Posted February 21, 2017 Alright so I'm crazy uncomfortable talking about this but I won't be able to sleep without someone else's opinion. So here it goes Basically my 'girlfriend' and I (I put in quotes because we aren't technically dating until the 1st of next month to make it easy to remember, but we act like we are. Idk its weird and off topic) were talking tonight when I said something that I thought was funny that I said to a friend a while ago. I said 'I fap not because it's easy, but because it's hard'. Then things sort of went down hill. She asked if I had done it (come on now. I'm a guy, don't be surprised) and I said yes because I try and be honest with her. And she said it's disgusting and told me to never do it again, and I dropped it because it made her super uncomfortable. So here's the question. What are your thoughts on masturbation (wow it just got weirder). We are both religious but she is much more than I am. I don't see much being wrong with it, but she sees everything wrong with it.) I'm gonna put this in a anonymous poll if you don't want your name here and if you have more to say please comment below or message me if you don't want anything said. (We don't have sex or anything mainly because we both think that needs to wait for marriage and because we are a distance apart, but we don't mind talking about it). So let me know. Once again, sorry if it was super awkward. Also idk if this is allowed but who knows. I've seen some weird stuff here Breaking things 1 day at a time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 5 minutes ago, TubsAlwaysWins said: Alright so I'm crazy uncomfortable talking about this but I won't be able to sleep without someone else's opinion. So here it goes Basically my 'girlfriend' and I (I put in quotes because we aren't technically dating until the 1st of next month to make it easy to remember, but we act like we are. Idk its weird and off topic) were talking tonight when I said something that I thought was funny that I said to a friend a while ago. I said 'I fap not because it's easy, but because it's hard'. Then things sort of went down hill. She asked if I had done it (come on now. I'm a guy, don't be surprised) and I said yes because I try and be honest with her. And she said it's disgusting and told me to never do it again, and I dropped it because it made her super uncomfortable. So here's the question. What are your thoughts on masturbation (wow it just got weirder). We are both religious but she is much more than I am. I don't see much being wrong with it, but she sees everything wrong with it.) I'm gonna put this in a anonymous poll if you don't want your name here and if you have more to say please comment below or message me if you don't want anything said. (We don't have sex or anything mainly because we both think that needs to wait for marriage and because we are a distance apart, but we don't mind talking about it). So let me know. Once again, sorry if it was super awkward. Also idk if this is allowed but who knows. I've seen some weird stuff here I think she's wrong here, There is nothin' wrong with masturbation imo. (I do it lol) Ryzen 5 3600 RX 590 8GB WD Blue 1TB (full specs on profile) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 ask her if she has Good luck, Have fun, Build PC, and have a last gen console for use once a year. I should answer most of the time between 9 to 3 PST NightHawk 3.0: R7 5700x @, B550A vision D, H105, 2x32gb Oloy 3600, Sapphire RX 6700XT Nitro+, Corsair RM750X, 500 gb 850 evo, 2tb rocket and 5tb Toshiba x300, 2x 6TB WD Black W10 all in a 750D airflow. GF PC: (nighthawk 2.0): R7 2700x, B450m vision D, 4x8gb Geli 2933, Strix GTX970, CX650M RGB, Obsidian 350D Skunkworks: R5 3500U, 16gb, 500gb Adata XPG 6000 lite, Vega 8. HP probook G455R G6 Ubuntu 20. LTS Condor (MC server): 6600K, z170m plus, 16gb corsair vengeance LPX, samsung 750 evo, EVGA BR 450. Spirt (NAS) ASUS Z9PR-D12, 2x E5 2620V2, 8x4gb, 24 3tb HDD. F80 800gb cache, trueNAS, 2x12disk raid Z3 stripped PSU Tier List Motherboard Tier List SSD Tier List How to get PC parts cheap HP probook 445R G6 review "Stupidity is like trying to find a limit of a constant. You are never truly smart in something, just less stupid." Camera Gear: X-S10, 16-80 F4, 60D, 24-105 F4, 50mm F1.4, Helios44-m, 2 Cos-11D lavs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 Author 5 minutes ago, Rika Shiguma said: I think she's wrong here, There is nothin' wrong with masturbation imo. (I do it lol) I mean I think the adultery thing could be bad but if I'm not addicted to it and I'm not going at it why care? Idk I sort of needed to rant. Thanks for replying Breaking things 1 day at a time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 Author 2 minutes ago, GDRRiley said: ask her if she has Guarantee she hasn't. Based on her super strong opinion on it Breaking things 1 day at a time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 3 minutes ago, TubsAlwaysWins said: Guarantee she hasn't. Based on her super strong opinion on it just ask and see what she says, she may be a hypocrite on that subject Good luck, Have fun, Build PC, and have a last gen console for use once a year. I should answer most of the time between 9 to 3 PST NightHawk 3.0: R7 5700x @, B550A vision D, H105, 2x32gb Oloy 3600, Sapphire RX 6700XT Nitro+, Corsair RM750X, 500 gb 850 evo, 2tb rocket and 5tb Toshiba x300, 2x 6TB WD Black W10 all in a 750D airflow. GF PC: (nighthawk 2.0): R7 2700x, B450m vision D, 4x8gb Geli 2933, Strix GTX970, CX650M RGB, Obsidian 350D Skunkworks: R5 3500U, 16gb, 500gb Adata XPG 6000 lite, Vega 8. HP probook G455R G6 Ubuntu 20. LTS Condor (MC server): 6600K, z170m plus, 16gb corsair vengeance LPX, samsung 750 evo, EVGA BR 450. Spirt (NAS) ASUS Z9PR-D12, 2x E5 2620V2, 8x4gb, 24 3tb HDD. F80 800gb cache, trueNAS, 2x12disk raid Z3 stripped PSU Tier List Motherboard Tier List SSD Tier List How to get PC parts cheap HP probook 445R G6 review "Stupidity is like trying to find a limit of a constant. You are never truly smart in something, just less stupid." Camera Gear: X-S10, 16-80 F4, 60D, 24-105 F4, 50mm F1.4, Helios44-m, 2 Cos-11D lavs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 Author 1 minute ago, GDRRiley said: just ask and see what she says, she may be a hypocrite on that subject I might eventually But we will see Breaking things 1 day at a time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 Absolutely nothing wrong with it. Don't feel bad for being perfectly normal and healthy. As Stephen Fry put it, "The only people obsessed with food are the anorexic and the morbidly obese." (Drawing the analogy to those who abstain from sex and those who are addicted to it.) I'd go on, but I'm pretty sure I'd get the thread locked haha. My (first) build: i7 4790k | Noctua NH-U14S + NF-A15 | Gigabyte Z97X-SLI | G.Skill Ripjaws X 2x4GB 2133MHz CL9 | Samsung 840 EVO 120GB | Seagate 2TB SSHD | 2x MSI R9 270X TwinFrozr crossfire | Seasonic G Series 750W 80+ Gold | Asus VX238H 23" | GAMDIAS HERMES | Logitech G602 | Steelseries QcK | Windows 8.1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 Author 1 minute ago, kingkickolas said: Absolutely nothing wrong with it. Don't feel bad for being perfectly normal and healthy. As Stephen Fry put it, "The only people obsessed with food are the anorexic and the morbidly obese." (Drawing the analogy to those who abstain from sex and those who are addicted to it.) I'd go on, but I'm pretty sure I'd get the thread locked haha. Lol. The only reason I feel bad is because she doesn't like it and I want to make her happy Breaking things 1 day at a time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 1 minute ago, TubsAlwaysWins said: Lol. The only reason I feel bad is because she doesn't like it and I want to make her happy Then it only depends if you're willing to give that up to make her happy. Personally, I see something like that as a bit coercive and regressive, and a big red flag on the road to crazy town. But again, this is a very nice thread and I don't want to lock it. My (first) build: i7 4790k | Noctua NH-U14S + NF-A15 | Gigabyte Z97X-SLI | G.Skill Ripjaws X 2x4GB 2133MHz CL9 | Samsung 840 EVO 120GB | Seagate 2TB SSHD | 2x MSI R9 270X TwinFrozr crossfire | Seasonic G Series 750W 80+ Gold | Asus VX238H 23" | GAMDIAS HERMES | Logitech G602 | Steelseries QcK | Windows 8.1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 Author 3 minutes ago, kingkickolas said: Then it only depends if you're willing to give that up to make her happy. Personally, I see something like that as a bit coercive and regressive, and a big red flag on the road to crazy town. But again, this is a very nice thread and I don't want to lock it. Lol. If you need to message me Breaking things 1 day at a time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 25 minutes ago, TubsAlwaysWins said: I mean I think the adultery thing could be bad but if I'm not addicted to it and I'm not going at it why care? Idk I sort of needed to rant. Thanks for replying That's really wierd, Idk why she'd be so against this. Perhaps religious? Either way Idk if she's for you if she's that controlling. - snip- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 22 minutes ago, TubsAlwaysWins said: I mean I think the adultery thing could be bad but if I'm not addicted to it and I'm not going at it why care? Idk I sort of needed to rant. Thanks for replying Doing *that* with yourself has nothing to do with adultery. You aren't a bad person because you do that. 8 minutes ago, kingkickolas said: Then it only depends if you're willing to give that up to make her happy. Personally, I see something like that as a bit coercive and regressive, and a big red flag on the road to crazy town. But again, this is a very nice thread and I don't want to lock it. I agree. A healthy relationship is not where the girl steps on you and thinks she can decide what you are or aren't allowed to do. Asking is one thing but trying to be the boss of op is 100% not ok. If this girl has a problem with op doing that then fine if op is ok with stopping but if not then it's time to move on to less controlling pastures. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 Author 1 minute ago, MrDynamicMan said: That's really wierd, Idk why she'd be so against this. Perhaps religious? Either way Idk if she's for you if she's that controlling. She's religious. And she's not that controlling, but we will see Breaking things 1 day at a time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 3 minutes ago, TubsAlwaysWins said: She's religious. And she's not that controlling, but we will see She's trying to decide if you're allowed to touch yourself downstairs dude. That's controlling. People do that to themselves. It's normal. For her to jump right to "you're not allowed to do that because I said so" is not a good sign. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 Let her win, it's really your only option, shes wrong but you cant win Why do you always die right after I fix you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 2 minutes ago, RainColt said: Let her win, it's really your only option, shes wrong but you cant win That's the spirit! - snip- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 I would start looking for a new girlfriend. It's pretty unreasonable to expect someone to not masturbate when expecting them to forgo sex till marriage. i5-4670K ~ RX 470 ~ Z87MX-D3H ~ MX300 525GB ~ CM Hyper 212+ ~ 12GB 1600MHz Ram ~ EarthWatts 650 ~ NZXT GAMMA ~ WD Blue 250GB Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 1 hour ago, TubsAlwaysWins said: So here's the question. What are your thoughts on masturbation RyzenAir : AMD R5 3600 | AsRock AB350M Pro4 | 32gb Aegis DDR4 3000 | GTX 1070 FE | Fractal Design Node 804 RyzenITX : Ryzen 7 1700 | GA-AB350N-Gaming WIFI | 16gb DDR4 2666 | GTX 1060 | Cougar QBX PSU Tier list Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 9 hours ago, TubsAlwaysWins said: Alright so I'm crazy uncomfortable talking about this but I won't be able to sleep without someone else's opinion. So here it goes Basically my 'girlfriend' and I (I put in quotes because we aren't technically dating until the 1st of next month to make it easy to remember, but we act like we are. Idk its weird and off topic) were talking tonight when I said something that I thought was funny that I said to a friend a while ago. I said 'I fap not because it's easy, but because it's hard'. Then things sort of went down hill. She asked if I had done it (come on now. I'm a guy, don't be surprised) and I said yes because I try and be honest with her. And she said it's disgusting and told me to never do it again, and I dropped it because it made her super uncomfortable. So here's the question. What are your thoughts on masturbation (wow it just got weirder). We are both religious but she is much more than I am. I don't see much being wrong with it, but she sees everything wrong with it.) I'm gonna put this in a anonymous poll if you don't want your name here and if you have more to say please comment below or message me if you don't want anything said. (We don't have sex or anything mainly because we both think that needs to wait for marriage and because we are a distance apart, but we don't mind talking about it). So let me know. Once again, sorry if it was super awkward. Also idk if this is allowed but who knows. I've seen some weird stuff here I'm gonna be honest. Your Girlfriend has an unhealthy view of sex - in particular, masturbation. It's 100% normal and healthy for a person - male or female, to do it. If she's uncomfortable with the idea, that's fine. She doesn't have to do it herself. But if she's asking you to "never do it again", then she needs to reconsider her priorities. Or, if you feel like this relationship might become long term, she might need to see a sex therapist to learn a healthy view on personal sexual behaviours. On a side note, while there's nothing inherently wrong with waiting for marriage to have sex, my personal view is that if you are committed, it's probably a good idea to "try it out" before marriage at least once. Sexual compatibility can have a large impact on how successful a marriage is. If, for example, you're not on the same page as your partner, it can create resentment and tension that can rip a marriage apart. If she forces the point that she will not accept you masturbating, then you should honestly break it off, because that's never going to work. For Sale: Meraki Bundle iPhone Xr 128 GB Product Red - HP Spectre x360 13" (i5 - 8 GB RAM - 256 GB SSD) - HP ZBook 15v G5 15" (i7-8850H - 16 GB RAM - 512 GB SSD - NVIDIA Quadro P600) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 9 hours ago, TubsAlwaysWins said: I mean I think the adultery thing could be bad but if I'm not addicted to it and I'm not going at it why care? Idk I sort of needed to rant. Thanks for replying What does Adultery and Masturbation have to do with each other? That's right... nothing at all. 8 hours ago, RainColt said: Let her win, it's really your only option, shes wrong but you cant win No. Because if you "let her win", it'll essentially just create the foundation for a terrible relationship that will inevitably end badly. 8 hours ago, noobadin said: I would start looking for a new girlfriend. It's pretty unreasonable to expect someone to not masturbate when expecting them to forgo sex till marriage. Agreed. Hell, forcing someone to not masturbate while also abstaining until marriage is a recipe for disaster. @TubsAlwaysWins, I hope you've both taken a full and complete sexual education course in school. If she's against masturbation, I'd question what else she hasn't been educated on. For Sale: Meraki Bundle iPhone Xr 128 GB Product Red - HP Spectre x360 13" (i5 - 8 GB RAM - 256 GB SSD) - HP ZBook 15v G5 15" (i7-8850H - 16 GB RAM - 512 GB SSD - NVIDIA Quadro P600) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 8 hours ago, RainColt said: Let her win, it's really your only option, shes wrong but you cant win Winning can totally be 'Being single and not dating someone who wants to control weather you masturbate or not'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 13 minutes ago, dalekphalm said: I'm gonna be honest. Your Girlfriend has an unhealthy view of sex - in particular, masturbation. It's 100% normal and healthy for a person - male or female, to do it. If she's uncomfortable with the idea, that's fine. She doesn't have to do it herself. But if she's asking you to "never do it again", then she needs to reconsider her priorities. Or, if you feel like this relationship might become long term, she might need to see a sex therapist to learn a healthy view on personal sexual behaviours. If she forces the point that she will not accept you masturbating, then you should honestly break it off, because that's never going to work. Some, very religious, people won't even consider marrying someone who isn't a virgin because sex before marriage isn't "allowed". Masturbation is kind of in the same boat as that. So, I could understand why a very religious person might have a problem with their significant other doing it (and it also shows you're in very different religious places). PSU Tier List | CoC Gaming Build | FreeNAS Server Spoiler i5-4690k || Seidon 240m || GTX780 ACX || MSI Z97s SLI Plus || 8GB 2400mhz || 250GB 840 Evo || 1TB WD Blue || H440 (Black/Blue) || Windows 10 Pro || Dell P2414H & BenQ XL2411Z || Ducky Shine Mini || Logitech G502 Proteus Core Spoiler FreeNAS 9.3 - Stable || Xeon E3 1230v2 || Supermicro X9SCM-F || 32GB Crucial ECC DDR3 || 3x4TB WD Red (JBOD) || SYBA SI-PEX40064 sata controller || Corsair CX500m || NZXT Source 210. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 1 minute ago, djdwosk97 said: Some, very religious, people won't even consider marrying someone who isn't a virgin because sex before marriage isn't "allowed". Masturbation is kind of in the same boat as that. So, I could understand why a very religious person might have a problem with their significant other doing it (and it also shows you're in very different religious places). Generally speaking, those people live in a country with a culture that encourages that backwards behaviour. I assumed the OP was from a western nation (I of course could be wrong), and thus, that line of thought would be considered out of date, and extremely unhealthy for your psyche. For Sale: Meraki Bundle iPhone Xr 128 GB Product Red - HP Spectre x360 13" (i5 - 8 GB RAM - 256 GB SSD) - HP ZBook 15v G5 15" (i7-8850H - 16 GB RAM - 512 GB SSD - NVIDIA Quadro P600) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Posted February 21, 2017 1 minute ago, dalekphalm said: Generally speaking, those people live in a country with a culture that encourages that backwards behaviour. I assumed the OP was from a western nation (I of course could be wrong), and thus, that line of thought would be considered out of date, and extremely unhealthy for your psyche. Even in the US there are plenty of people with that belief. (of course, it's still only really the ultra religious) PSU Tier List | CoC Gaming Build | FreeNAS Server Spoiler i5-4690k || Seidon 240m || GTX780 ACX || MSI Z97s SLI Plus || 8GB 2400mhz || 250GB 840 Evo || 1TB WD Blue || H440 (Black/Blue) || Windows 10 Pro || Dell P2414H & BenQ XL2411Z || Ducky Shine Mini || Logitech G502 Proteus Core Spoiler FreeNAS 9.3 - Stable || Xeon E3 1230v2 || Supermicro X9SCM-F || 32GB Crucial ECC DDR3 || 3x4TB WD Red (JBOD) || SYBA SI-PEX40064 sata controller || Corsair CX500m || NZXT Source 210. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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