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Posted · Original PosterOP

Here's the scenario:

 

You're invited by your friend(s)/colleague(s), not necessarily very close, to the birthday party of their young child and you have accepted their invitation.  Due to either their religion or culture or just simple beliefs the host family does not consume alcohol at all and you are aware of this fact.  Though they decide to have the party in a public park so that the children (of other guests) who will be coming to the party can have fun, they have informed all invitees that the party will be non-alcoholic.  What do you do?

  1. You attend the party and abide by their request that there will not be any alcohol served and even though you are a person who cannot go a single day without drinking at least 1 glass of wine you will endure being non-alcoholic for a couple of hours.
  2. You decide not to go.
  3. You tell yourself that the party is being held in a public location and they can't tell you what to do or not do, you decide to bring a bottle of alcohol.
  4. You tell yourself that the party is being held in a public location and they can't tell you what to do or not do, you decide to bring a bottle of alcohol disguised as a bottle of soda or something. (Essentially similar to No. 3 but with an added twist).
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It’s easy: I’d respect their wishes if I went or not go at all. I’m not a dickhead and I don’t drink alcohol so it’s easy for me to respect the wish of having a non-alcoholic party.


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25 minutes ago, Dan Castellaneta said:

It’s easy: I’d respect their wishes if I went or not go at all. I’m not a dickhead and I don’t drink alcohol so it’s easy for me to respect the wish of having a non-alcoholic party.

I personally agree with you too, and I do drink.  I would go and respect the wishes of the hosts.  I have this one friend going around telling people that the couple hosting the party for their child has no right to ban alcohol because the party is being held at a public venue.  And this friend has supposedly studied international relations and political science in school and has also given lectures on said subjects.

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If it is a big deal to go a couple hours without a drink then something tells me they need way more than at least one glass of wine a day.

 

If it is their kid's party and they are asking the person to attend then there is really no point to show up if the person in question can't abide by their wishes. That said, it's dumb to ask someone not to drink in a public place and I would never do that to someone. Don't force your beliefs on other people.

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frankly: Easy answer.

1. It's a kid's birthday party and in a public place...

2. Of course it's non-alcohol

3. I accepted to come knowing it would be a non-acohol party

4. Of course, as I've accepted I won't drink alcohol...

 

I mean... It's a KIDS party...

 

I just don't understand what the question is exactly...

 

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I don't drink much, but even if I did I would do my absolute best to show sober and leave sober.


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6 hours ago, Cora_Lie said:

frankly: Easy answer.

1. It's a kid's birthday party and in a public place...

2. Of course it's non-alcohol

3. I accepted to come knowing it would be a non-acohol party

4. Of course, as I've accepted I won't drink alcohol...

 

I mean... It's a KIDS party...

 

I just don't understand what the question is exactly...

 

basically this

is there some kind of rule that you must get drunk if you attend a party or something?

 

if you don't like it, you can always just not attend or after party go somewhere you can drink all you want

 

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I would obviously go and abide by the rule. Unless you're a crippling alcoholic, there's no reason to not attend and have some fun without needing booze.

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Posted · Original PosterOP
20 hours ago, Kawaii Koneko said:

 

 

20 hours ago, Cora_Lie said:

 

 

14 hours ago, Bananasplit_00 said:

 

 

13 hours ago, RyomaSJibenG said:

 

 

8 hours ago, seoz said:

 

My view is simple: while the event is indeed taking place at a public venue and not in private property like a house, the event itself though is a private event being hosted by the family and they do have the right to dictate or request that guests abide by certain conditions.  They are not telling people to give up drinking for the rest of their lives.  It would be the same as if it was a wedding and everyone was informed or expected to wear something formal and not show up in a Hawaiian shirt, shorts and sandals.

 

The friend I mentioned in my previous comment was going around trying to get people to support her decision to go with Option 4 saying she was going to bring wine disguised in a soda bottle

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Haha, who drinks at a kids party? I mean, I'd drink if I had to attend my sister's kids party, but that's only because I don't like kids.

I had to go to a friends 18 year old sister's birthday...I count that as a kids party. And there too, I was most definitely drunk.

 

They allow public drunkenness and drinking where this is taking place? I'd have assumed that's not even allowed.


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1 minute ago, dizmo said:

Haha, who drinks at a kids party? I mean, I'd drink if I had to attend my sister's kids party, but that's only because I don't like kids.

I had to go to a friends 18 year old sister's birthday...I count that as a kids party. And there too, I was most definitely drunk.

 

They allow public drunkenness and drinking where this is taking place? I'd have assumed that's not even allowed.

It's Europe, minimum drinking age is a bit lower than in the US and as long as you're not acting disorderly you can drink in a public park.

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I don't understand why the premise is that I would attend the birthday party of some kid. Why would I do that? If it's a kids party, there's no point for adults to hang around, too.

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Personally, I would abide by their wishes. If it really mattered that much to you, you could have a drink beforehand or leave before the party's end to grab something to drink. As the party is for their kid, and the parents specifically requested no alcohol, it would be disrespectful to show up to their event with alcohol.

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2 hours ago, LaFemmeEnVert said:

It's Europe, minimum drinking age is a bit lower than in the US and as long as you're not acting disorderly you can drink in a public park.

Interesting. Still, I think it'd be really awkward to be the only one drinking. Then again, I see it as more of a social thing. If that person needs to drink to be out and about, they likely have a substance abuse problem, whether they want to admit it or not.


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On 8/14/2019 at 12:10 AM, LaFemmeEnVert said:

Here's the scenario:

 

You're invited by your friend(s)/colleague(s), not necessarily very close, to the birthday party of their young child and you have accepted their invitation.  Due to either their religion or culture or just simple beliefs the host family does not consume alcohol at all and you are aware of this fact.  Though they decide to have the party in a public park so that the children (of other guests) who will be coming to the party can have fun, they have informed all invitees that the party will be non-alcoholic.  What do you do?

  1. You attend the party and abide by their request that there will not be any alcohol served and even though you are a person who cannot go a single day without drinking at least 1 glass of wine you will endure being non-alcoholic for a couple of hours.
  2. You decide not to go.
  3. You tell yourself that the party is being held in a public location and they can't tell you what to do or not do, you decide to bring a bottle of alcohol.
  4. You tell yourself that the party is being held in a public location and they can't tell you what to do or not do, you decide to bring a bottle of alcohol disguised as a bottle of soda or something. (Essentially similar to No. 3 but with an added twist).

If you cant go a single day without alcohol then you should be getting help with your alcoholism, thats really not a good way to be. If you cant abide by their wishes stay the hell away and dont risk ruining the party over something so stupid like alcohol.


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If you need alcohol just take a drink before hand, but I'd say respect their wishes.


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Thanks for the responses, I asked because I wasn't sure whether the social rules and etiquette I was raised with were the norm in this day and age or whether things have changed.  I've been accused of being "patronizing" or toxic for following the rules of etiquette my parents raised me with and I see my peers do and behave how ever they want whether they are in a formal or informal situation.  At my current age, I spent nearly 65% of my life growing up part of a diplomatic family experiencing different cultures, social rules, etiquette and protocol and I work in a very international city.  And I encounter people who think only their culture or social rules are "correct", especially people from certain western countries and usually from people younger.

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I wouldn't go, simple as that.

 

Hard enough with alcohol, imagine it without... children really isn't my strong.


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I'm amazed that the question even had to be asked.


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Alcohol tastes like urine. Please stop drinking piss. 

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it's okay to not drink, i guess. im not a heavy drinker and i only do beers. i would carry some my of favourite asian pops to them. it's their party, dont make a scene about it.

 

but the real thing is, i hate public gathering esp parties like this. i would politely reject their invitation if you have the choice.


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