Argument with GF

[Drak3]

29 minutes ago, dizmo said:

I'd say most of the more active members of the forum are male. There are females for sure, but in this forum I don't think their numbers are that high. Just like the age range is much further in the lower end of the spectrum, even though the average gamer is in their 30's.

Unless ToS/CoC is updated so that we're required to display our genders (and there is a system in place to rat out those who lie about it and ban them), or the forum becomes voice chat exclusive, there isn't any reason to assume that there are less active female members than males. There's also no way of being a slimy douche towards a specific member on the grounds of gender without disclosing it, and with the moderators and many users on LTT forums, one wouldn't get away with it for long.

 

Until proven otherwise, beyond a shadow of a doubt (a straw poll in the off topic subsection won't sway this because of how flawed they are), I will assume that the # of male and female members is roughly equal, and gender is largely undisclosed.

14 minutes ago, smokefest said:

not true. Stats says that 40% of females don't have any needs of sex, no libido. They made a pill to give a libido. The reason why they made a pills is because 40% of females doesnt have a libido or a huge libido 

We talking cherry picked stats?

Because there is no chance in hell that 40% of the global female population effectively lack libido. I doubt that even 2% lack it.

[smokefest]

4 minutes ago, Drak3 said:

Unless ToS/CoC is updated so that we're required to display our genders (and there is a system in place to rat out those who lie about it and ban them), or the forum becomes voice chat exclusive, there isn't any reason to assume that there are less active female members than males. There's also no way of being a slimy douche towards a specific member on the grounds of gender without disclosing it, and with the moderators and many users on LTT forums, one wouldn't get away with it for long.

 

Until proven otherwise, beyond a shadow of a doubt (a straw poll in the off topic subsection won't sway this because of how flawed they are), I will assume that the # of male and female members is roughly equal, and gender is largely undisclosed.

We talking cherry picked stats?

Because there is no chance in hell that 40% of the global female population effectively lack libido. I doubt that even 2% lack it.

I read that in an article  about the pill that was made to give females libido,

 

Lemme search a bit... In my own experience, ive been with maybe 30 girls in my life, and i would say 3-4 had no libido, while the rest had huge libido just like me..

[Drak3]

7 minutes ago, smokefest said:

I read that in an article  about the pill that was made to give females libido,

Cherry picked statistics, for advertisement. Got it.

[Arc_Jester]

42 minutes ago, dizmo said:

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I should have been more specific, I was talking about prostate cancer, research has show that ejaculation in general lowers the chances of developing prostate cancer.

[dalekphalm]

1 hour ago, dizmo said:

Haha, wow, this should be an interesting topic. You're waiting to "start dating" for a particular day? You must be so young..

For starters, the fact that she's trying to control you over something like that is a red flag. If she wants to control something you do in the privacy of your own home (since you don't live together) then I'd tell her to sod off. It's none of her business. If you cater to this, then she will feel empowered and will start to impose more and more restrictions. I imagine she's the type that also wouldn't want you hanging around other females, regardless of their friendship status.

Secondly, you should never, ever change yourself to make someone else happy, if it's not something you also want to change. If you're happy fapping about then find another girl.

Thirdly, you two live apart? Don't do that to yourself. Long distance relationships barely work and they're far too much work if you're also trying to focus on something like school or furthering your career. There are tons of girls out there. Grab one that's closer. Just not by the pussy. Yet.

 

Outside of that, do you two really have much in common?

 

If you're both virgins compatibility isn't really a thing. I touched more on it a few quotes below.

I'd say most of the more active members of the forum are male. There are females for sure, but in this forum I don't think their numbers are that high. Just like the age range is much further in the lower end of the spectrum, even though the average gamer is in their 30's.

Trying to be funny? Because I find that very hard to believe.

Haha, playing Russian roulette with a mostly loaded revolver are we?

 

The "compatible" argument always seemed odd to me. If you're both virgins, then there's no "compatible" as there's no baseline. You're both experiencing it for the first time, therefore it's the best you've both had. Not only that, but sex style can largely be adapted so that it caters to the other individual. That takes time, or at least a very open talk or two. That argument makes absolutely no sense.

Hahaha who has physical media porn?! It's 2017!

Nah you just have to find the right girl Or guy. Not judging.

That's not true at all. Most girls are actually more sexual than men, if not just as much. It's just socially unacceptable for them to go around talking about it and such. Why do you think a huge percentage of girls have fooled around with a member of the same sex? You don't get that as often with men.

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/the-health-benefits-of-masturbation-a7050761.html

 

Research shows that there are quite a few potential benefits to masturbation and/or ejaculation/orgasms in general. The article I linked shows most of their sources.

1 hour ago, dizmo said:

I can't even imagine.

Have any proof to back up those numbers?

You claim the opposite without posting sources either. Granted, I have no idea what the distribution of libido levels are per gender. You guys should both show your sources  I imagine that libido levels are pretty even across genders.

[TubsAlwaysWins]

8 hours ago, Simon771 said:

About waiting till marriage ... I don't think that's good idea, since I want to get intimate before I get married, to see if we are "compatibile" in bed. It might sound a bit strange, but what will you do once you get married and start having sex for the frist time. After 1 year you realise that sex with your wife is borring you or just not as you want it. Aaaaand divorce.

But that's just my opinion.

The reason we are waiting is 1. Religion 2. My parents would kill me 3. Her parents would kill me again

[Cool Guy]

I think it's normal to masturbate, provided you don't become addicted to it.  Which there have been cases of.  Other than that there is no problem with it.  To be totally honest, I think it's easy for girls to be grossed out by it, but at the same time it's important to understand that it's natural and healthy to do.  

 

[TubsAlwaysWins]

4 hours ago, kelvinhall05 said:

Poke around her house, maybe you'll find a vibrator.

Doubt it. If we talk about it again ill just be like 'I guarentee 3-4 of your brothers have done it'

[Cool Guy]

7 minutes ago, TubsAlwaysWins said:

The reason we are waiting is 1. Religion 2. My parents would kill me 3. Her parents would kill me again

It's not my business,  but I've done it and not told my mom who would probably kill me.  And I don't think she told anyone necessarily either.  So while it's not my business I wouldn't put that in as a factor, if you both wanted to do it you could do it.  Nobody, not even your parents can stop you.  Just my opinion.  

 

Religion is a good point too.  I myself am a practicing Christian (I had sex when I wasn't practicing) and I think masturbation can be a touchy subject, but I think the broad aspect of it is, if it's not breaking any of the laws of your religion then it's fine.  

 

I aslo want to let you know that not masturbating is okay too (I think).  There are challenges like nofap which people have done for over a year, which is a huge achievement in my books. And so don't think your nuts are gonna pop if you don't bust it for a few months.  But you will get blue balls, if you don't know what it is then you should look it up, I'm not gonna explain it.  

[TubsAlwaysWins]

1 minute ago, Cool Guy said:

It's not my business,  but I've done it and not told my mom who would probably kill me.  And I don't think she told anyone necessarily either.  So while it's not my business I wouldn't put that in as a factor, if you both wanted to do it you could do it.  Nobody, not even your parents can stop you.  Just my opinion.  

 

Religion is a good point too.  I myself am a practicing Christian (I had sex when I wasn't practicing) and I think masturbation can be a touchy subject, but I think the broad aspect of it is, if it's not breaking any of the laws of your religion then it's fine.  

 

I aslo want to let you know that not masturbating is okay too (I think).  There are challenges like nofap which people have done for over a year, which is a huge achievement in my books. And so don't think your nuts are gonna pop if you don't bust it for a few months.  But you will get blue balls, if you don't know what it is then you should look it up, I'm not gonna explain it.  

Well im fine with masturbation. She isn't which we are talking about possibly tonight.

I am also a christian and thats whats stopping me from sex

[Cool Guy]

1 minute ago, TubsAlwaysWins said:

Well im fine with masturbation. She isn't which we are talking about possibly tonight.

I am also a christian and thats whats stopping me from sex

I know, but unless you both talk about it.  It's never gonna get cleared up.  And while I wish I could say you can just ignore it and move on.  In a relationship, at least in my experience.  If you don't have a conversation and clear it up then it can build up if it's touchy and important enough and possibly cause more and more heated fights.  

[TubsAlwaysWins]

1 minute ago, Cool Guy said:

I know, but unless you both talk about it.  It's never gonna get cleared up.  And while I wish I could say you can just ignore it and move on.  In a relationship, at least in my experience.  If you don't have a conversation and clear it up then it can build up if it's touchy and important enough and possibly cause more and more heated fights.  

Yeah. Well I plan to talk about it. Thanks for replying

[SansVarnic]

Let me put this as plain as possible.

 

She is right no matter what.

If she is wrong she is right, no matter what.

If you ever plan to be successful in a relationship ... she is always right.

 

*edit

Also this is spot on.

23 minutes ago, Cool Guy said:

I know, but unless you both talk about it.  It's never gonna get cleared up.  And while I wish I could say you can just ignore it and move on.  In a relationship, at least in my experience.  If you don't have a conversation and clear it up then it can build up if it's touchy and important enough and possibly cause more and more heated fights.  

 

I have been married for just shy 10 years now and you don't have agree with everything [you won't so don't try] but you at least need to understand that there are differences of opinion and you need to come to a consensus but not a compromise as compromises never work. Anything she feels uncomfortable with is most like the better thing to for you to strive to meet in regard to her but she also needs to understand that vehemently sticking to one point of view can sometimes be wrong and or damaging from her part just as well.

 

Hope that helps.  

Edited February 22, 2017 by SansVarnic

[cekkonen]

Dump her. She's obviously a deranged control freak.

IMO you're both stupid for being religious, but that's your problem, not mine.

[MadyTehWolfie]

7 hours ago, dalekphalm said:

True, all morality in every case is subjective to some degree or another - since morality is an entirely human construct. And while I agree with the "don't date <insert whatever here>" sentiment, I still think it's wrong of her to push her moral code onto him.

 

But I digress.

I agree with you.

[Simon771]

10 hours ago, dizmo said:

Haha, playing Russian roulette with a mostly loaded revolver are we?

 

The "compatible" argument always seemed odd to me. If you're both virgins, then there's no "compatible" as there's no baseline. You're both experiencing it for the first time, therefore it's the best you've both had. Not only that, but sex style can largely be adapted so that it caters to the other individual. That takes time, or at least a very open talk or two. That argument makes absolutely no sense.

As I said, it's just personal opinion.

But what you are saying is also true ... just like me and my gf were both virgins when we first had sex and non of us had any previous experiences. First month was somehow akward in bed, but with time we "adapted" to each other and things became more interesting. So yes with time it gets much better, you just need to share thoughts with your partner.

But would it be possible to find a girl that sex would be always a bit akward and just not as you want it? Possible, and that's why I prefer to have sex before marriage, to see if it will even work out. Like I said ... it's just my opinion/preference, and I don't judge other people for doing it differend than me. Just wanted to share my thoughts on that.

[LAwLz]

12 hours ago, smokefest said:

not true. Stats says that 40% of females don't have any needs of sex, no libido. They made a pill to give a libido. The reason why they made a pills is because 40% of females doesnt have a libido or a huge libido 

Here is a quote from Dr Joycelyn Elders, former public health administrator in the US.

Quote

More than 70-80% of women masturbate, and 90% of men masturbate... And the rest lie.

 

[Thunderpup]

There is nothing wrong with it, and unless she plans on doing it for you (which isn't actually sex btw) then she has no say in the matter.

[Scitesh]

On 2/21/2017 at 10:06 PM, Princess Cadence said:

If it was an AMD build I could definitively try toasting some stuff though

okay okay gonna get easy now before Red team gets baited

About OP problem, dating someone who already is giving you a hard time even before actual start of dating, this 1st of march deal for nice anniversaries seems quite the silly thing IMO then you should really reconsider things, the worst thing is dedicating your love life to someone who will often step of your tail especialy about such silly stuff like a quicky at the shower.

In other words, the only thing she should be making hard is your disk, not your life