Chag4

What they actually still ban people from church for being gay?
I'm from Norway too, but I was raised by atheist parents who kept me from any indoctrination by the school as I grew up. So I have very little experience with churches, but I really thought banning people for that was long gone.
I mean I thought gay marriage was a thing here now? (not really keeping track) And I thought there were openly gay priests too?

Talk about it?

Talk about it?

Talk about it?

Talk about it?

Talk about it?

Hi, I'm omnisexual or something.

Sounds like she only cares about herself and not your feelings. People like that make me mad.

Sounds like she only cares about herself and not your feelings. People like that make me mad.

I had my first boyfriend when I was 17. The relationship lasted a little over a year, and I am so damn happy it ended. I was obsessively in love and it really fucked up how I acted. I was stupid and abusive and the relationship was really unhealthy for both of us and I regret so much. It really put me off love and gave me even more commitment issues than I already had. He broke it off as I was still obsessively in love and I spent a year or something getting over it. I still remember how colorless the world looked for a while. But when I got out of the fog of obsessive infatuation I got more and more horrified at how I had been acting and feeling, and more and more relieved at it being over and getting over the emotions of it as well.
We don't really keep in contact but I've seen him occasionally and it's still really uncomfortable, but there are no hard feelings at least.
 
My second relationship was a very casual one, from my side at least, with a guy who was 23 when I was 19. It lasted some months, I don't remember exactly, and ended because he moved away to go to University. I was trying my best to keep him at a distance and the whole relationship mostly revolved around sex. I visited 2-3 times a week and we did little else. I was very comfortable with keeping it casual and I still consider it a very happy and successful relationship for me except for not being too clear on boundaries and not very well able to enforce them. I'm bad at saying no. I prefered staying only a few hours, but he seemed to want more out of it and I eventually gave in and started staying the night. I regret that we didn't ever sit down to talk about anything. I was real bad at communication.
 
I'm now in a very happy realationship of over a year. It's sortof long distance. He spends most of the year away at Uni. I liked him for a looooong time before we got together. About a year of serious crushing and even longer of being interrested/hot for him. Even after two relationships and pretty diverse experiences in my opinion, I still felt like a little virgin girl again. I planned all sorts of elaborate ways to get him alone somehwere so I could seduce him, but never managed to go through with it I was so nervous. Finally I pretty much just cracked and threw myself at him and we have been together since.
I've really worked hard at communicating this time because I wanted this one to really last, and fortunately he feels the same. It's actually kind of easy when you find someone you fit with, and we are really alike, both in our interests and what we want.
I feel like I am the most mature I have ever been in this relationship. It feels safe and like it is making me better.
 
Damn that turned into a really sappy sort of rant.
Anyways, I feel like I have learned a TON from relationships. Mainly not to let my heart run away with me and keep my brain at hand, to be firm with my boundaries and think about things and talk about things before you jump into it, and to communicate all the way and be honest about all the things.
 
Wow yeah, reading some of this after it's really sappy. I feel really uncomfortable now. I'm sortof not that into sharing emotions and not used to being open about my girly side at all. Also it's like 3.30 at night.

In my experience girls work pretty similarly to guys, just with tits.