Thank you, this is kind of what I was looking for, some solution that would be safe and effective. I still need to figure out what software to use. Windows Remote options are....difficult, and TeamViewer is not always reliable. I question the availability of good "for home use" remote management software, but that might be my next step.
I am not going to rely on Windows defender. She is 12 and sadly, probably a little gullible. I want to restrict installation of anything without permission.
Thanks for the ideas. Sorry I took so long to reply, I'm a non-traditional student, and school has been a little hectic.