What advice would you give to someone younger than you?

[greaves1111]

17 hours ago, A Random Dude said:

 

@greaves1111 Your advice to someone younger than you is to not be a dick? 

Yep, that's what I said

 

I'm almost 40, and have been gainfully employed for over 20 years in an industry I like and don't intend to leave. I work with a lot of inflated egos, and most of those people shoot themselves in the foot because people generally don't like them.

 

I might not be the smartest guy in this room, but people like me, and when they get new jobs, I get new job offers. When promotion opportunities arise, I get considered alot of times.

 

Also, who wants to hang around with a big headed know it all. 

[Syntaxvgm]

Enjoy life but always have a way out. 

[Velcade]

21 hours ago, Syntaxvgm said:

Enjoy life but always have a way out. 

Don't we all have a way out of life?

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Don't let a wishbone grow where a backbone should.

[Syntaxvgm]

1 minute ago, Velcade said:

Don't we all have a way out of life?

I mean like in your pocket 

[Peskanova]

Be kind and if you dont dedicate time and passion to your future job on free time you never one of the bests , and reversal way , if you have passion for something at your free time , study that and take as a job , you will be one of the bests and it were like it wasnt a job.

[Syntaxvgm]

You only have 1 set of 2nd teeth 

[Drak3]

Facts don't care about your feelings.

[betacollector64]

On 6/18/2018 at 7:29 PM, A Random Dude said:

@Windows OS Wow, what an extraordinary answer. Do you by chance know of a great way to find these views from other people? It can't be as easy as Googling "the world through the eyes of another person."

I browse Reddit in my free time, and I have been mostly on tech related subreddits, but I have also been to changemyview and AskReddit. I have seen how other people think with these tools. I have also talked with my friends and family on politics, and while the discussion heats up, it gives insight on the way that they perceive the world.

 

On 6/18/2018 at 7:31 PM, A Random Dude said:

@Teddy07 I've never even thought of subjects being useless or overrun. Could you by chance give me some examples? I hope I don't already study them.

You no doubt do. If you have ever taken school(which you have), you have studied maths and read books which you will never apply to the real world

 

On 6/18/2018 at 8:14 PM, xAzure said:

Read an hour of a non fiction book a day. Reading helps you learn new perspectives about the world.

I couldn't agree more. https://www.amazon.com/Case-against-Education-System-Waste/dp/0691174652

[Paul Rudd]

@Teddy07 So all those people that can't find a job with those degrees, what will they do with all those years of information that they stacked into their brains?

 

First of all, great answers. I really like almost all of them. However...

19 hours ago, cluelessgenius said:

dont just drift trough life mindlessly.

@cluelessgenius Is mindlessly the same as aimlessly?

19 hours ago, cluelessgenius said:

make sure you either dont emberres yourself or if you do at make sure everyone is so hammered they wont remember.

What's wrong with remembering embarrassment? That's more than half of what I remember at any party I ever attended. And that's just from what I actually remember. 

 

19 hours ago, Kodiac said:

They are all crazy. Just choose one that has ocd and a passion for cooking or baking.

@Kodiac By "they" you mean ladies right? Because you just described the only girlfriend I've ever had. Minus the passion for cooking.

 

11 hours ago, valdyrgramr said:

First look them dead in the eyes and follow up with, "Listen here ya lil shit..."  From there any advice is okay.

@valdyrgramr Amazing advice right there. I'd even try by best not to smile while saying that.

 

11 hours ago, Velcade said:

Don't we all have a way out of life?

@Velcade A right way out. 

 

11 hours ago, Syntaxvgm said:

I mean like in your pocket 

@Syntaxvgm Or up your sleeve?

[Syntaxvgm]

12 minutes ago, A Random Dude said:

@Syntaxvgm Or up your sleeve?

who keeps a gun up their sleeve? 

[Drak3]

3 minutes ago, Syntaxvgm said:

who keeps a gun up their sleeve? 

People with gun weasels.

[TetraSky]

1. Stay in school, you'll highly regret it otherwise later. (speaking from experience)
    
2. Start saving up as early as possible.
    
3. Don't do drugs.
    
4. Don't live like you just don't care, life catch up to you very quickly, hence the savings.
    
5. Try to introduce an hour or two of exercising in your week. Could be running on a treadmill or whatever while watching LTT videos. Because by the time you reach your 30s, if you haven't done anything to stay in shape, it's all downhill from there.
    
6. Don't drink and drive, don't be a statistic. (+1 car death for that year)
    
7. Be respectful and mindful of others around you if you want them to respect you. (and if they still don't, fuck 'em, just means they weren't worth it)
    
8. You don't need to be someone you're not just to fit in with others, be yourself.
    
9. If a cop ask you do something, JUST DO IT. Don't try to act like a tough prideful guy and disobey, that's just asking to get tased/shot. Better to be laying down on the ground than 6 foot under.
    
10. If you can't afford something, but you really want it, suck it up and don't use credit. If you can't afford it now, what makes you think you can afford it later? Not to mention with the interest rates, you'll be paying much more.
     
11. Establish a budget with your spending and income, yes it's boring, but without one you'll be tempted to touch that credit card a few times too many and then you're $50k in debt before you know it.
     
12. Learn to do basic renovation work in a house, like painting, patching a hole in a drywall, placing ceramic tiles+grout, installing a laminate flooring, etc... You will be saving a TON of money if you ever get a home by doing these basic things yourself.
     
13. Don't lend more than $20 to any single person, ever. Not to your friends, not to your family.
    $20 is a sum you can afford to lose, any more than that is a different matter entirely.
    Insolvable people are the ones who are likely to ask you to lend them money, if they are unable to pay their existing debt, how do you think they will be paying you back?
    If they "need money for food", just send them off to the nearest food bank, you're not a charity.
    If they couldn't handle their budget properly, why would you fuck over yours for them? Regardless of who they are or their reasons, just don't. You'll just get burned later.

 

There's a bunch more, but that should be the basics.

[CypherQc]

1 hour ago, A Random Dude said:

@Kodiac By "they" you mean ladies right? Because you just described the only girlfriend I've ever had. Minus the passion for cooking.

And I bet you are in a happy couple in a clean house.

[Yoinkerman]

If you work hard early and get a good education you can coast through work and earn way more money than if you say screw school I'm smrt I don't need it

[Paul Rudd]

6 hours ago, Syntaxvgm said:

who keeps a gun up their sleeve? 

@Syntaxvgm Lol, I meant like a trick up their sleeve for how to escape certain life circumstances. Lol

 

I'm using this comment to just say thanks to everyone commenting on this topic. I accidently posted the exact same comment above this one but for some reason it won't let me delete comments. So thanks everyone.

 

5 hours ago, Kodiac said:

And I bet you are in a happy couple in a clean house.

@Kodiac 9 years, going strong. I sure don't clean it. I'm only in charge of taking out the garbage. And anything yard related.

 

6 hours ago, TetraSky said:

Try to introduce an hour or two of exercising in your week. Could be running on a treadmill or whatever while watching LTT videos. Because by the time you reach your 30s, if you haven't done anything to stay in shape, it's all downhill from there.

@TetraSky You nailed this one on the head. I'm in relatively normal shape but on the inside I feel like everything that happened in my 20's is still in me and out for vengeance.

6 hours ago, TetraSky said:

Learn to do basic renovation work in a house, like painting, patching a hole in a drywall, placing ceramic tiles+grout, installing a laminate flooring, etc... You will be saving a TON of money if you ever get a home by doing these basic things yourself.

YouTube works wonders in this department.

[Misanthrope]

I'd say don't be afraid of being alone, of being miserable. There's nothing you can do to magically get out of your depression and isolation so beating yourself up because of it will only make things worst, it won't get better but you will learn to cope better and to be at peace with yourself, without being feathered down by social pressures or expectations.

[Gale]

Don't be a piece of shit to people who work in retail. Pay attention to what you picked up, and place them back where they belong; hand money to the cashier's hand when paying, etc.

[mrchow19910319]

there isn't a life that you can "have it all". that you can be fulfilling and YET don't pay the price for it, don't sacrifice for it. there isn't. 

have friends that are from the same peer is really important. 

 

go out exercise and make it a habit. 

just be yourself, you don't wanna spend your whole life trying to be someone else.

you don't have to be perfect. 

[davrosG5]

So, nobody is mentioning to wear sunscreen? 

[Tog Driver]

Wasn't this thread locked before? Weird, anyway, Wear hearing protection when around loud things, and while I'm at it wear eye protection too.

[TacoSenpai]

1.  Stay out of debt as much as possible if this means buying a used honda civic so be it you can run those things into the ground.  Debt free is key to independence in almost all aspects

 

2.  Don't rush into marriage (this one's more geared towards men).  Aside from the legal consequences being stacked against you it is financially a heavy burden and potentially quite devastating and that doesn't even take into account once kids get involved. If you as a man are 30-35 you're that much more wiser and have had time to save up much more money that you would have likely otherwise.

 

3.  Always learn to do things on your own.  You don't have to do this all at once in fact that's the joy of it learning little by little.  Learn how to change a tire and oil, learn to cook for yourself, pick up a hobby of learning languages, programming, and classical philosophies of Seneca and the like.  Knowledge is power.

[Paul Rudd]

3 hours ago, TheClueLessMajority said:

Wasn't this thread locked before?

@TheClueLessMajority It was. Mistakes happen.

[Unimportant]

On 6/18/2018 at 8:34 PM, A Random Dude said:

What brief advice would you give to someone younger than you?

That true happiness does not come from buying/owning <insert trinket here>.

 

When you're young you want all kinds of material things, that fancy BMW, that iphone XXV, etc...

But once you have it, within a short time the "new" fades away and you're out drooling over the next thing you want. It's an endless rat-race, always something newer and prettier out there. The endless lust for more makes you more miserable then actually obtaining it does good.

And perhaps most of the things you want are more to show off to peers rather then things you actually want for yourself. But maybe you're better off with friends who like you for what and who you are rather then which car you drive ?

 

Let go of this rat-race, educate yourself financially, invest and grow the money you save by not participating in this nonsense and much sooner then you think you can be financially independent. Not having to work because you need the money, but choosing the work you want to do and are passionate about. Sometimes even taking a sabbatical, because you can afford it.

 

I've found that comes closer to true happiness then owning the next <insert trinket here>.

 

 

[wasab]

Oh, don't forget. Wear a condom when having sex especially if you have many partners. It is fun and games until you get STDs

[Paul Rudd]

25 minutes ago, wasab said:

Wear a condom when having sex especially if you have many partners.

@wasab Because STD's cultivate in the area around the lady garden, wearing a hood ornament only makes the car less fun to drive.