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havent seen my gf for months, should i break up?

saif96

theirs something in my mind lately thats bothering me about my gf, she never text, she never calls and never wants to/can't go out.

 

the reason for her acting this way is because she can't find a job, shes 25 and has a bachelor degree and she's been in a job hunt for over 2 years now but still nothing has come up yet, so now all she does is sleep in her room doing nothing, even her sisters have told me that they never saw her going out of her that much, shes depressed and i hate that shes living like this and i cant do a darn thing to change this, because she never answers my phone calls, takes her hours or a day to reply my taxts and i cant go to her house to comfort her because her parents dont know were dating.

 

she just wants to be left alone and i havent seen her since February, should i just break up? what do i say? i doubt she'd get more sad about this since she doesnt wanna talk to me or anyone.

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1 hour ago, saif96 said:

theirs something in my mind lately thats bothering me about my gf, she never text, she never calls and never wants to/can't go out.

 

the reason for her acting this way is because she can't find a job, shes 25 and has a bachelor degree and she's been in a job hunt for over 2 years now but still nothing has come up yet, so now all she does is sleep in her room doing nothing, even her sisters have told me that they never saw her going out of her that much, shes depressed and i hate that shes living like this and i cant do a darn thing to change this, because she never answers my phone calls, takes her hours or a day to reply my taxts and i cant go to her house to comfort her because her parents dont know were dating.

 

she just wants to be left alone and i havent seen her since February, should i just break up? what do i say? i doubt she'd get more sad about this since she doesnt wanna talk to me or anyone.

She is depressed. Perhaps clinically.

Perhaps a psych doc will help.

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Sounds like she's already broken up with you if she's been ignoring you this long.

 

though you need to be very careful about how you approach talking to her about it. saying "i doubt she'd get more sad about this" is absolutely not the case. If she's depressed, something like that could completely break her.

 

Knowing nothing about her,If you still want to be with her, you're better off telling her something like

"If you like i can stop bothering you, but if you want to talk, i'm here"

 

and see how she responds, if she doesn't, there's your answer. If she does, then it's up to you how to proceed.

 

Or if you would rather just drift apart, which might sound cruel but it also not be the worst way to go about it, but again, we don't know her as well as you.

 

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Send her couple of dix pics.

Jokes aside, it does seem like she would benefit from seeing a doctor. If you keep contact with her sisters, try to arrange a meeting. 

Depression shouldn't be ignored.

 

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Depression is a very serious issue and shouldn't be ignored. She needs some serious help.

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19 hours ago, saif96 said:

theirs something in my mind lately thats bothering me about my gf, she never text, she never calls and never wants to/can't go out.

 

the reason for her acting this way is because she can't find a job, shes 25 and has a bachelor degree and she's been in a job hunt for over 2 years now but still nothing has come up yet, so now all she does is sleep in her room doing nothing, even her sisters have told me that they never saw her going out of her that much, shes depressed and i hate that shes living like this and i cant do a darn thing to change this, because she never answers my phone calls, takes her hours or a day to reply my taxts and i cant go to her house to comfort her because her parents dont know were dating.

 

she just wants to be left alone and i havent seen her since February, should i just break up? what do i say? i doubt she'd get more sad about this since she doesnt wanna talk to me or anyone.

She's 25 and hasn't told her parents that you are dating? I assume she's still living at home, yes?

 

How long have you two been dating for?

 

Frankly, her hiding the fact that you're dating would be a deal breaker to me. She's 25. If she wants to have her BF over, that shouldn't be a problem. Therefore, visiting her at her house shouldn't be a problem. The fact that it is, is a red flag to me.

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19 hours ago, saif96 said:

 

If she's depressed, try to get her some help. She'll probably appreciate that more than a breakup.

 

If she already considers the relationship over, then that's basically that.

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56 minutes ago, dalekphalm said:

She's 25 and hasn't told her parents that you are dating? I assume she's still living at home, yes?

 

How long have you two been dating for?

 

Frankly, her hiding the fact that you're dating would be a deal breaker to me. She's 25. If she wants to have her BF over, that shouldn't be a problem. Therefore, visiting her at her house shouldn't be a problem. The fact that it is, is a red flag to me.

because its not socially acceptable where i live dating or whatever, its all about marriages here

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Text her sister as you said you’ve done & surprise your girlfriend by showing up and being there for her. 

 

Edit missed parents thing. 

Maybe the parents would approve if you were that concerned. 

Imagine you having kids and one being so sad. One day her boyfriend shows up to do a lot for her. 

Or just go when the parents aren’t home. 

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Well, I couldn't deal with a girlfriend like that

 

I'd leave her tbh, if she won't even talk to you she needs to sort herself out. You can't help her if she doesn't want it.

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Are her sisters even doing anything to help her? 

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