my car until an hour after it started

>The boys arrive

>We have a heckin gud time

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1 minute ago, Nicholatian said:

I'm interested in some secondary or tertiary thanks, if you still have some of those left. Totally not like I didn't earn it.

If you think being a young adult is bad, try being a middle-aged person with a couple of kids. Or an old fuck, with tons of medical problems and your children are grown. The notion that life is justifiably shittier the older you get is a common way to justify plain old pessimism for your own sake. Even if you're barely cognizant of your abilities to reason about the world around you, there's always someone younger than you that you can tell 'em how it is. Sure.

My life is great.  I get to spend my money how I want, I decorated my bedroom with Hello Kitty vinyl decals an anime posters, I have a 65" TV, and I eat cookies for breakfast.

 

I have no idea what you guys are all doing wrong. :P

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