So I got it to post with 1 stick of ram and no gpu, which was a great sign. after assembling everything back together, it was displaying the same behaviour as before, black screen, debug lights on, only this time the light was on for ram, flicking to cpu and back to ram every few seconds. Long story short, after some testing, only slots 1+2 work for ram, with 1+3 and 2+4 or any combination of sticks that are in slots 3 or 4 not booting. I tried a CMOS reset, seems to have done not much. Any ideas?