How to record a video without blowing out my eardrums?

[Bowjangls]

Every time I used to record a game clip or record a bit of video, it used to be normal volume, like it was recorded from raw output, not from my speakers. Then once upon a time windows changed that without giving me a setting to change it back. Now, because 30 volume is comfortable coming from my sound bar, every video or game clip is now recorded at 30% volume or below unless I have my headset in (my headset has a volume nob so I can adjust it from there). But then, and no amount of messing with settings seems to fix this, the video only has my microphone sound in the clip, or my party's sounds. How can I make windows(xbox), amd, other recording software just record the raw audio like it used to before, and use mine AND my party's microphones at the same time.