I know this means nothing coming from a random person on the forum, but I really hope you get through this! Sometimes it might feel like the end of the world, but sometimes situations like that start something new and great and I hope it happens to you as well.

It's really hard... the worse part is that we always get to the point it's too meaningful so when it's stripped away from you at once like that... gosh... you lose your north...

I want to try keeping it together... I know life will go on though this "start" certainly is rough...

I fully understand why it's extremely rough for you, it always is. After my last breakup I wasn't interested in any relationships for over two years because of how hard it hit me, it gets better with time though... Different people need different time periods to get better though, it all depends on the situation and circumstances.

I wish all the best for you because you deserve what's best. Remember that!

Thank you very much... You've always been a friend in here and any word of comfort on a moment so sad is welcome... unfortunately I might be one of those people that sure take their time...

The first month is the worst - but if you get through that, then you'll get through everything else. If you ever feel the need to talk to someone and you don't have anyone "better", you know where to find me! Good luck with everything...

I think I can only say one thing here because @Morgan MLGman said about everything and I never experienced a breakup before

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Thanks Luke, we have seen each other quite often at the forum too haven't we? You paying respects does mean a lot to me...

quite often is a understatement... I can't name exact numbers, but those would be pretty high...

Do not feel bad for having to take time to recover from this. Five years is not an insignificant amount of time to spend with someone. Healing processes are different for everyone but if you find one reason a day to smile, slowly but surely the dark clouds will pass. 

I haven't been through this, so by internet standards I'm an expert on the matter...

Having said that, I have had rough patches in my relationship, and one thing that I recommend is really taking some self reflecting time to think about the good parts of the relationship. What you loved about them. Not everything will last forever, but everything good that ends can be a learning experience and a happy memory. Enjoy what you had and don't let it be a negative thing. Also the biggest thing is simply to talk to people. You're more than welcome to talk with me about any of it. I'll be an impartial outsider and I'll do my best to help you through this

and I'll just f all around the place

I know exactly what shoes you're in. I was in a similar relationship, except we had a wedding date planned (maybe you did too, idk). But when we parted ways, I became nothing. Literally, my future fell apart and I had no hope to move forward. It's been over 2 years now since we broke up, but I'm sort of starting to get my life back together. I have a potential future now (despite it not being final) and I can look up again. When I fell, I fell hard. I attempted my life which didn't work (and I'm thankful for that now) and when I was healed, I just slept my days away. I'd sleep for about 12-14hrs on average. I gained a lot of weight and wasn't taking care of myself. I had failed out of college and soon after that, I quit my job due to my, now fired, supervisor being mentally and verbally abusive. I was without work for almost 6 months, and now have a new job finally. I also am enrolling in flight school, a very tough decision, but one I am passionate about. I still may fail though (books are not my thing) so that part of my future is still bleak. But the only advice I know to give is this: Live your life by the day. Your friends want to go camping all the sudden? Go. Your friends are meeting up last minute at a restaurant? Go. Go with the wind, and don't try and plan too much. Be with your friends more, as often as you can. They'll help you through this. In fact, I didn't have a real group of friends until my relationship ended. After it happened, my coworker (now my best friend) invited me to dinner with his friends. Now, we're all one small group of friends. I admit, as they get married and I sit here knowing what I do, I just have to forget life and keep walking the walk. I'm glad you reached out, because we're all here for you, and you're more than welcome to message me if you need. 

@TempestCatto sorry to hear you went through that. I hope things continue to look up for you

@Jtalk4456 Thank you!

i might have something to cheer you up a bit

Repeat this over and over 

"There is more to life than love"

In the days / weeks / months to come, be sure to do other things that could take your mind off of the break up. And always remind yourself that there are worse problems ahead that you may face and this isn't the only hurdle you need to surpass. Trust me on this one. I've been in your shoes more than once. 

One more thing, initiate the "No Contact Rule". Meaning no ANYTHING from your ex. Do not contact the person. Ignore the persons attempts to contact you. This rule is by no means a technique to get him back. It's a technique to make yourself a better person.

Don't even fantasize of you and that person getting back together. 

Keep your feet firm on the ground. No relapses, no wishful thinking. 

I sound harsh to some extent, but this is the reality that you are currently living in. That person is gone in your life. And you shouldn't let yourself be pulled down by what happened.

Easier said than done, right? But at least it's something to start with. 

Staying occupied and instituting/maintaining routine is a must - even the most boring of work can pass time until your grey clouds pass - whatever you do , eat well with healthy food - even try be adventurous in the culinary department with fresh ingredients. Also - take exercise - classes are good like spin, boxercise or gym circuit-training  - they enable you to maintain physical fitness , improve your mental state and can assist your social well-being too. If needed , take counselling to express feelings of hurt , anger, blunted expectations or disappointments - then work with the counsellor to strategise how to overcome dwelling over any negative thoughts and move on. If these non-medicinal techniques are not giving rise to improvements in your mood over a period of say six to eight weeks , then certainly consult your GP (family doctor) to assess for benefits of medical intervention (like oral medications) - hope this helps.