EthanTheFrogMan

me "my computer is so heavy it has many drives in it"
 
mom "your sure its not gonna blow up right"
 
LOL just now

lol 709 pages. Anyhow, I(I am in New Mexico) was on the phone with my Grandmother(she is in Michigan). she stated that her laptops internet was slow (it is Ethernet connected), so I offered to take a look at her Comcast bill and see if she can get a faster speed in there area (assuming they had like 6Mbps or something terrible). She said she did not want to scan it and send it to me because it takes too long, so I asked her what internet plan it says she has, after 45 minutes I found out she had 120Mbps (VS my 50Mbps which is the highest I can get here). I told her she had a very fast speed, she responded: "Ok, I think it may need a new battery or screen or something." FACEPALM

If you are old enough to drive you are old enough to fix it.
Tell your Mother about it but since you don't pay any bills you need to be respectful and defer to what ever judgement she makes.

mm, insurance fraud, that's a good idea!

You can also check craigslist for parted out vehicles. I like doing so for finding cheap factory parts, typically for interior work but each parted out vehicle is different.

The car is in my name, cause I bought it from my dad. When he gets home he is going to look at the damage

that's why you need to ask your dad.

Are you still in High School? If so, you should not be responsible for her mistakes (Not that you should be even if you were an adult, but if you were staying at home for free as an adult, then there would be some leeway).
I disagree. Sure, he's hold enough to fix it. But why should he? He's young, and his mom caused the damage.
I don't know hot it works where you are from, but here in Canada, and in the US, most car insurance policies have something called a Deductible. It's a set cash amount that you have to pay out of pocket before your insurance kicks in. Here in Canada, $500 is the most common deductible. Your Insurance Premium (The amount you pay per month) is affected by your deductible. Higher deductible, lower premium. You can in fact have no deductible at all, but the insurance rates become quite expensive as a result. Furthermore, as a young male under 20, his rates are gonna be expensive enough as it is.
 
So, assuming he has a deductible, then he can't claim it with his insurance anyway, as it's too minor a problem.

Put a sign on the garage wall... right in front of her car.
 
Objects in Mirror are closer than they appear... Please take your time.
 
 
Callous... maybe, but it beats you having to bring it up yourself and is a constant reminder "in the moment" right then and there.

In the eyes of the law, since the car is under your name, she would absolutely be responsible for the damages. Last I checked, the law doesn't provide such leeway for living under someone's roof rent-free. (IE, No free pass to damage property) Calling up your insurance co would be a start if you want to go down this (admittedly blunt) route. 
 
That said, as I don't know your mom, at best, I can gather that she's close to the airhead sort, the morality aspect falls to you. 

Being a whiney dick and being mature have nothing to do with an irresponsible mother who damaged her sons car (twice, I might add) and just said "Oh" when he casually mentions it.
 
You call just ignoring that mature? Being a whiney dick really depends on how he actually confronts her about it and deals with the situation. They don't necessarily have to go hand in hand.

Certainly, it is true that some kids are whiney bastards. But we cannot assume that for every one of them. And from what we've seen here in this thread, I see no indication of him being whiney or immature.
 
It might be her house, but that doesn't mean she can damage his property - and even if she could, she shouldn't. I assume it happened out of carelessness, not malice, but never the less, that doesn't make it okay. If I was his age and my mom or dad hit my car, I would talk to them about it. Screaming at them and demanding they pay probably won't help, but I would definitely still talk to them about it. Have a calm, rational discussion. Note that it has happened a few times, and that he would appreciate if she helped pay for the repairs - something like that.

well than THATS a problem with YOUR parenting, there is no reason for someone to pay to fix someone elses mistake if it is not their responsibility to do so

You're ignoring the issue. Your daughter might be a model student, but she should not have to pay for and fix something that was your mistake. Or at best, she should trust that you'll reimburse her for the cost of repairs, so she gets it fixed knowing that you'll do the right thing.
 
Honestly, talking about how she does Jujitsu and is a proficient pistol and rifle shot? What in god's name does that have to do with anything? So she has some hobbies that she's very good at. That's great. I'm sure you're very proud. But I fail to see the relevance of them.
 
I suppose we should drop it, since you failed to explain to any reasonable degree why you think that the teenage child should pay (without reimbursement) to fix for something that the working parent damaged, acknowledged with an "Oh", and then went on as if nothing happened.

mm, insurance fraud, that's a good idea!

well than THATS a problem with YOUR parenting, there is no reason for someone to pay to fix someone elses mistake if it is not their responsibility to do so

mm, insurance fraud, that's a good idea!

well than THATS a problem with YOUR parenting, there is no reason for someone to pay to fix someone elses mistake if it is not their responsibility to do so

As it would seem, you hold your daughter to a higher standard than you do for yourself, or at least, judging by your comments here. Seems quite the double standard for you to expect your daughter to own up to her responsibilities, but not own up to them yourself.
 
Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, however, I'd like this clarified for everyone's sake.

OK
 
So, you smash into her car, damaging it.... you expect her to get to work fixing it

and you take zero responsibility for your actions? you dont help financially for the repair? or even give her a hand fixing it? and if she complains that will "piss you off"
 
Oh but its ok because she is a good rifle shooter and has a martial arts hobby... because that is relevant to everything
 
Whining? Nobody likes a narcissist either

So rather than admit to your mistakes as a driver (causing damage to another vehicle), you're just going to make further mistakes as a parent by simply playing the "respect your elders" card and calling it a day? That attitude can be easily summed up by the old time-worn phrase; "don't do as I do, do as I say". Wonderful.
 
I'm not fond of whiners, but I really don't like parents who treat their children as insubordinate employees. Being a parent does not magically make you impervious to making poor decisions: on the contrary in fact - how you deal with your mistakes can be a life lesson for your kids - or perhaps you don't believe in leading by example?

At OP

Speak to your mum regarding reimbursement, she SHOULD take responsibility and pay for repairs, its only fair

if my dad broke something of mine he would happily pay for replacement if it was his fault

if she is being unreasonable, ask for her insurance details and claim that way - you could always say you will go through insurance, and she might pay up as its likely cheaper than the insurance company chasing it
 
 

If my mom would have fucked up my car she would have apologized and offered to pay for the repair cost outright. Depending on the amount I would either just say I can handle it myself or I'd let her help me pay som of it. If your mom can't be honest with you about fucking up your car I'm sorry to say but there might be bigger issues at hand. If she should pay for it though, if its her fault sure, then again, she's your mom and you have to take a few things into account. For instance, if she doesn't have too much money, I wouldn't ask if anything I'd discuss it with her and throw the balls to her so she can offer a solution to it. If you live at home and pay little to no rent I would ask her very politely if she wanna cover some of it atleast. If you absolutely hate your moms face, take it to court. Its always hard what to do in situations like this, I generally find that talking about it and coming to a mutual agreement is the best for the relationship. Try to make it simple as possible and try not to make it into a proper argument because mom's are girls too and they suck up everything during an argument and will use it against you in the court of law or the livingroom the next time you argue, which you inevitably will, because its human nature pretty much. It really depends and you have to make the call for what would be the best option in the situation you are in and the situation your mom is in. For instance, if your mom is stressed, don't even think about it, just pay the cost and perhaps talk about it later. Like, I don't know all the details around it, I don't know you, or your mom or how long it was since they split up or how hard it was either. And I've heard about cases where parents tend to use their kids as a cannonball to hurt their ex, could be that. Asking other for input is all good, but don't choose the solution with the most likes, choose a solution you feel its best, its your car, your mom and you life.

Some serious mental gymnastics going on in here, wow.
 
I am afraid some people view the social world as a set of ultimatums.  A place where the "strong" eat the "weak".  Some people embrace this idea seeing themselves as the strong.  If you are strong, you don't have to answer to no one.  If you do something wrong to someone, by the will of Darwin, they must overpower you or take a knee to your dominance.
 
That would be one fucked up society indeed... ...
 
A load of horseshit in my book.  This is an ideology a child under 10 could process out by gathering proper evidence from their surroundings.

well than THATS a problem with YOUR parenting, there is no reason for someone to pay to fix someone elses mistake if it is not their responsibility to do so