I'm planning to buy an XR500 from Netgear but I've seen a lot of people saying it's not worth it because the hardware is outdated and it's support is not the best. I really like the customization of DumaOS and quite frankly that's my main reason for choosing that router. I'm not comfortable buying the low end one but I'm also not spending 500$ on something that I won't actually use (the XR700). Some of the marketing points they use are pretty compelling and eye-catching. In particular their "Anti-Buffer Bloat" which seems like a nice thing to have. That might just be a fancy name for something most new routers have, not sure about that one.
I'm looking for opinions on the XR500 or any good alternatives with decent QoS settings and a good OS. Not looking for anything overkill, just a good router to improve gaming experience, with other people downloading/streaming content at the same time (or not).
Also, are there any "gaming" focused router/modem combos that are worth buying?
Currently I have a ZyXEL VMG5313-B30A router/modem provided by my ISP. It's. Fucking. Abominable.
If there aren't any good gaming r/m combos I'm more than comfortable converting the one I have right now to be used just as a modem. It's not something I have done before but I'm always up for a challenge and some learning.
^^That being said, I do want something new with latest mainstream technology that will easily last for 5 years (or more).
Some notes on usage/nice things to have:
QoS that's "optimized" for gaming (if that's even a thing but I think most of you will know what I mean)
5GHz support
dual-band WiFi (at least)
WiFi 6 would be a nice future-proof thing to have but not necessary
an OS that's at least correctly categorized and makes sense
being able to use a VPN on the router (or modem, not sure where that would go) if that's possible
decent security
being able to see which devices is using how much bandwidth and on what would be amazing but also not necessary
PC and PS4 connected via a wire, 6+ devices connected via WiFi (mix of laptops, TVs and phones)
router would be placed in the corner of the house with anything connected via a wire being in the same room
tl;dr I'm here to get some help and get educated on things mentioned without dealing with biased and/or false information. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong on anything. Also, none of the recommendations need to have gaming as a marketing point, I'm using that word to best describe my use case.
Please suggest things that aren't available just on Amazon. I've seen import fees and shipping costs to Croatia above 100$ (from the US at least)...